If you want to meet some women, bars and nightclubs are a great option.
But you might not like those places. Or perhaps you think they’re too expensive (they often are!)
Well, I’ve got good news:
You can meet girls anytime, anywhere.
Today I’m going to teach you how to hit on women during the day (also known as ‘daygame’)
- 9 Practical tips to reach daygame mastery
- Why flirting during the day is easier than at night
- Approaching women in public: What you should say (and shouldn’t say)
- How to take her on a date right away (yes, that’s possible!)
- What the zombie walk is and why you want to avoid it
- Examples of first texts to a girl after you got her number
- And a lot more…
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Ultimate Beginner’s Guide to Daygame
Pretty woman the kind I like to meet
Pretty woman I don’t believe you, you’re not the truth
No one could look as good as you, mercy”
These are the lyrics from ‘Pretty Woman’ by Roy Orbison.
Even if you don’t know the song, you are (without a doubt) familiar with what he’s saying:
You’re walking on the street. Suddenly, you see an amazingly beautiful girl.
She’s all you can think about now. You’d love to talk to her.
But you don’t. You just let her walk by. You might even make up all kinds of excuses to feel better about yourself.
But the truth is: you just didn’t have the balls.
It’s called fear of rejection, my friend. And it sucks.
The thing is, in the end, missing an opportunity is worse than being rejected.
You’re not alone.
Most men have been in the same situation.
In fact, most men have no idea it’s possible to meet a woman during the day.
Hitting on girls at night is seen as ‘normal’. But it’s not always easy.
Nightclubs are full of guys who come in with exactly the same plan as you. And often girls are tired of being approached countless times during the night.
During the day, there’s hardly any competition (most men don’t have the balls to talk to a woman during the day.)
This makes daygame easier than nightgame.
But how do you go about approaching women in broad daylight?
It’s easier than you think, man.
In this article, I’ll give you a step-by-step guide on to how meet women during the day.
So read the tips carefully and put them into practice right from today.
(As we say at AttractionGym: the biggest obstacle is your doorstep).
Before I teach you how daygame works, here’s a list of the best places for daygame:
Tip #1: Daygame: The best places
And the answer is…
This is the beauty of daygame: you can do it everywhere.
Of course, some places are better than others. You don’t want to approach a girl in the middle of an empty narrow street.
Moreover, if you live in a small town where everyone knows each other, perhaps you don’t want to be seen flirting with girls in the main street.
No worries, I got you covered. Check out this list:
#1: Train/Bus/Subway stations
Train or bus stations are good places to pick up women during the day.
Well, first, it’s full of people. Everyday, a lot of beautiful ladies go there and wait for their train or bus by themselves.
Second, if you live in a big city, you might meet a lot of tourist there.
(Tourists are more inclined for an exciting adventure and often are less in a rush.)
#2: Shopping malls
Shopping malls are a goldmine of beautiful girls. Women usually hang out with their family or friends there, but when you master daygame this is not a problem.
#3: Shopping streets
Same here. Main shopping streets are excellent places for daygame.
Oxford Street in London is a great example.
#4: Coffee shops
The good thing about meeting a girl in a coffee shop is that you already know she’s not in a rush. I’ve had great results approaching girls sitting on a terrace in Amsterdam.
This one is for my Californian and Floridian readers. Los Angeles and Miami have some amazing beaches full of stunning girls.
Tip #2: Avoid this big mistake
Now that you know the best spots, you obviously want to know how daygame works.
When I coach guys to flirt with girls during the day, I always see them making the same big mistake:
The Daygame zombie walk.
It’s when a guy goes out in the streets with the intention of approaching girls. He sees a lot of cute women, but makes up all kinds of excuses not to talk to them.
So he keeps wandering around the city aimlessly, and then goes home without having spoken to anyone.
If you’ve ever tried daygame on your own before, this scenario might seem familiar.
Here’s an easy way to avoid making this mistake:
If you’ve never hit on girls during the day, it might seem like a big step.
