Having drinks with your date? You can do better!
You want a more exciting activity.
With your girlfriend or for a first date.
Let’s get right into it:
- Ultimate guide with 35 exciting date ideas
- Active date activities divided into 3 categories, so you can find them quickly
- Sensual date activities to grow closer to each other
- Enough ideas to even have an exciting date at home
- Pro tips to prepare you if this is your first date
The article is divided into 3 parts:
- Exciting and original activities: original date-ideas with an element of excitement
- Thrilling active dates: exciting dates that take some physical effort
- Fantastic home activities: Dates that tend to be more sensually, perfect to do at home
Make sure to check out the entire list to gain inspiration for exciting dates.
Part 1: Exciting and original activities
This is when you want to go out on a thrilling date together without sweating a lake.
In the following section you’ll find exciting date activities that require some physical effort.
And after that, you’ll also get spicy indoor date ideas.
Now first; laidback, original and exciting dates.
Idea 1: Boat trip for two
Nothing is more exciting than sailing the waters together in a boat.
I would certainly advise you to go somewhere where you don’t easily meet others. As this only increases the positive tension between you.
It’s just the two of you, and you can’t just go somewhere because you’re surrounded by water.
It’s fun to splash each other with water or to wiggle the boat for some extra thrills.
Thrills during a date are good for the vibe between you two.
Idea 2: Cycling
Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it?
Not if you’re thinking of cycling a regular bike.
That’s why you should rent a tandem bike, very popular among the Dutch.
Hiring a bike is also highly advisable when you’re going to explore a new city together.
This will provide for an exciting activity together.
Idea 3: Go to the fun fair
You can’t go to the fun fair every day of the year.
However, whenever you can, you should.
Perfect for a thrilling first date.
Clearly a lot of fun when your date thinks the attractions are all just a bit too exciting.
That’s why it’s perfect for bonding.
Without getting too cliché, finish your visit by winning her a large teddy bear.
It’ll all be worth it then.
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Idea 4: Fright night
Perfect for a date at home.
Especially during the winter, when it gets dark early.
If you want to do this in the summer, make sure to make the room nice and dark. For specials effects; turn off the heating and all displays with digital clocks.
Zero light allowed.
The only thing that’s allowed to emit light are the candles you light, or maybe a flashlight.
Get in bed together and watch a horror movie. Or scare the crap out of each other by telling creepy stories. Take some Reddit stories for example, they’re better than you think.
Like I said:
It’s amazing creeping out in bed together, or combining it with a massage or fun and exciting questions you can ask each other.
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Idea 5: Looking at the stars together
Head outside in the middle of the night to watch the stars.
Preferably a large open place that feels abandoned.
Your backyard won’t make a great place for watching the stars.
When you’re lying next to each other on the ground (which is advisable for your neck)…
…you tell each other what you spot.
Maybe other exciting stories will pop up, stories that you’ve never told each other.
Stardust has the ability of creating a deep connection between you two.
Idea 6: Night walk
Surely you have walked through a park or a forest with your date once.
However, this was during daytime.
Not extremely exciting, unless the tension between you two was very high from the start.
Just so that the first kiss could happen at any moment.
To make a walk in the park (or forest) exciting, you want to do it at night.
Nice and late so you’ll not cross anyone.
Every untraceable noise that you’ll hear in the middle of the night will cause goosebumps.
Idea 7: Discover a new city
I already mentioned it with the tandem bike renting.
Discovering a new city, one that you both don’t know, is an exciting activity.
Every street you enter is new, and you never know what beautiful places you come across.
Have a drink every now and then and check out the harbor.
Idea 8: Ice-skating
Perfect during the winter.
Visit your local ice-skating track and you have yourself a full date.
Drink hot chocolate and glühwein.
Jump on the ice and skate around together.
Especially exciting when you’re both rookies.
Definitely make sure to skate hand-in-hand too, as this will substantially increase your chances of falling on each other 😉
Idea 9: Skating
If ice-skating is not an option, it can be replaced by regular skating.
The same rules as in ice-skating apply.
However, I would discourage skating hand-in-hand.
Falling on asphalt is much less pleasurable than falling on ice.
You can often find a skate organization that organize a skate-trip one evening a week in larger cities.
At times over one-hundred people with lights and music join this trip.
Heck, I know a night skate in Paris that sometimes gathers a thousand people
Idea 10: The beach
The beach is an exciting place for various reasons.
First off, you’re already wearing fewer clothes which positively influences the excitement.
Besides, you can do all sorts of lovely things on the beach.
Like: building sandcastles, digging each other in, enjoying the waves (while pushing each other in the water) or flying a kite.
