22 Flirty Text Messages (+ Examples) That Will Make Her Want You More

flirty text messages



How are you?

Good, how are you?


End of conversation.

It’s quite clear:

You need some fun and witty text messages to send to her.

Good news: your search is over.

Because in this article you will get…

  • 10 Flirty Text messages to send to her so you will never have boring conversations again.
  • The biggest mistakes men make over text (and how to prevent these).
  • The Las Vegas method to revive a dead conversation.
  • Funny texts examples you can steal.
  • How George W. Bush helped me to make my conversations more fun (true story).
  • And much more…

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“Help! What do I say?!”

I won’t have to explain to you that we live in an amazing digital era. We have endless possibilities at our fingertips, with means of communication such as WhatsApp and Facebook Messenger.

In the old days, people had to write letters with ink and quill to get in touch with that fair damsel from the next village.

Nowadays, it only takes us a simple touch of a button. We can easily get in touch with our dream girl from the other side of the world.

That’s all nice and dandy. but we also know that WhatsApp has a downside…

Does this sound familiar:

Your texting a cute girl whom you’ve met recently.

Everything is going well…

Until she sends a message where you have no answer to.

You’re lost for words. You feel that the conversation could die at any moment…

You have the same confused look on your face as I had during my chemistry classes.

Big-eyed, you’re staring at your screen.

Help? What do I say now?

It’s a struggle that many 21st-century men know. Sometimes texting a girl feels like mission impossible. Especially when that girl is your dream girl or crush.

Until today…

Because today we will help you out.

With the help of 10 cute and flirty text messages (+tips) you will learn how to make texting fun again. For you and for her.

Use these examples of fun and flirt messages wisely and she will not only get addicted to texting with you…

… but it will also make sure she can’t wait to meet you.

“Sounds good, Dan!”

That’s what I thought.

Let’s dive right in.

>> 15 Subtle Signs How to Tell if a Girl Likes You Over Text / Tinder / WhatsApp / Messenger.

Tip #1: Make her laugh with THIS message…

You know.

Us, men often makes it very difficult for ourselves.

While flirting over text we’re constantly looking to find the right words to say.

But sometimes… images work way better.

For example, take this video I sent to a girl the other day:

I added this caption while sending the video:

This is you.

Her reaction?

More  ‘hahaha’s’ than I could handle and the revival of a conversation after a week of radio silence.

Not everything has to be difficult. A funny, witty video with an original caption can already do the trick.

Tip #2: Dare to make your conversations sexy

A lot of men are absolute masters in making conversations boring.

This is because they choose to talk about boring subjects.

For example:

  • School
  • Studies
  • Work
  • The weather


I know: these conversations are more boring than a double period of chemistry at high school.

(Yep, I hated chemistry with a passion)

To make conversations fun and interesting again, you want to choose fun topics to talk about.

And which topic is the most fun of all?


Bingo my dear friend! I’m glad we’re on the same page.

“But Dan. how do I make my conversations sexier, without coming across as a creep?”

Good question. Which I will react to with a good answer.

Take this screenshot for example:

>> 10 Best Tinder Conversation Starters by Online Dating Experts.


With one simple message, you can change a ‘normal’ conversation into a sexy conversation.

Pro tip:

For another 15+ examples and tips I have my Texting Toolkit for you. Look it over and you will always know what to say.

Download it here for free.

Tip #3: Be a playful idiot

Remember when everyone wAs tYPinG lIke tHiS on MSN Messenger?

Maybe you don’t, because it was before your time.

Or maybe you quit doing it because this idiotic way of typing was giving you a major headache.

It is ridiculous. That’s why people don’t type like that anymore.


This clownish way of typing messages can still be used for sending fun messages over text.

For example:

You are texting your crush and you propose to meet each other at 6. pm at the local bar.

She replies:

Why so early?

Then you could send this:

Because I fucking said so.

Does that sound nice? No. Not exactly.

In fact:

It sounds very crude. Not nice for her to read at all.

But you could also answer like this:

bEcAuSe I fUcKiNg sAiD sO

By purposely writing your message in this funny way, the person receiving the message sees that you’re not being serious at all. It’s funny because it looks ridiculous.

MSN LaNgUaGe CaN mAkE yOuR cOnVeRsAtIoNs A LoT mOrE fUn B0i

tHaNk mE lAtEr.

>> Texting Etiquette 2020: 7 Golden Rules to Win Her Heart.

