Flirting At Work: 10 Keys to Navigate Between Heaven and Hell

In this article you’ll learn:

  • Why you should never focus on one hot coworker at work
  • Affair with coworker: How to make a woman at work fall for you without it ever being problematic
  • A genius trick that women use when flirting with coworkers (and how you can use it too)
  • The big advantage of flirting at work that you don’t have in a club or a bar
  • How to get her to seduce you instead of the other way around.
  • And much more…

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Flirting in the workplace is like defusing a bomb.

If you know what you’re doing and cut the right wire, you’re the nation’s hero. You get the woman of your dreams and earn respect from all sides.

But one false move and… *BOOM*… you’re the nation’s fool.

  • Women think you’re a pervert
  • Your colleagues make fun of you
  • You lose your job

None of these scenarios are unrealistic.

But the possible consequences are apparently not frightening enough…

Feminist campaigns like #MeToo made sure that nobody dares to flirt at work anymore.

Instead, flirting at work is immediately associated with sexual harassment.

But don’t worry, it’s not that black and white.

A survey conducted by discovered that 40% of employees have had a date with a colleague at least once.

25% even stated that they are married to a former work flirt.

So workplace flirting still seems to be an excellent opportunity to get to know the woman of your dreams.

>> 9 Ways to Flirt with a Female Friend Without Making Iw Weird.

How to flirt at work: 10 Tips

What do you’ve to consider if you want to seduce a colleague?

Usually, I like to say “be brave and willing to take risks”, because this is usually a clever strategy with women, but in the workplace you’ve to be more subtle.

So it’s good that you clicked on this article, because you’ll know exactly how to go about it.

In case you’re wondering: yes, I’ve had some interesting experiences.

An example:

Before my time as a dating coach, I had a holiday job at a big company where I flirted with my female boss. Well, you could say she flirted with me… But more on this later.

Let’s start with your basic mindset.

Tip #1: The path is the goal

I always recommend having a clear goal in mind – in all areas of life.

When flirting on the street or in a bar, this is a bulletproof strategy.

When you’re very direct with women, you give them a choice. She must either reject you or give you a chance.

I think that’s a good thing. In any case, it’s much better than half-assing it for a year and then realizing that you’ve wasted your time.

I consider this to be inefficient, and therefore I like to be direct with women. Sometimes even EXTREMELY direct…

But is this a strategy that I can also recommend for work?

Of course not.

Being too direct at work is creepy.

A woman can’t afford to respond to your obvious interest in public.

It’s in her best interest to keep her “price for sex” as high as possible. No woman wants to be “easy.”

Therefore, if you’re too direct with her in an inappropriate situation, she’ll react with a “What do you want from me?”, even when she secretly likes you.

So instead of flirting very directly and goal-oriented, you should do it without hidden agenda.

Bring the fun of social interaction itself to the fore and you’ll be more successful.

>> Seductive Eye Contact in Flirting: 5 Ways to Boost Attraction.

Tip #2: Flirt with EVERYBODY

A lot of people confuse flirting with the recitation of embarrassing pick-up lines.

Yeah, that too… but flirting is much more than that.

It’s not something you say or do, it’s an attitude to life.

You already know that it’s not a good idea to be too goal-oriented when it comes to getting that one woman. Instead, it’s smarter to flirt with ALL women.

Even with the unattractive women. Yes, ESPECIALLY with the unattractive women.

The reason is simple:

If you flirt with all women, even with the 50-year-old Mrs. Robinson, then everyone assumes that this is simply part of your personality (which it’s by the way).

I still remember far too well how the class clown of my former grade got drunk at a class trip, and took a huge shit out of the hotel window.

And you know what?

No one was mad at him.

No one made fun of him.

Instead, they said things like “Well, that’s just Andy…” or “Haha so typical!”

It’s a weird example, but you see what I’m getting at.

From now on you’ll find all women beautiful, interesting and special.

You want to work towards becoming the most social person at work. You’re the one constantly in a good mood, greeting all your colleagues and handing out quick and appropriate compliments.

To the lady in the canteen, you say:

“You’re an angel. Without you, I would never get through the day.”

To the intern that does the paychecks, you say:

“I know you can see what I earn, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to take you out to a five-star candlelight dinner.“

To the lady at the front desk, you say:

“When I look into your eyes early in the morning and hear your warm “good morning”, it gives me energy for the whole day.”

To the colleague who shares the office room with you, you say:

“So, how’s my favorite colleague today?”

You’re handing out love.

To ALL women.

>> 19 Tips How to Pick Up a Girl – Get Her Easily.

(No, you don’t have to sleep with everyone.)

Tip #3: Should you touch her at work?