Perhaps you’ve been working all day, you’re tired or you have a lot on your mind.
So what you want to do is adopt a step-by-step approach.
- First step: Start by asking random people the way (even guys!)
- Second step: Approach girls to give them a compliment and leave. Science says compliments can be very powerful!
- Third and last step: Start having real conversations and eventually get numbers
Always warm up. It puts you in the mood and makes daygame way easier.
You can also try daygame with a friend. This is a great way of motivating each other and to be in a more social mood than when you go out on your own.
Tip #3: Approaching women in public: The Eminem trap
The other day I coached a guy who went daygaming for the first time.
We did the typical warm up: asking for the way and giving compliments first.
Then he approached a girl and started to actually talk to her.
And he fell into the Eminem trap.
Well, as you may know, Eminem is well-known for his rapid-fire raps.
My student talked to that girl at such a fast pace that even he didn’t seem to understand what he was saying.
Of course, she didn’t understand a thing either.
Talking super fast is a common mistake a lot of guys do.
It makes sense: You’re talking to an attractive girl.
Research suggests that men behave differently when they’re talking to an attractive girl.
A common behavior change is talking faster.
The thing is, talking fast radiates restlessness, which is not attractive.
Talk as calmly as you can when you speak to a girl… as if you’re doing it in slow motion.
This applies not only to what you say, but also to what you do.
Move slower, talk slower, conduct the whole conversation as if time has slowed down.
By doing that, you’ll come across as a relaxed guy, which is an attractive trait.
You might ask yourself what other things make women attracted to men.
Here’s a full article about it:
On top of that, it ensures that you have more control on what you’re saying, which allows you to spark amazing conversations with any girl.
Speaking of which, let’s see how you can start a conversation with any girl during the day.
Tip #4: Daygame mastery: come up with your own lines
Keep in mind that it’s a bit unusual for her to be approached during the day.
Think about it: What kind of people usually talk to you in the street?
That’s right. Annoying salesmen or people asking for money.
So if you speak to her, make sure there’s enough space between the two of you.
You should also acknowledge the fact that the situation is somewhat unusual.
(short break) Hi, I’m (insert your name here). What’s your name?”
Of course, there are a lot of more examples of great sentences for daygame.
Do you need any? How about 12 Lines that always hook? There you go:
I recently sent a newsletter to my Dutch people where I share my best-kept daygame infield secret.
In this newsletter, I explain how you can create your own pickup lines. This way you don’t come across a robot who’s just repeating rehearsed sentences.
Normally, these newsletters are only for people who are subscribed to the e-mail.
But today I’ve decided to share it here. Thank me later.
Here it comes:
Newsletter: How to create your own pick up lines
“Me and Johan agreed to meet at Amsterdam Central Station.
Johan wanted to ask for some advices about daygame.
So we had a coffee and he told me about his main issue:
Johan’s job is physically demanding, so after work he walks back home in his dirty and sweaty work clothes.
He thinks it’s a shame to miss all those opportunities on the way home. I couldn’t agree more.
So he asked me:
“How am I supposed to talk to a girl when I’m walking around all sweaty, wearing worn-out work clothes?”
Of course, looks matter to an extent. So Johan scores minus points on first impressions.
But with the right insight you can turn any disadvantage into a hidden force.
How do you do that?
First, let’s go through the core principles of daygame:
- Grab her attention
- You are the one who knows you’re going to talk to her. She doesn’t have a clue
- Create peace in the interaction, give her time to get used to your presence
- Immerse yourself in her worldview
- Be vulnerable
- Make her feel comfortable
Here’s an example of how you can do that:
By saying that, you’re showing her that:
- You’re socially smart
- You’re not afraid to be vulnerable
- You know social rules (but you place yourself above these social rules)
This is a great way of building your own lines when approaching a girl during a day.
Use it and tell me about your experiences.
See you in the next newsletter!
Dan the Ram”
Tip #5: What comes after the approach
I met an Asian girl in a nightclub last week. Very attractive lady.
