Yoyoyo what’s up.
It’s me, Dan. So you’re interested in women… and you don’t mind if they’re a little younger than you. Perhaps you’ve even thought about dating a woman 10, 20, maybe 30 years younger…
At least that’s what many men do who belong to the older models and that’s perfectly normal. Young women can be a fine thing, can’t they?
Women in their 20s often have that youthful freshness and light-hearted, feminine energy around them that is very attractive to most men. Older women have style, know what they want and you can usually have exciting conversations with them.
Everyone has their own personal merits. My opinion? Why limit yourself to one age group? Why not try the full range and enjoy it?
A lot of my ‘more mature’ coaching students ask themselves two things in particular.
First:
Second:
These are both very good questions, which I will answer in this article.
Moreover, you’ll learn:
- 7 Practical tips on how to attract younger girls
- Why it becomes easier for a man to end up dating younger women as he grows older
- How to use your age to your advantage so that women prefer you instead of younger guys
- How you can tell if she’s just after your money
- The ultimate ‘Anti-Drama’ method
- My #1 flirt tips for men on how to take a younger woman home
- And much more tips on how to date younger girls…
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I once coached a 45-year-old man.
Let’s call him Jordan.
Jordan had 20 years of marriage behind him when I met him. He was an experienced accountant and now he wanted to step on the gas and do what he had completely missed in his 20s.
In the beginning, Jordan couldn’t even ask a woman his age for directions to the nearest supermarket. His ex was the only woman he had ever dated in his life. They had met through a colleague from work.
Now he longed to experience what it’s like to have fun with many different women and to enjoy a free, unattached sex life.
He also asked himself where to meet younger women and how to approach them in order to get to know them.
So I took it to my chest.
Long story short: On the last evening of the Bootcamp he met a 20-year-old Swedish woman. She was in a large group when he saw her. Fortunately, I had already shown him some crucial flirting principles by then.
After I had given him instructions, he took the Swedish woman out of her group. She (including her friends) was quite enthusiastic about Jordan after a short time.
She shouted something Swedish to her friends, which probably meant that she would come later. Then the two of them decided quickly to stop at a pool bar around the corner.
After a few rounds, in which Jordan showed his companion how to hold the billiard bat perfectly, the two came dangerously close. I watched the whole thing from a safe distance and sent Jordan instructions on what to do next via WhatsApp.
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A few minutes later the lips of the two billiard ‘rivals’ met and sometime later I watched how Jordan opened the door of a taxi for the Swedish beauty in a very gentlemanly manner. Then the two disappeared into the night in the direction of his hotel.
Since the bootcamp, Jordan has become extremely fond of young women. The next thing he wanted to learn from me was how to ‘run’ different relationships simultaneously with women up to 25 years old.
Before Jordan came to us, he was really scared. He was afraid of being mocked by people around him because of his preference for young women and of losing his reputation with work colleagues and family.
We then had a long, deep conversation.
The conversation was about the following:
- There are cultures where it’s socially acceptable that older men have romantic relationships or even sex with younger women
- Very few men know that many young females are very attracted to older men and what they represent. Unfortunately, these women are often judged by society for their sexual preference, which is why they often don’t admit their preference for older men.
I can hear you thinking:
Well, let’s think together. What do you bring to the table as an older man that a youngster can only dream of?
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First of all, of course, life experience.How can an older man attract a younger woman?
You’ve seen a lot more (if you weren’t playing Nintendo 64 in the basement all the time). You might have had different jobs, met lots of different people, traveled quite often and tried a lot of things.
But the most important thing is that you have learned a lot from all this, which is still to come for such a young greenhorn. So, you have a lot to tell and can give a young woman valuable tips that might help her in her life.
It’s important that you realize that.
As an experienced man you bring a certain self-confidence, which makes you super competent, wise and to an overall more responsible human being. Later I will explain to you how you can bring these qualities across well and make them work for you.
Right now, the only important thing is that you realize that you have these traits. Let me give you a counterexample to explain why this is so important.
Imagine a 40 or 50-year-old man thinking about himself:
How do you think this man would behave in general? How would he appeal to other women? What would his voice sound like? What clothes would he wear?
Do you see my point?
This man thinks that young men are more valuable to women than he is. He believes that women value good looks of younger men MORE than the life experience, certainty and wisdom he has to offer as a more mature man.
This train of thought is naturally reflected in his behavior and self-image.
So, accordingly, he will walk like an old man, use language that society expects of more mature people, and prefer to wear brown corduroy pants instead of something fresher in navy blue.
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Okay, let’s start with the basic questions. The first 4 tips are about where and how you can meet young females. In the remaining 3, we’ll look at what you need to consider if you already meet them regularly.
Let’s go!