I’m afraid I’ve to leave the touching up to you, because it’s just too dependent on where you work.

I know men and women who touch each other at work all the time – simply because it’s normal in their environment.

If you work in a bar, restaurant, fashion agency, etc., it’s very likely that – if you’re an attractive man – you’ll have a woman sitting on your lap at some point, or women will walk up to you to hug or kiss you.

Compare this to a serious office environment where one nudge can easily be too much, and you’ll realize how much you’ve to adapt.

If you’re not sure which category your work fits, observe the people around you – especially the women.

Women are generally much better adapted to social environments than men.

If they are very “touchy”, then it’s okay if you’re too – as long as you do it the right way.

You’ll find a “touch guide” in this article.

Tip #4: The big advantage of flirting at work

The situation at the workplace is quite different from the rush hour at a train station or in a crowded club.

You don’t have to get her number immediately, because otherwise she’ll jump into the next train never to be seen again.

You don’t have to constantly try to get her attention, because otherwise she’ll rejoin her friends on the dance floor.

You’re in a less chaotic setting at work. And you can use that to your advantage.

Finally you can flirt as cool as your favorite characters from movies.

An example:

Remember that movie Hitch – The Date Doctor“?

I certainly do, because unfortunately I get constantly reminded of it.

When I tell others about my job as a dating coach, the first thing they say is

“Aaaah! Just like Hitch?”

There are many reasons why I don’t like this movie, but there’s actually one scene that’s decent enough.

In this one, Will Smith flirts with Eva Mendez in a bar and demonstrates his non-neediness by saying at the very moment she starts to show signs of interest:

“It was nice to meet you.”

… And then he just gets up and leaves.

On the big screen it looks super cool and smooth, but in reality it doesn’t get you anywhere.

You may seem non-needy, but you’re GONE. The woman won’t run after you and will unfortunately have forgotten you the next day – if you’re even lucky enough to ever meet her again.

But at work, you actually have the opportunity to rock some Hollywood moves.

You see her regularly and in this setting she won’t immediately erase a conversation from her memory.

You can say a stimulating sentence and then suddenly and mysteriously disappear to create that “Wow… what a man…” effect.

An example:

“Why didn’t you come to the party?”

“Oh, I didn’t really feel like it. Besides, you would have been the only person I know. We would have hung out all night and how lame would that have been?“

“Haha, you don’t think it would have been fun with me?”

“Depends on what we would have done. But I’ve to go now… There’s a huge pile of paperwork waiting for me.”

And then you just disappear…

And you can be sure it’s going to be stuck in her head for a while.

>> Compliments for Women: #1 Guide to Make Her Melt for You.

Tip #5: Go to every party

At company parties you can seduce a colleague even if you haven’t yet implemented the above tips and nobody knows you.

All company parties where alcohol flows are ideal for flirting. Especially at Christmas parties, bad (or right) decisions are often made.

It may be morally reprehensible to recommend that you should take advantage of a woman’s alcohol level but…

It takes two to tango.

If after a boisterous company party she feels like going home with an attractive man and you find her sexy, I don’t see why not.

When I was 17 (and only had three hair on my balls), I had a summer job in a large company.

I was invited to a Christmas party where my female boss (33 years old) suddenly started flirting with me very directly:

“If you were my age, we’d be making out in a corner right now.”

Of course, nothing happened between us, because I was as innocent as the Virgin Mary, but it was still interesting to see that side of the usually so strict boss woman.

>> 7 Underrated Things Women Find Extremely Attractive in Men.

Tip #6: Stop & Go

She’s at work to work, not to flirt.

Even when she has this playful back and forth with you, she has this inner voice in her ear that constantly tells her to enjoy it with caution because you’re being watched.

That’s why it’s not good to always be on the offense.

However, there will be moments when offense will be required. And you must take 100% advantage of these opportunities.

In my time as a waiter, fate was on my side one evening. I was supposed to close the restaurant with one of my cute colleagues. It was obvious that we were into each other.

We were the last and only ones in the restaurant – an opportunity not to be missed. Who knows when the gods will favor you again.

So I said to her “Come with me quickly” and led her into the staff room, because I knew that there were no cameras.

Once there, I pulled her close to me and before she could finish the question “What are you going to do?” I kissed her.

I like to think back to that moment. There was electricity in the air, which we both could feel running through our bodies.

Let’s be honest: “We really shouldn’t be doing this” – kisses are the best kisses.


Use your common sense and pay attention to the flirting at work signs. If you don’t do this, it could end badly.

>> 27 Subtle Flirting Signs from a Woman You MUST Recognize

Push the flirt accelerator pedal when the perfect opportunity presents itself, and then brake abruptly and continue the working day as if nothing had ever happened.

