If you want to get better with women, I think one of the best decisions is to get professional help and find a mentor.
But, how do you stop wasting precious time by following the advice of someone who has no idea what he’s doing?
In this article, I will explain what a dating coach is and what criteria you should use to search for the coach who best fits your goals.
First, though, I have a confession to make…
I’m ashamed of the dating industry. It’s too bad, but it’s true.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my job more than my penis, but I do not like being associated with my competition.
If you search for (online) dating coaches or google “dating advice for men”, you will come across many dubious characters:
- Embarrassing pickup artists who, like Peter Pan, don’t want to grow up and like to show off their “lay count” to other men
- Fakers who only sell you theory but have no proof that their tips really work
- Hippie lifestyle coaches and gurus who want to convince you that you’re imagining your problems
The country of the dating coach is dark.
However, there is a big difference between AttractionGym and other dating companies.
First of all, you must know that we’re an international company. We comprise a master hive of the best seducers of Germany, Belgium and the Netherlands.
What does that have to do with you?
Well, you get tips that have even proved successful in other countries.
Another difference is that everything we teach you is grounded in science.
You can be sure of one thing: I did my bloody homework. I know the literature from the inside out and from front to back. I know every important and relevant study, and I will help you understand what it means and how you can put it into practice.
But we won’t leave it at that.
Every one of us, without exception, goes out and tests, tests and tests again.
Only when a technique almost always works (side note: nothing always works) and our coaching participants are successful with it do I teach it to you.
But that’s only half the story. After that, I’ll study how to teach you this technique most efficiently.
Is what others teach completely useless?
Of course not.
If you know what to look for, you might find a useful tip from my competitors.
(Often these originate from me.)
They read my articles and steal my findings without blushing. Maybe they think I won’t notice.
But, just because you can copy something doesn’t mean that you can teach it to others.
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How a dating coach can help you
My job as dating coach is not to:
- Promise you guaranteed success with every woman.
- Tell you what to do and what not to do (at the end of the day, you can do whatever you want with my tips).
- Be politically correct. If something is bullshit, I’ll say so.
- Tell you lies so you’ll buy my products. If you don’t buy them with the intention of becoming the best version of yourself, then please go to other gurus.
- Offer you all my knowledge for free and to be available for you 24/7. Yes, 95% of my content is free, but I save the best and most transformative tips for my motivated and paying customers.
My job as dating coach is to:
- Share my most effective tips with you in article, video or online course form.
- Show you through “infield shots” (i.e., shots with a hidden camera) what these tips look like in practice.
- Give you tools, challenges and feedback during a coaching session.
- Introduce you to women during a coaching session, to approach women together with you, to demonstrate how to approach a woman yourself, etc. (all things that my competition doesn’t do).
Now you have a feel for what the life of a dating coach at AttractionGym is like.
As you can see, there’s a lot more to it than sleeping with my girlfriends all day long.
7 Tips to Choose the Right Dating Coach for You
Enough about me. Here are 7 tips to for you.
Tip #1: Don’t jump into a van when a dating coach offers you sweets
I once read a post in a “pick-up” forum where a guy gave a long and vulgar rage speech.
What made him so upset?
He had booked a super expensive “How to get any woman” coaching with a self-proclaimed dating coach that turned out to be worthless junk and now he can’t get his money back.
He added that he was no longer in the mood for all this “lie eating” (a word I had never heard before).
His rage echoed into the distance and attracted more crybabies, each with their own sob story to tell.
They all said that they would never trust a flirt coach again, that they hadn’t seen it coming, that they had been lied to, that everyone was the same, etc.
My first reaction?
At heart, I’m a very empathetic person, but if they blindly trusted a guru who couldn’t prove his successes, they’re pretending to be INNOCENT victims instead of admitting they’re blind men who didn’t do their research.
There is a big difference between the two.
And the latter are often the ones who cry the loudest.
Just because a flirt coach offers you sweets, it doesn’t mean that you should immediately jump into his van with darkened windows.
For this reason, I demonstrate through a variety of eye-opening YouTube videos that what I teach men actually works.