Tip #4: Bring negativity in a positive way

If there’s something that women – and men too – hate, it’s this:


Let’s face it.

Life is hard enough as it is. That’s exactly the reason why most people avoid negativity like it’s the bubonic plague.

But sometimes, things simply are f**ked up.

Like that one time, when I bought a ‘grandma’s meatball sub’ (yep, that really was the name) at the local sandwich stand.

I was hungry. I was craving a meatball sub. I took a bite…


It was absolutely disgusting.


The sub tasted like chemical shit. I promised myself I would never, ever buy a sandwich from that stand again.

While I was still recovering from the horrible terrorism my tastebuds endured, I got a text from a girl I was dating at that time.

Hey! What are you doing today?

Now, I could have replied in a very boring way, saying:

I just ate a very nasty sandwich

But not only is this message boring, it’s also negative. There’s nothing fun about a message like that.

Does that mean you can never say anything negative?

No, not at all. Negativity is simply a part of life.


You can bring negativity in a fun way

So I sent her a picture of ‘Grandma’s meatball sub’ with the following caption:

I think granny got her recipe from Chernobyl, that’s how chemical this sandwich is.

In this way, I’m saying something ‘negative’ ( the disgusting sub) in a fun way.

A lot more fun, plus you don’t sound like a grumpy old man in your messages.

Tip #5: A funny line that you can steal

In my humble opinion, I am not only a very good dating coach…

People also call me the bro of all bro’s.

And because I am the bro of all bro’s, I will give you a funny line that you can steal from me, no questions asked.

For nothing. Just as a present.

Here it is:

>> 12 Risk Free Ways to Tell Someone You Like Them Over Text (+ Screenshots).

This is another genius example of how to use humor to make your conversations more fun and sexual.

And the best part is:

There are 23 other lines you can steal, no questions asked

Yes: you’re reading this correctly.

Looks like Christmas came early this year:

Because in my Conversation Cheatsheet you will find 23 extra flirting lines you can use in real life to transform your date conversations to level ‘legendary’.

You can download the Conversation Cheatsheet right here.

Tip #6: The Las Vegas method to make every conversation into a party

In a couple of months I’m going to Las Vegas.

(And boy, I can’t wait!).

And do you know what the cool part is?

You too are going to Las Vegas.

But wait, there’s more…

You’re not going alone. Because you’re taking that cute girl you’ve been texting with.

Have you ever heard of the Las Vegas method?

The Las Vegas method is the ideal way to check if a woman is into you or not.

The Las Vegas method goes like this:

First, you ask the test question.

Which is as follows:

Wanna go to Las Vegas together this summer?

Obviously this question isn’t meant seriously. It’s a fun, flirty message.

When she likes you, she will respond in a fun or flirty way, such as:

Haha Yessss!

Okay, how much money are we gonna gamble away?

Haha getting married in Vegas!

Does she respond very curtly? Then she’s either a very serious person or she’s not (yet) open to flirt with you.

(When this happens, you want to make the conversation more fun. For example: use tip #1 from this article.)

Does she respond positively? Great! Then you can continue with the following image:

>> 7 Tips on Texting a Girl to Unlock Her Attraction (+ Examples).

You can also steal this picture, no questions asked. I’ll look the other way. That’s just how we roll.

When everything falls into place, this is the result:

The Las Vegas Method is an easy yet effective way to make your conversation 100 times more fun.

Tip #7: Texting tips from a US President

I want to share a little secret with you:

There’s a big picture of the 43rd president of the US, sitting on my desk at home.

And no, that’s not because I’m a huge fan of politics.

So, if I’m not a big fan of politics, why would I have a portrait of George W. on my desk?

Here’s why:

My best friend and I have known each other our whole lives. When we were younger, we always made sure to watch as many Bush press conferences as we could.


Because you would almost always be ensured to have a good laugh.

Sure, like any US President, Bush had his pros and cons. But when he appeared in the media there would almost always be a funny moment.


Since our childhood, George Bush has always been an inside joke between my best friend and me.

And do you know the best part of these jokes?

They’re amazing to use while texting a girl

That’s how I got this message from a woman I was dating:

She had seen the portrait on my desk one night when I took her home. The inside jokes (The former president of the US has seen us have sex) we continued on WhatsApp.

If I were to show this screenshot to a stranger, she wouldn’t know what she was seeing.

And that’s why it works so well.

So recycle inside jokes that you’ve had with women in real life and use them on WhatsApp.

You can also create your own inside jokes with a woman during a conversation like I did right here after I met her on the street.

