Find Women: From What Places to Look To Identifying Mrs. Right

We all know why you’re here:

You’re looking for a girlfriend or maybe even a wife.

After all, kids don’t father themselves, and ‘Game of Thrones’ somehow also is more fun when you watch it à deux.

Maybe you’ve been searching for your soul mate for a long time.

You haven’t found her yet and you think you’re alone.

But you couldn’t be more wrong.

You got me.

I can’t replace a woman, and I’m not trying to…

…but what I can do is teach you how to magnetically attract the greatest woman in the shortest amount of time.

In this article, you get:

  • 12 insightful tips with which you can find & conquer the woman of your dreams
  • Where to find single women? The #1 place to get in touch with hot single women
  • Conversation hacks: How you always and everywhere know what to say
  • The #1 difference between an attractive and an unattractive man
  • How to make sure you’re the best catch around, a man, for whom a woman would do anything
  • And much more…

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Tip #1: ‘I’m looking for a relationship… do I have to do anything to get one?’

That is an excellent question, my friend.

Because before I give you even a tip, I feel obligated to premonish you.

As perfect and divine as my words are…

This article is 100% useless unless you take action.

If you just skim through my tips and don’t do anything with the sacred information, you are wasting your time.

(I assume that you are aware of this, but it does no harm to emphasize this).

However, if you take action and APPLY my tips proactively, your single life will soon say goodbye to you.

Let’s get started!

Tip #2: ‘I’m looking for a woman, but where to start?’

As a dating coach, I am in daily contact with all kinds of men.

I took a close look at those who have problems finding an amazing girlfriend and wondered what the big thing in common was.

Of course, there are several parallels, but what they all have in common is:

They only get to know a few women.

Watch it.

Imagine you are a fisherman in a modest Scandinavian village and you want to make the catch of the year.

Enough sardines, you want to catch a juicy salmon or a fat pike.

Where do you fish?

  1. In a puddle?
  2. In a giant fjord?

“Easy. In a fjord, of course.”

Good answer.

Because that’s what you should do when you’re looking for the right woman.

>> What I Did when I Really Wanted a Girlfriend.

Don’t fish in a puddle, but in a fjord full of fish.

Perhaps there are no or only a few beautiful single ladies in your (social) environment. This is of course, not good.

Yes, love is magic.

But love is also something mathematical.

In other words:

The more women you meet, the more likely you are to find a woman who fits you.

Fuck chance, fuck destiny. Meet more women = easier to find a girlfriend.

It’s an advantage to know the best places to find your future Mrs. Right.

Tip #3: ‘What are the best places to find girls?’

  1. Online dating

We live in interesting times.

You don’t even have to leave your house these days to find beautiful women.

Even as you sit on the toilet and your gut struggles with yesterday’s Mexican food.


The only ‘problem’ with online dating:

You have a lot of competition.

Therefore, it’s important to know exactly how you stand out from the competition.

And that’s what you learn here:

>> How to Tinder for Guys: 7 Must-Have Tips For More Matches and Dates

  1. On the street (yes, in broad daylight!)

The other night I had a great date with a great woman.

Where did I meet her?

At a supermarket.

Yeah, you read it right.

Not in a club, not in a bar.

In a perfectly ordinary supermarket.

There are beautiful women everywhere.

You probably noticed that yourself. But what you might not have known is that you can approach these women anywhere.

They’re not doing anything. They just stare. That makes them RUBBERNECKS.

You won’t stare more than a few seconds… till you act. That makes you a BOSS.

>> These 7 Tips Saved Me from Awkwardness on the First Meeting

  1. In a club/bar

Ahh… the ‘traditional’ way to find women: Clubs and bars.

Click the article below to find out how to roll into the conversation like a smooth criminal:

>> online soon

  1. Single events

Single events are a quick and effective way to find a whole collection of single women.

You wonder which events there are and which ones may be great for you?

This one:

>> online soon

  1. The #1 best place to find women

There’s one place women are better at being seduced than any other.

A place that dominates all the mentioned above.


Then click here.

Tip #4: Finding a soulmate – ‘How do I know if she’s the one?’

Here is an excerpt from an e-mail that was sent to me the other day:

I’ve been looking for a great woman for quite some time, but I’ve only come across evil creatures. It seems all women are the same: Sneaky, mean and wrong. I am done with women. I’m looking for a great woman, but she doesn’t seem to exist…”


I think I know EXACTLY what’s behind his mixture of whining and misogyny…

(Note: It’s not the women).

Once upon a time, there was a man…

This man only met negative people. It was almost bizarre.

Wherever he went, he became involved in brawls, lies and deceit.

Even though he was a perfect, positive, angelic creature…

Oh, wait a minute. I told it all wrong.