Have a drink in one of the beach huts every now and then, or take some of your own consumptions for a sandy picnic.
And don’t forget to lotion each other with some suntan.
Idea 11: Mudflat hiking (wadlopen)
Mudflat hiking is an exciting activity that just so happens to be popular in the Netherlands.
Take advantage of that.
Being the tourist in your own country is something many men forget when they have a date.
Still, there’re countless date ideas here, much better than just having a drink.
Idea 12: Watching the sunset/rise
There’s magic in seeing the sunrise or set.
An exciting activity for various reasons.
Everybody associates romance with sunrise or sunset. That’ll guarantee a positive tension.
Besides, it’s easy to combine with other things:
- Experience it on the beach
- Visit a rooftop terrace and experience it there
- Go for a night picnic alongside the sunset
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Part 2: Exciting active dates
Here they come.
The exciting date ideas that require some physical effort.
Many of these activities can be done together, which is extra fun. Or against each other if you desire, which makes for a healthy dose of competition.
Choose one and you’ll definitely have a cool date with her.
Idea 13: Arcade hall
Competition is always exciting.
That’s why you should go to an arcade hall together.
Challenge each other for a game of air hockey, zombie-killing, whack-a-mole, racing or dancing.
Then see who’s the king (or queen) of the game floor.
Increase the tension by making a bet with your date. The loser gets to pay the drinks in the next café.
Tension creates bonding, also it helps you verify mutual trust.
An active date and Escape rooms can be found throughout the entire country.
There’s most definitely one close by.
Escape room locations often provide go-karts or laser gaming as well. Combine them for an entire day of fun.
Idea 14: Hot-air balloon trip
Do you want to make her your girlfriend or wife…?
…or do you want to overcome your, or her, vertigo?
Make a trip in a hot-air balloon.
I’ve never done it, but make sure to send me a selfie with your date telling me how it was.
Idea 15: Bungee jumping
For when you prefer staying a little closer to the ground…
…or the water actually.
Then go bungee jumping.
Experience an exciting free fall, before being caught by the rope.
Cool thing is: you often can jump together by the means of a duo-jump.
Idea 16: Amusement park
Scream your lungs out in a rollercoaster or in the haunted house.
This makes an incredible date because of all the attractions you can enter together.
I highly discourage this date when you just got to know her.
This is more like date #5. She’ll be madly in love with you afterwards because of all the impressions she received and the excitement and fun she had.
f you want to completely impress her, and subtly hint her you want her as your GF, go to one of the amusement parks with a magical feeling to them.
Idea 17: Escape room
Try an escape room for an exciting date.
Work together to find the exit within the designated time.
Because of the time pressure, the set atmosphere and necessary cooperation, this’ll be an exciting date, guaranteed.
Idea 18: Glow golf
Taking drugs can be exciting.
However, not very healthy. Not something I’ll recommend you to do.
Still want to experience a similar trip?
Then go glow golfing.
A game of midget golf while everything lights up in neon colors.
Smuggle in a small bottle of wine to indulge during the game.
Find a map here with all glow in the dark locations throughout the Netherlands.
Idea 19: Indoor skydiving
We’re not there yet.
Do you want to feel like a bird and have a super exciting date with her?
Then try indoor skydiving…
Idea 20: Go-karting
I’ve said it before, a date without competition is only have as exciting.
Follow in Michael Schumacher’s footsteps, get yourselves a race suit, a helmet and get in your racecars.
Look who’s the fastest in a nerve-wrecking race.
Few kart-centers have duo karts.
You can drive these together! Racing against each other is fun, but racing together is much more exciting!
Easy date points.
Idea 21: Climbing a steeple
You both know it’s coming: kissing on top of the church.
However, only you know when the kiss is coming (Yes, you’re going to have to kiss her in the top of the steeple) Not she.
This makes it extra exciting for her. And when the kiss finally arrives: extra romantic.
There’re steeples around the country you can climb at any moment throughout the year. Check to see if there’s one open close to you.
Idea 22: Wall climbing
A perfect and exciting date activity for two reasons:
She’ll be in tight sport wear.
So, you’ll always have a good view.
And the sweat will be on your foreheads, adding on to the excitement.
Idea 23: VR room
Of course, you can go to a VR room to experience what it’s like to live together.
Because those are the applications they have nowadays.
But, if you’re looking for an exciting date, immerse yourself in an adventure like Indiana Jones.
Make sure you reserve your spot beforehand; VR rooms are incredibly popular.
Part 3: Exciting indoor activities
Now it’s time for the exciting dates you’ve probably been waiting for.
No heights, fast go-karts or competitive behavior.
Probably the most exciting dates in this entire list.