There was something sexual about her. Maybe her sexy clothes.
Here’s an example to give you an idea:
You might not believe this, but within the first 10 minutes of the conversation, we were already talking about sex.
Of course, hitting on women at night is different.
The nightlife, the party atmosphere and the alcohol allow you to have more extreme conversations than during the day.
I’m not saying you can’t have extreme conversations during the day, but usually, you want it to be a bit more casual (especially if you’re a beginner).
It’s fine to have a little bit of small talk. You want her to get used to your presence.
For example, you can tell her about what you were doing before you spoke to her (you were shopping, NOT daygaming 😉 ).
Then the conversation usually flows naturally.
I got you, man. Read this article right here:
Once you’ve introduced yourself, ask what she’s doing.
It helps to keep the conversation flowing, but also gives you useful information about whether you have time or you should go for the number right away (if she’s waiting for a friend, for example).
Speaking of which, how do you go for the number? Read the next tip to find out!
Tip #6: How to get a girl’s number
There’s a common mistake most men make when they ask for a woman’s number.
They literally ask for her number.
- “Hey, could I have your number?”
That’s not the right way to do it.
By literally asking for her number, you’re displaying a lack of confidence.
Instead, you want to suggest exchanging numbers as if it were the most normal thing in the world.
You just had a nice conversation. She likes you. You don’t have to ask for her number. It makes all the sense in the world that she wants to exchange numbers.
That’s the mindset you should have when getting a girl’s number.
Say this, for example:
- “Hey, let’s exchange numbers! Worst case scenario, we’ll be friends.”
Put a smile on your face and hand your phone to her.
Of course, this happens. You can master daygame, there’ll always be women who won’t give you their number.
There are a million reasons why they do that.
Usually, those reasons don’t have anything to do with you. Perhaps she has a boyfriend, or she’s not in the mood, or she likes girls.
Stay cool. Keep smiling. Don’t ask her why. Just wish her a nice day and get on with your life.
Tip #7: How to have instant dates
Let’s say you’ve managed to get a lot of numbers during an afternoon of daygame. That’s great, man.
But why settle for a number when you can also take a beautiful woman on a date right away.
Yep, you can talk to a woman in broad daylight and take her on a date. It’s called an instant date.
You might not believe that, but this is actually very common.
So how do you go about it?
Let’s take an example:
You approached a cute girl. She’s beautiful, fun and seems to be enjoying the conversation. Awesome.
When you ask what she’s doing, it turns out she’s not doing anything special. She has time.
Now, of course, you could exchange numbers. But, hey, she’s got nothing to do, remember?
Instead, invite her for a drink. Again: suggest it, don’t ask.
If she’s down for it, take her to a cozy place nearby.
(You can also go shopping or take a walk somewhere).
There you go, that’s how you go on a date with a woman you met a few minutes ago.
Now, there’s still work to be done. How do you do about making that date memorable?
Asking the right questions. Check that out:
Tip #8: How do you go about texting her afterward
So, you just got her number, congratulations!
If you’ve watched How I Met Your Mother, you might have heard of the Barney Stinson’s 3-day rule.
You don’t want to wait that long to text her. Always send her a message within 24 hours.
So what should you send?
Ideally, it should be a joke about the interaction itself. It’s supposed to be almost secret language that only she can decipher.
Here’s an example:
You don’t get it, right? That’s the idea. Only she can get it.
That’s what I mean by referring back to the connection you had with her.
Tip #9: Daygame infield: taking it to the next level
If you really want to master daygame, you should start applying the tips in this article right from today.
To help you do that, I’ve got something really cool for you.
It’s called the Transformation Kit. It includes a lot of tips and flirty lines that you can apply today when you’re out on the streets.
(There’s also a step-by-step plan to escape from the friendzone.)
In short: It helps you become an attractive guy and meet a lot of women.
You can find it all in my Transformation Kit.
Good luck, my friend!
Dan de Ram.