In fact, he was always negative, annoyed about everything and everyone, and when I think about it, I have never seen him in a good mood.

My cousin, however…

… is the complete opposite.

Whenever she goes on holiday, she’s totally thrilled about the fact that everyone was so friendly.

Even in places where almost no one would claim that the population is very friendly (*cough* Paris, London, Rome *cough*), she always meets charismatic, positive and amiable people.

This is probably because she is always positive. She has an infectious laugh, is sincere and generally interested in people and her attitude is that some people just need something to lose their negative shield.

With this attitude she makes people melt…

Yeah, even if they’re having a bad day.

>> 6 Tips to be Vulnerable with women key to intimacy.

Ever heard of the ‘Law of Attraction’?

You don’t dress what you want; you dress what you are.

Yeah, I know… that sounds like a lot of exaggerated guru talk. It partly is.

But to a certain extent, it’s true.

We humans are attracted to people who are similar to us.

But not only that.

We are also attracted to people whom we would like to be more like.

So, you’re looking for a great girl?

Then become a great person yourself.


This doesn’t only apply in the presence of beautiful women.

Tip #5: ‘But I don’t know what to say!’

Now you know where you can find women and not become a pathetic, cynical misogynist.

So far, so good.

But what do you say to a woman anyway?

Maybe the last time you approached a girl, you couldn’t get a word out.

Lucky for you, we’re about to settle a big question I get asked a lot:

“How do I keep a conversation going? Preferably without awkward silence…”

Well, whether embarrassing silence arises or not is YOUR responsibility.

The problem is that most men rely too much on women.

>> Daygame – the Lost Art of Approaching Beautiful Women Without Creeping Them Out.

They try to tease interesting topic out of her by asking her questions like:

  • Where are you from?
  • What do you do?
  • What are your hobbies?
  • What time were you born? (Oh shit…)

Remember that you yourself are a bookshelf full of enthralling stories.

It will be difficult to find a suitable woman if your conversations are short, meaningless and utterly boring.

Add spicy flavor to your patter.

She asks you what you do for a living?

Don’t answer:

“I’m a teacher.”

Remember the seasoning.

There are so many details, so much passion that you can add.

I see you want an example:

“What do you do?”

I am a geography teacher. I love to show the little monsters how to get the best out of themselves and their lives. Sometimes when I tell a story to the class, I see the students’ eyes light up. I see that they’re fascinated. That gives me a lot of energy. And what do you do?”

If you don’t see the difference between these two answers, you’ve to go back to first grade.

The story has become much more interesting.


Because we added pictorial detail.

This makes every conversation livelier in no time at all.

>> 3 Ways to Date a Women You Like The Way She Secretly Wants.

Tip #6: ‘How do I make a good impression?’

Most men know exactly what to do to make a BAD impression.

What many don’t know is how to make a GOOD impression.

Here it depends, of course, on your whole appearance.

Yeah, your visual appearance is part of it.

(I know my competition says otherwise…)

But don’t worry, you don’t have to look like Brad Pitt in ‘Once Upon a Time in Hollywood.’

The female brain can usually be stimulated much less by optical stimuli than the male brain.


This doesn’t mean that you’ve got the right to neglect your appearance.


  • Get yourself a clean haircut
  • Wear suitable clothing (no too wide shirts or trousers)
  • Make your teeth shine (regular brushing is usually enough, but if not, have your teeth bleached – why the hell not?)
  • Go to the gym (this is a must unless you are working out so hard in another sport that the gym becomes redundant)
  • If possible, grow a well-groomed beard (studies show that women like beards)

So much for your looks.

And now, for once, I’m going to say something that at first sounds vague and not very applicable.

But be patient, young padabro. I’ll be more specific in a moment.

Watch the energy you exude.

To illustrate why this is so important, imagine a guy in a club approaches you.

Guy #1 seems drunk because he has a sluggish expression on his face and a flabby posture.

Guy #2 seems aggressive because he frowns, and his muscles are more tense than necessary.

Guy #3 seems charismatic because he has a smile on his lips and a sparkle in his eyes.

Who do you have a sympathetic ear for?

Easy to answer, right?

So make sure that you exude positive energy.

How do you manage that?

  • Smile and laugh
  • Stand wide and stable
  • Stand up straight, with your
  • Remember that your eyebrows can move

All set?

No? Then click here, where I explain this to you in more detail. < facial expressions online soon

Yeah? Perfect, then we’ll continue.

>> 3 Controversial Ways How to Positively ‘Manipulate’ Women.

Tip #7: ‘I want a relationship! What exactly do I need to do?’

Sounds weird, but it’s true:

Many men want to swap places with you.

As you read this article, countless other people are unhappy in their relationship.

After all, a relationship involves sacrifice.

Short story:

A good friend of mine recently found himself in a conversation with a stunningly attractive woman.