Tip #2: Don’t listen to your friends’ advice
Once you start following the advice in dating blogs, dating articles, dating guides, YouTube videos or courses from a flirt coach, you’ll find that your friends know better. At least they think they do.
They find it strange that you listen to a dating coach and give you tips like:
- “Just be yourself.”
- “You don’t need all this. The right one comes automatically.”
- “You’re great the way you are. Why do you want to change?”
Everyone in a relationship thinks they’re an expert on love. Just like every business student thinks they are a marketing expert…
However, in reality, both lack the experience to give you really good tips.
You wouldn’t book a deep diving course with someone who has only read books about it.
You would ask the person who has the necessary expertise and can prove their competence.
This is important because bad advice can cost years of stagnation.
I even know men who have given up all hope of ever getting a girlfriend because of “tips” from certain dating coaches. This brings my otherwise rather calm mind to the boiling point!
Tip #3: Check if your coach is realistic or naive-romantic
One reason why so many men seem to appreciate my articles is that I don’t gloss over reality.
Why should I?
In case you haven’t noticed: Life isn’t fair.
Especially when it comes to love, many men draw the shit end of the stick.
There are about as many men as women on Earth. So, theoretically, there would be a lid for every pot, as my mother would put it so nicely.
But, in practice, it looks quite different.
A few men have sex with the majority of women.
But don’t just believe me when I say that; believe the research of genetic researchers.
Did you know that you have twice as many female ancestors as male ancestors?
Put simply, this means that every woman reproduces, but only every second man reproduces.
If that isn’t enough for you, then savor this study slowly:
Millions (yes, you read correctly…mill-fucking-ions) of people alive today are descended from Genghis Khan.
While this fat guy was having orgies every day, other men were home alone masturbating into a washcloth.
Thank you, Genghis. You’re very kind.
I see the suffering of men. Every day.
Not everyone who lets us coach them is miserable. Many are already damn cool maddafakkas and just want to become even cooler.
But, oftentimes, we work with desperate virgins who simply don’t know what to do, or with fresh singles whose hearts have been broken brutally.
They’re often the nicest men you could ever imagine. They would die for a woman…
…but nobody wants them.
So, if a dating coach constantly pretends that flirting is always fun and games or says things like “you’re great the way you are” or “treat women the way you treat your mother”, then he’s probably not the right coach for you.
You need someone who has the balls to tell you the truth to your face – even if it’s unpleasant. Because, as my bro Nietzsche has already said: You only become a strong man when you confront the truth.
Maybe you aren’t so great. After all, if you were, women would probably be chasing you and you wouldn’t be looking for help.
That’s how I’d put it:
You’re not great as you ARE, but as you COULD BE.
We humans can improve ourselves to a degree that we can’t comprehend. The transformations I’ve witnessed are practically crazy.
Together with the other coaches of AttractionGym, I’ve made it my mission to show you HOW to achieve this transformation.
It’s a process with ups and downs. It won’t always be super beautiful, but a hero’s journey never is.
Tip #4: Check if the respective coach is teaching you to lie
Some dating coaches will teach you to tell invented stories to get women into bed. But you know what? We’ve found that it’s much more powerful and effective to tell the truth – as long as you do it PROPERLY!
Your coach doesn’t value honesty? Then, you can be sure you’re dealing with a Peter Pan who doesn’t want to grow up. If that’s the case, it’s time to look for another coach.
Lying to women to get what you want is pathetic.
In the long run, nobody gets away with a lie. And even if you do, how does it boost your confidence?
Deep down you’ll always know that you needed a lie to achieve your goal, and then you’ll feel like a spineless turd. I don’t recommend it.
That’s why we at AttractionGym teach you how to seduce women through honesty.
We want your most authentic, attractive self to shine. We don’t want a fake version of you filling the world with lies.
There are enough liars, but very few authentic people.
Tip #5: Check if the dating coach is making things up
In recent years, research in the field of psychology has made great progress. Does the dating coach whose article you’re reading cite scientific sources?
Does he explain how he comes up with what he says?
I’m not saying that science knows everything about love and attraction. In fact, it knows damn little in comparison to the grand history of personal experience.