Tip #1: Where to meet young woman
The last time you were in a nightclub might be a while ago. But no worries. That’s not a problem at all. Of course, you’ll hardly find anywhere else so many young, attractive women in one place as in the local discotheque on a Saturday night.
But who would I be if I didn’t have some excellent alternatives for you when nightlife isn’t your cup of tea.
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Alternative #1: Common interests
What do you like to do most in your spare time? Can you also do that in groups or in a club? For almost everything there is a community/ group of people who share your passion.
Especially if you live in a big city, the chances that there’s a club to your passion is very high. So, be smart about it and research classes or courses you can attend.
The practical thing about this approach is that it’s very easy to get warm with each other. The common interest immediately gives you something to talk about.
Alternative #2: Online dating
The advantage of apps like Tinder is that you can set the age of your desired target group. For example, you can set 20 to 27 as the desired age of women you’re looking for.
Women who are interested in men your age also adjust their filters accordingly. If you know how to use Tinder properly and how to seduce her via texting, you’ll get dates easily.
Alternative #3: Everyday life
My personal favorite method and what I will probably do until I am old and grey, is:
Simply approach women in everyday situations.
Alone on your way to work or shopping, if you live in a city, you’ll always meet at least one young woman whom you wouldn’t push off the edge of your bed.
Approaching women in everyday life has many different advantages. Here are a few examples:
- You’re developing a habit of leaving your comfort zone
- You learn to deal with rejection, which strengthens your character
- You’ll learn how to start conversations with a stranger and make it exciting
- And of course, you’ll also meet tons of cute, young women, if you do it correctly
Slowly, young Padawan. In the next tip I have some practical examples for you which help you to get the girl you desire.
Tip #2: Why you shouldn’t chase young women
Of course, you shouldn’t go chasing after any woman you’re interested in. But let me explain to you why especially young women are so allergic to men being dependent on their attention.
Especially when you’re significantly older, women expect you to know your values and what you want from life.
To find this out, women have intuitive mechanisms with which they can find out in a flash whether you’re mourning your younger years.
They want to know if you’re aware of your maturity or if they can easily get you out of control. That’s why you’ll often hear the following from women who are attracted to you:
Most men fall into the trap here and then try to justify themselves for their age:
Or:
But by doing so, you’re only sub-communicating to her that you aren’t satisfied with your age and would like to be younger. If a woman is challenging you this way, try the following sentence instead:
For Jordan a similar variant worked well.
He simply mentioned the large age difference right at the beginning of the conversation:
The practical thing about these two variants is this: You not only show her you’re your fine with your age, but also turn the tables – instead of the woman, you’re now the one who’s challenging her.
Women love challenges. She doesn’t need another guy trying to sneak his way into her underwear out of insecurity.
Think of one of the most famous male movie characters of all time, who has never had any problems picking up young women:
James Bond.
Let’s face it. Could you imagine a James Bond still in his 20s or 30s? And have you ever seen James Bond justifying his age to a younger woman?
Sure, James Bond has an exciting and dangerous job and is usually played by very attractive men, but all this wouldn’t help him if he felt too old for young women.
Speaking of James Bond…
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Tip #3: Watch your style when seducing young girls
When you approach young women, you shouldn’t look like their father. It’s not about you obsessively trying to look like a teenager with your clothes and your style.
Rather, you should try to find your own style with which you can make a good first impression on as many people as possible. This will of course also make it easier for you to make a good first impression on young women.
How exactly you develop a chic, timeless style that gives you a seductive appearance, you can read here.
But first, I want to prepare you for a few more dangers.
Tip #4: Make sure you don’t accidentally become her sugar daddy
Especially if you have a well-paid job and are almost financially free, this is the right tip for you.
There are women who are only nice to you because they want money. That’s why I want to give you a few signs to watch out for, so you don’t fall victim to a ‘gold digger’:
- She asks you to buy her a drink even though you just met and she doesn’t know anything about you yet
- She is extremely interested in your career and especially in your income and asks piercing questions about it, even though you have just met
- She gets bitchy or gives you the cold shoulder if you refuse to buy her something
If a woman shows a few of these signs, you can confidently say goodbye and keep your attention for other specimen of the ladies’ world.
But sometimes her signs are less obvious and you have to look a little closer to see that there is something going on. So here are a few things to keep in mind if you’re still unsure:
- If you usually drive a big car or wear an expensive watch, leave the things at home
- Pay attention to whether the woman has a job herself and likes to do exciting things on her own, which she pays for herself
- Ask yourself if money is the best you can come up with
If you haven’t anything really exciting to offer a woman apart from your money, then don’t be surprised if you attract women who are just interested in you because of that.
Now let’s get to the things you should know before dating a younger woman.