And not only was she good-looking… no, no, no. The two of them got along better than he had got along with any human in a long time.

Nevertheless, he had to say goodbye to her forever in the end.


Because he’s a married man.

It’s noble of him to be faithful to his wife.

Nevertheless, he wasn’t spared to watch the blonde model dancing with another guy at the end.


What I’m trying to show you is that:

Many men want a relationship without knowing what they must give up for it.

I don’t just mean that you have to give up your sexual freedom.

You like to play ‘Grand Theft Auto’ late into the night? Cool, but remember you’ve got a girlfriend who needs your attention.

You like to go out with your buddy Mark? Cool, but what if your girlfriend can’t stand him?

A relationship means you’ve to make sacrifices.

If you’re in a healthy relationship, these sacrifices are worthwhile.

Nevertheless, it’s good to know the ‘price.’

(Of course, there is also the OPEN relationship model, which I personally prefer. Click HERE if you want to know more about it)

Tip #8: ‘How do I make a woman crazy about me?’

How do you make sure that she not only likes you but loses her mind just by looking in her eyes?

The secret lies in a decisive element of masculinity:


As strong as women seem or are…

…only a few of them are willing to take the lead in a relationship.

They do it when no one else does. But as a rule, they prefer to be led.

No matter where I am, I see relationships where the woman is clearly wearing the pants.

The guys wear their clothes, do what she says right away, and do everything wrong in her queen’s eyes.

And you know what I don’t see?

The respect that these women have for their husbands.

Do you believe, constant reader, that a relationship without mutual respect is a good relationship?

“Uh, no, I don’t think so, Dan.”


And do you know how women lose respect for you?

If you can’t lead.

If you don’t do it, your girl will take over that role.

And that makes her not feel feminine.

And she’s no longer sure she has a strong man on her side…

A woman wants to feel like a woman.

And she will only do that if you act like a man.

This includes taking the lead.

As Angelina Jolie says in the film ‘The Tourist’:

Women hate questions.

I hate to admit it, but she’s right.

>> 7 Ways to Be More Masculine: Feel Great and More Attractive.

Let me show you how this looks in practice.

Most guys ASK for a date:

“Hey, you want to get a cup of coffee sometime?”

Or worse:

“Hey, would it be cool if I asked you out on a date?”

Asking them in this way raises doubts. You’re relinquishing leadership.

Do women like that? No.

Women find it attractive if you can propose a date so confidently that these question marks don’t even arise.

My (noble) suggestion for improvement:

“Hey, let’s do something this weekend. I found a great bar with the best cocktails in town. Let’s go together, and I’ll pick the most delicious one for you.”

Have you already noticed how masculine and self-confident this kind of ‘asking’ sounds?

Tip #9: ‘What do I talk to her about?’

You seem like a great man. You’re still here. That shows you’re ambitious.

For this reason, I have decided to provide you with additional tips on how to lead a conversation.

Because when it comes to topics of conversation for dates, men always ask me this one question:

“What should I talk to her about?”

Note that this sentence contains the word ‘should.’

This already shows me EXACTLY what they’re doing WRONG.

Watch it.

The great thing about flirting is:

You don’t have to do anything.

Talk about what you WANT to talk about and not what you should talk about.

Here are some topics I could talk about for hours with my dates:

  • Sex
  • Lord of the Rings
  • Vikings
  • Video games
  • Martial arts
  • My noble job as a dating coach

While looking at this list, an amateur might get the idea that these are ‘unsuitable’ topics for dating.

But this isn’t an amateur gym.

We’re at AttractionGym.

That means we PASSIONATELY talk to women (and all other people too).

If you do that, you can talk about any topic.

A nerd who talks passionately about Star Wars is much more attractive than a guy who tries to be cool and only says what SHE wants to hear.

Tip #10: ‘What should I do on a first date with her?’

Let me guess.

You don’t want to become the guy that you’ve painfully bad dates with.

I know, I’m a genius.

Here are 5 quick tips to make you the man who has remarkably successful first dates:

  1. How you welcome her

A lot can go wrong at the beginning of the date.

And a bad welcome is a bad start.

Most men opt for a classic kiss on the left, kiss on the right – or the bourgeois business handshake.

Don’t do that.

Just let her walk into your open arms. Women love to run into your arms.

This is a very pleasant way of greeting, and it feels familiar – as if you’ve known each other for years.

  1. Sit down CLOSE to her

Sitting across from each other looks very formal. It’s an outdated form of traditional dating.

So it’s difficult to touch or kiss – after all, you have a table between you.

So, what do you do?

You sit next to her. Super simple and amazingly effective.

  1. Create a ‘we’ feeling

You sit next to each other. Instead of being forced to look at each other, you can look around.