Often, science encounters something “revolutionary” that I’ve known for years.
Still, you can be sure that you’re dealing with a fool if the coach thinks he knows how the world revolves.
You don’t know anything.
One reason why my methods are so successful is that I research everything that has to do with the art of influencing – not only psychology but also marketing, public speaking, NLP, sometimes even hypnosis.
I use the insights of Friedrich Nietzsche, Carl Jung, Dale Carnegie, and Jordan Belfort – and the list doesn’t stop there – and apply them to the art of seduction.
So, I’d be a liar if I said I’d figured it out all by myself.
If a coach only uses his own insights, he’s very limited. Therefore, it’s important that you scan his articles for scientific sources.
Tip #6: Check how much you like his writing style
The way someone writes tells you how they think.
For this reason, without exception, I ask everyone who applies to be a coach or an assistant with AttractionGym to write an article.
It’s not because being a phenomenal writer is necessarily a prerequisite for working in our company, but because then I know how he thinks. I can then usually assess very reliably whether he has a positive world view or is a misogynist. If he’s the latter, he’s sorted out faster than he can say “AttractionGym”.
When I write, I have the opportunity to reflect on what I’m giving of myself.
I can improve sentences afterward.
I can formulate a thought, reflect on it, and revise it if necessary.
This is only possible to a limited extent in a conversation.
You can expect that what the dating coach says to you in person will usually not be better than what he writes.
If his writing style doesn’t tickle your taste buds, then a personal conversation will fail three times over.
Also, pay attention to how many spelling mistakes he makes.
I’m not saying that my articles are free of all grammar and spelling mistakes.
I know this is probably shocking news to you, but I’m only human.
Mistakes creep in, especially when you’re writing an article in a day, as is usually the case with us.
A dating coach needs a high level of intelligence to help men with complicated dating problems.
And if he’s that intelligent, he should also be able to research basic comma rules.
Also, pay attention to how politically correct his writing style is.
You’ve probably noticed that our articles aren’t always clean.
They’re provocative, daring and slightly narcissistic.
Because we’re the same in front of women.
If a dating coach doesn’t even dare to use dirty words in an article, he probably doesn’t dare to talk in front of women.
In terms of AttractionGym, you can always expect a certain “I don’t give a f*ck” attitude – both in front of women and in our articles.
Tip #7: Check whether sustainable success is more important to him than short-term success
I can tell you that it happens quite often that coaching participants make out with hot senõritas in a club or even go home with them according to my instructions.
Of course, it’s super dope…
…but this is NOT our goal.
It’s not very helpful if I help a man kiss five women but don’t show him how to do it without me.
That might be good business, since the participants would have to come back again and again because they couldn’t recreate the experience on their own…
…but it would be against our philosophy.
It’s also not for you to get to know your dream woman during a coaching session.
Of course, if that happens, we won’t say “No, thank you.”
- We want you to know exactly what you have to do to show yourself from your most attractive side so that you can meet as many dream women as possible after the coaching.
- We want you to take it easy on yourself when you’re flirting.
- We want you to be able to integrate what you’ve learned into your everyday life so that you can benefit from our tips for the rest of your life.
Now you know what a dating coach is and how to make the right decision
I’ve shown you what you can expect from AttractionGym. My job is done for today.
Now it’s up to you to make a decision.
I’m not trying to convince you, and I don’t need to. Whether you apply to train with us isn’t my responsibility. My job is to provide you with the information you need so that you can make a good decision. The rest is up to you.
We know we aren’t for everyone. And we’re fine with that. We’ve got more clients than we can handle anyway.
I won’t seek you out like Freddy Krueger in your dreams, slitting you open and feeding your guts to my imaginary dogs.
I respect you with every cell of my body for working on you and putting yourself in professional hands – even if they aren’t mine. That’s a boss move!
But, if you decide to join us, make sure that you’re a motivated maddafakka who really wants to grab his love life by the balls.
To help you make the first step, I’ve created a free Transformation Kit for you.
I like to leave the wishy-washy boys to my competition.
So, in other words…
Dan de Ram
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