Idea 24: Get to know each other profoundly
Perfect for an exciting date at home.
Play a question-game.
You probably think; that sounds boring.
It’ll be boring if you ask stupid questions.
Not if you ask questions from the following list that I compiled for you.
- Get to know each other better by asking questions.
- Use the 36 love-questions from psychologist A. Aron to fall in love with each other.
It’ll be an exciting night with the questions I have for you.
Make sure you don’t shy away from the questions she might ask you in return.
Idea 25: Love seat in the cinema
A night at the cinema is not always as exciting.
Quite the contrary, it kills the anticipation.
You’re just there sitting there for two hours looking at a moving image, separated.
How sociable. Not.
Spice it up a little by ordering tickets for the love seats.
Then go to a relevant movie, or a movie that’s just a bit too boring and it’ll definitely be exciting in the seat in which you’re nice and close to each other.
Idea 26: Massage
Personally, I love to give a massage and see how a woman enjoys it.
It’s an exciting way to get closer to each other.
And perfect foreplay.
Here’s some advice for when you want to give your date a massage at home.
- Candles. A lot of candles. Bonus points for scented candles
- Buy some nice massage oil
- Spice it up by blindfolding her
But on some good tunes to go along with it. Music makes everything more relaxed, which is more than useful during a massage.
Idea 27: New sex positions / toys
This idea can’t be left out for an exciting date.
Try something new together in the bedroom.
Erotically exciting because you’ve never done it before and you will find out what it feels like.
Here are some things you can try:
- Go down on her with the water and fire technique:
Requirements: a blindfold, a cup of hot tea, ice cubes.
Blindfold her and cool her down using the ice cubes. Then take a sip of the hot tea to warm her back up again. This rapid changes in temperature make for an unforgettable experience.
- Make her fantasies come true:
Every woman has her sexual fantasies. For example, a threesome, master-slave roleplay, or even being raped.
- Try some toys for a change.
Idea 28: Couple club
Only do this when you’ve been together for a long time and your trust is really strong…
…or if you’re open-minded.
Probably the most exciting date activity in this list, given it’s not just you two anymore but with more people.
Another idea is a tantra-massage course, or something else with a more sexual nature.
Idea 29: Taking a shower together
With bathing clothes…
That depends on the relationship between you.
Usually, your clothes will remain on during the first date.
But who knows? If you’re a master in the art of picking up women, the craziest things can happen.
Turn off the lights while showering for an extra interesting experience
Idea 30: Under the bedsheets together
Not very exciting when she’s already your girlfriend…
That’s why you should make it exciting by turning off the heating, turning off the lights and pull out some candles.
Take out your favorite movie, or one that is just a bit too boring so the focus will be more on each other instead of the movie.
Or start building a pillow castle together, like one of our coaches did.
Make sure she brings her favorite pillow, which definitely cannot be left out from the fabric-palace.
Extremely playful, but extremely exciting at the same time.
Cause what are you going to do when the castle is ready?
Think of a massage, telling horror stories, or choose something else from the list which you can combine.
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Idea 31: Sauna/spa
Treat yourselves with a massage, a warm bubble bath and a sauna at one of the many spas.
You can also opt for ‘floating’. With floating you’re in a sealed cabin, without hearing, seeing and feeling anything. This is because the cabin is soundproof, pitch-black and filled with salt water at body temperature.
Only downside: you usually cannot share a pod.
But a combination of floating (separated) and a massage (together) makes an exciting activity.
Idea 32: House date
It’s exciting to have a date at home.
Especially if this is a first time for one of you.
You’ll be in a place where you’ve never been before.
Locking the door behind the other is done by only the twist of a hand.
Watch out. It can go from ‘exciting’ to ’serial killer’ really quick.
Idea 33: Feed each other blindfolded
This is a good one for building trust between you.
And a legitimate way to tease each other a little bit.
- Alternate between warm and cold food/drinks
- Alternate between tasty and less tasty food/drinks
Idea 34: Wed and walk
There’s nothing quite as exciting as your wedding day.
It’s something you really want to think about as well.
For that, there’s the possibility to have a fake wedding.
Often, you’re able to book an entire ceremony, with choice from a wide range of weddings dresses for her and three-piece suit for you and bouquets for you both.
Idea 35: Virtual reality warfare
There is a plethora of virtual reality centers. Often the centers are so large that there’s a large room in which you can stroll around carrying your VR-glasses and gun.
This is a bewildering experience, after walking around in the virtual world for 60 minutes you feel slightly alienated when seeing the real world again.
This date is full of excitement, for something so cool you can be sure she won’t cancel on you.
This is how you prepare for an exciting date
We’ve covered a wide array of date ideas.
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