You see a ‘couple’…

You whisper:

“How do you think they feel about each other? I think he loves her more than anything, but she sees him more as a buddy.”

Explosively, two things are created:

  • A lot to talk about
  • A ‘we’ feeling

“But Dan, isn’t it rude behind other people’s back?”
– The polite reader


But that would mean that we’re ALL rude.

If we are honest with each other, we like to talk about others.

It isn’t for nothing that gossip and gossip series such as ‘Big Brother’ or ‘The Bachelor’ are so popular.

If you like to gossip, you can assume that women are even more likely to do so.

So use your surroundings and you will see that your date will be more fun.

>> 47 Powerful Open-Ended Questions to Ask a Girl on a First Date.

  1. Take care of variance/ dynamics

Imagine you go to the movies.

You paid $12.50 for the film and you have high expectations.

The movie starts…

You see two people sitting in a bar.

An hour later, they’re still sitting in the bar.

Another hour goes by.

They’re still sitting in the same f*cking bar.

You are immensely disappointed and annoyed that you wasted your time with this film.

It’s the same with dating.

You want to have different scenes and settings in your date. This creates dynamics.

Take your lady to different places.

This is how something is created that I’ll call as of today the ‘ultimate boring dates killer’:

Refreshing variance.

Which you can plan before your date.

  1. Avoid run-of-the-mill dates

You can assume that an attractive woman has been on many first dates.

And so, on many similar dates…

Many men consider getting a coffee or going for a drink to be creative enough.

And if they would add a unique twist to the coffee date, they wouldn’t be so wrong.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be a hassle and expense if you want to knock a woman off her feet with an original date.

You just have to be a little creative.

Or read this article:

>> 35 Exciting Date Ideas: How to Have an Unforgettable Date

Tip #11: ‘Am I good enough for the right girl?’

I’m going to introduce you to two different men: Benjamin and Max.

This is Max:

As you can see, Max has eaten a little too much (and that’s a nice way of putting it).

Max lives with his mother in a basement apartment. He spends most of his day writing hate comments to videos on the Internet.

Yeah, he has a job. But he hates it. The highlight of his day is when he comes home at 5:00 and can finally hide behind his computer.

Long story short:

Don’t be like Max.

This is Benjamin:

Benjamin gets up every day with enthusiasm because he is looking forward to the challenges that his work brings.

In his spare time, he goes to the gym. The weight plates hate him because he smashes them.

He also likes to game. But he only does that for 40 minutes a day at most. Why should he play a character who explores a castle when he can do it himself?

Benjamin works hard on himself and does everything to explore a new part of his potential every day.

What I’m trying to tell you is:

Be like Benjamin.

There are endless reasons why Benjamin is more likely to find a woman than Max.

Probably the most important reason, however:

Benjamin lives with passion; Max doesn’t.

Something to savor slowly…

Tip #12: ‘I want to get married!’

It’s a beautiful day.

The sun is shining, birds are chirping and Timon and Pumba are singing ‘Hakuna Matata’…

Yeah, right. It’s your wedding day.

All your friends are there, and they’re looking forward to experiencing this beautiful moment with you.

You’ve got a confident smile on your face as you stand at the altar and wait…

The music is starting.

Here she comes.

She looks beautiful.

She looks at you with big, shining eyes. A broad smile appears on her face.

She stands before you and says with full conviction:

“Yes, I do!”

Sounds fantastic, doesn’t it?

Think again.

I’m not sorry for what I’m about to do. Someone has to do it…

Because now I’m going to smash your rosy but toxic Hollywood image like a vase thrown down the Grand Canyon.

If you REALLY want to get married:

Do that quietly (and send me a postcard if my tips were partly responsible). You’ve my fullest blessing.


At least be forewarned:

Getting married isn’t always the answer.

In many cases, it tends to lead to broken hearts, lost joie de vivre and buried masculinity.

Within a marriage, you’ve to make gigantic compromises. Think about it:

  • Children
  • Place of residence
  • Sexual exclusivity
  • Financial decisions
  • Legal decisions
  • Etc.

“But Dan, in every relationship you’ve got to make compromises.”

That’s right.

But if you don’t feel like making these compromises anymore, you just have – compared to a marriage – to go for a Thanos, snap your finger and poof … you’re a free man again.

Marriage complicates things.

And now you’re thinking maybe:

“But I don’t want to get divorced when I find the right girl.”

To that, I say:

How sure can you really be that you will find a person great forever?

There is no guarantee for this and there never will be.

Finally, you can have a fantastic relationship without necessarily having to get married.

Personally, I’ll get married at most only when I have children.

And probably it will be an open marriage even then.

But that’s just me.

You are a free (hopefully responsible) man and therefore you can do whatever you want.

Whatever you do on your way to find women:

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