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Tip #5: How to deal best with young drama queens
It often happens that young women tend to lose control over their emotions .
Before I explain to you how to deal with this, I want you to ask yourself one important question:
Would you like to invest your time in women who constantly give you drama? Are they worth it?
Don’t get me wrong. It can be very exciting when women take you on an emotional rollercoaster ride, but you should ask yourself if you’re the type and if you want to tolerate something like this in your life.
Drama queens can steal your life force. If you then fail to get away from such a woman, your quality of life slowly but surely decreases and you end up feeling like a squeezed-out toothpaste tube. Believe me – I’ve had it all.
That’s why I want to warn you at this point.
Women who tend to be dramatic unconsciously often look for a man who can give them what her father didn’t give them before.
They long for someone who can satisfy their need for security and male protection.
This problem arises in the woman’s childhood, especially when her father was absent or disinterested too often and/or somehow rejected her.
When a woman has experienced little or no love from her father, the desire arises for a mature man who can slip into this father role.
Such a woman can be as mature and educated in other areas, however in this respect she remains like a desperate little child.
You should be very, very careful with these women. Even though they may seem like strong personalities at first glance, they have low self-confidence and a tendency to self-destructive behavior.
Believe me when I say, it’s best not to tangle with them. Before such women can have a healthy relationship with a man, therapy is usually required.
Luckily, there’s also a ‘normal’ form of drama.
Let’s assume that your beloved is not an extreme case and you just want to try it out and get involved with a more impulsive woman. (By the way, I think this is a good idea if you haven’t had any experience with drama queens).
So, let’s see what exactly I mean by ‘drama’.
A woman is a drama queen when she often turns a mosquito into an elephant.
This drama is merely a sign that the woman needs a little more attention from you and is longing for your affection.
- For example, she gets bitchy if you don’t notice something small
- She gets upset when you forget something that affects both of you, that you thought was relatively insignificant
So, make time for her. Listen to her and don’t try to resist her ‘drama’. It’ll only make it worse. She doesn’t need a solution to her problems. What she really needs is your attention.
Show her that you understand her and that you care about her feelings.
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Tip #6: If you date a young woman, don’t try to be her daddy
One thing you must never forget:
Especially in her 20s, a woman is still going through major changes. The chance that she won’t be the same person in half a year isn’t low.
You should accept this fact and not try to stand in the way of this change. On the contrary. Encourage her to try new things and experiment around. Tell her about the experiences you had at her age.
She is young and needs a lot of freedom to discover the world and get to know herself. If you can give her this space, she will thank you for it and feel even more attracted to you.
This way, instead of a second daddy, you can become a kind of mentor for her. And a mature man that a woman can look up to and learn from is incredibly attractive.
Tip #7: Manage the expectations of a young woman
Suppose you’ve met a younger woman, you get along splendidly and you enjoy meeting each other. So far, so good. Now it’s up to you to decide in which direction you want to steer the whole relationship.
Make it clear to yourself whether you want to start an exclusive relationship or whether a friendship with benefits.
If you want to get more into the topic ‘friendship with benefits, I have some gold for you over here:
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To be able to tell if she’s serious or just looking for some fun, I brought you some signs.
The more of the following things are true, the more likely she wants a relationship with you:
- She wants to know a lot about your interests and is open for activities she wouldn’t do on her own
- She’s very particular about her appearance when she meets you
- She doesn’t talk to you about other guys and gets jealous when you meet or talk about other women
- She’s worried about you and doesn’t want you to do things that endanger your health
- She introduces you to her friends or even her family
- You’re one of the top priorities on her schedule
If she’s interested in a friendship with benefits, she’s more likely to do the following things:
- She talks to you about other guys she finds interesting
- She also meets other men who aren’t only her buddies
- She’s only superficially interested in your life
- Outside the bedroom or party scene she has little or no time for you
Now you know what to look for to know where you stand. As soon as you realize that, you should make her understand what your idea of your future is.
Most younger women are too shy to ask you openly what’s going on between you.
If you notice that your woman wants to have a relationship with you, but you would rather spread your genes all over the world, you should arrange a meeting with her as soon as possible.
Be 100% honest with her to prevent her from unnecessarily pain. Even though you may have to let her go, this way you can minimize the pain that is caused to her.
Having good intentions = good karma
However, if you notice that both of you want to have only one friendship with benefits anyway, then you can of course take it easy. Meet up from time to time, have sex and enjoy your time.
Become the ultimate young women seducer
Okay soldier, now you’re fully prepared to go into the battle of seduction.
Never forget that your maturity and the life experience you have gained over the years are among your most important weapons to seduce young women.
Hug your age and give it a big kiss on the cheek… or pick a spot yourself…
Then nothing stands in your way.
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Your bro,
Dan de Ram
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