It’ll drive her crazy in the most positive way.

Tip #7: Let her get her hands dirty…

Since we were talking about #metoo in the beginning…

The feminist representatives claim that there’s no equality between men and women in the workplace.

And they’re right.

A woman doesn’t have to fear losing her job for sexual harassment. With men, one inappropriate joke or comment can be enough.

But you can use this to your advantage by reversing the Buyer Seller Script. Let the women flirt with YOU instead of the other way around.

Just like James Bond. He seduces women in a way that almost makes it seem as if he can’t stop the woman from wanting to ride him till the sun goes up.

I’m not saying it’s easy to get women to chase after you. For that to happen, you must be a superior catch.

But there’s a trick you can use to make it look like this from the outside, and it’s called the framing effect.

Here is how it works:

You make use of subtle sexual humor where you imply that your coworker is hitting on you instead of the other way around.

An example:

“Have you written the report yet?”

(in a sexy voice)“You’re always hunting for my reports, aren’t you, Anna?”

“But you know I’d be lost without you, [insert your name].”

(still in sexy voice)“I’m sure you would find another solution. There’s always Harry.” (name someone she wouldn’t date in 100 years)

“No, your reports are the only ones for me.”

The advantage of this is that you can easily be professional again whenever the flirtation doesn’t “bite”.

So if she gives you a boring answer instead of flirty push back, you can switch back to “office mode” without it getting weird.

If you keep attacking her in this way, she’ll eventually want to live out her desire and take the initiative.

>> Want To Turn Her On? Try These 9 Dirty Talk Phrases and Tips.

Tip #8: Use excuses

Women are exceptionally good at it.

My former colleague from the restaurant used this trick on me.

She said:

“Hey, you know so much about psychology. I’ve got my exam coming up, and maybe you can help me with it.”

“help her”…

When she arrived at my place, we pretended for 10 minutes at most that it was actually about her exams…

I also had this type of experience with other women, and at some point I realized that it seems to be their thing to make excuses to meet you.

And when you think about it… it’s GENIUS.

For example, if you need to do project work with a colleague, you can suggest that you meet outside the office times to work on it.

It’s important that you’ve already followed all the other tips and made it clear through your voice and body language that it may not only be about your project.

It can even be helpful if she’s in doubt about what your real intentions are.

This makes things even more exciting, and so she doesn’t feel shabby when she comes to your place.

>> These 7 Tips Saved Me from Awkwardness on the First Meeting.

Another classic among the excuses is of course:

“Hey, let me walk you home for a little while.”

Tip #9: Master the art of love

This tip goes without saying.

But since it’s your colleague, it’s extra important.

You’ll see each other almost every day after sex, so make sure it doesn’t get weird between you.

You can do that by…

  • Giving her good sex
  • Flirting with her afterwards just like you did before
  • Being in a good mood the next morning

If you say to her after sex: “Well, you know where the door is”, and then fall asleep like a bear in the winter, it’ll certainly be unpleasant when you meet the next day in the canteen.

>> How to Please a Woman in Bed (Step-by-Step Guide)

Tip #10: Be discreet

I’m often asked questions like:

“Dan, how many women from your videos have you slept with?”


“The blonde at 02:35… Did you have a thing with her?”

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again:

I’ll NEVER tell you which or how many women I’ve slept with – no matter how often you ask me. So you better save yourself the trouble.

Yeah, I’ve been dating some women in my videos. With which and what happens on the dates is PRIVATE.

One of the reasons why I can sleep with so many women at the same time is because I keep it to myself.

It would be absolutely childish and would come out at some point if I trumpet it around, and the women would then no longer feel comfortable with it.

Discretion is particularly important in the workplace.

As soon as she finds out you told your colleagues about her, you can forget it.

It’s nobody’s business what goes on or what happened between you.

If you can’t keep it to yourself, then it’s best to call our homie Will Smith – this time in the role of one of the Men in Black – and ask him nicely to lend you his neuralyzer.

Now you know everything about workplace flirting

Don’t let the feminist slogans scare you.

Flirting at work is fun – for both men and women.

Imagine a world where it’s forbidden…

I know nobody wants to live in a world like that…

Nevertheless, flirting at work requires a lot of tact, competence and attentiveness.

If you don’t yet have these skills, you should first acquire them on the streets or in bars and clubs.

A coaching with AttractionGym is of course also helpful.

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I take you through my best flirting advice. Surely you’ll integrate some of it and immediately apply it at work.

Conversation techniques, copy-paste lines, flirting mentality… it’s all there for you.

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May you do well!

Your bro,
Dan de Ram

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