(This girls’ name was Danique).

Inside jokes make your conversation more fun, funnier and it strengthens the connection between you and her.

>> How To Make Her Laugh – 10 Tips Girls Do ‘Not’ Want You To Know.

Tip #8: Use these copy-paste tips

I’ll admit it:

Coming up with fun and original text messages is not always easy.

Sometimes texting a woman feels like playing chess with a world champion. You have to think long and hard before you make a move.

Here at AttractionGym, we like to keep things simple.

Why think for hours about your texting strategies if you can simply copy and paste our tips?

I’ve developed the Texting Toolkit with 5 extra texting tips for you to use + 11 examples for you to copy.

You can leave your wallet at home because this cheatsheet is completely free.

You can download it by simply clicking this button.

Tip #9: Prevent these big texting mistakes!

If you were looking for a very effective way to repel women in record speed, then you’re in luck. Here it comes:

Ask. Really. Boring. Questions.

The Average Andy is an expert in this field.

Whether he’s in a bar, texting on tinder, or having a WhatsApp conversation.

Average Andy knows how to make a conversation more boring than if you were watching paint dry.

(And believe me, watching paint dry is fuuuuuuuuuuuucking boring.)

So what kind of questions does the Average Andy use? For example:

How are you?

Did you have a fun night?

How is your day going?


Sorry, I’m waking you up, bro.

But you probably needed that annoying alarm after reading those extremely boring Average Andy questions.

My dear reader.

I want you to promise me something:

Stop asking boring questions over text.

Not only is this boring for you and her…. but you’re also making a critical mistake by continuously asking boring questions.

Because you know what.

If you are constantly asking women question after question, you are basically sub-communicating the following to her:

“I absolutely have no clue what to talk about, so I’m just going to ask questions, hoping you will come up with something fun to talk about.”

Is this a good strategy?

In one word:


By only asking questions, you are just ‘taking.’ You’re not adding value.

A little bit like this dude from Tinder:

(Admittedly, I had a bit of chuckle when I saw this message for the first time.)

>> 5 Uncommon Tinder Tricks to Match+Date Hotter Girls in 2020.

This is what it’s about:

Shift your mindset from ‘taking’ (continuously asking questions) towards ‘giving’ (making jokes, sending interesting messages, and funny videos/pictures).

You will make her (and yourself) much happier if you are giving instead of continuously taking. You selfish bastard!

(This was a joke, by the way. Did you have to smile? Great. Now you know how nice it is when someone gives something cool.)

“But Dan, women don’t always do this themselves! A lot of women are extremely boring on WhatsApp, or their reaction is very dull.” 

On the one hand, this is completely true.

But on the other hand, you should realize that she might be giving boring answers because the guy she’s texting with is very boring.

A lot of men make the following mistake:

They ask closed questions

Closed questions are questions that can only be answered with a ‘Yes’ or a ‘No.’

Questions such as:

Do you have any fun plans this weekend?

Did you have fun yesterday?

Did you also read  that amazing article about fun text messages?

(Admittedly, that last one is a  lot better than the first two.)

But you will still lead the conversation to a boring yes/no answer by asking boring questions.

No wonder that she reacts so dull.

Avoid asking a lot of (closed) questions and you will see your conversations will be more fun and start flowing.

Tip #10: NEVER do this in a first message

The life of a dating coach is not always easy.

We help a lot of people, we travel around the world, we are working on our passion and every now and then we get a message like this from one of our female fans in our inbox:

Dan! I want to have a drink with you 😉

Oh oh oh…it’s a hard-knock life.

This girl couldn’t wait to go for a drink, that much was clear.

Her strategy was immaculate:

“I’m just gonna crash into Dan’s inbox with 100 mph and ask him directly if he wants to go out for drinks.”

This strategy is also deployed by a lot of men.

They get a girl’s phone number, or they meet a cute girl on Tinder…

And the first thing – out of the blue – they propose, is to go on a date.

(Or even worse, the first message they write her is: “Wanna bang?”.

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You see.

This is how I look at it:

There are two kinds of men…

Man #1 is super careful with everything. He is the typical nice guy.


This man takes the ‘safe’ route. He chooses to chat with a girl for months before asking her out on a date.

Does this work?

I will give you the answer:

Waiting too long to suggest going on a date is not a good idea…

Think about it:

Texting is, and always will be a means to an end. In this case, getting her out on a date and meeting her in real life.

Chatting for hours on end might be ‘nice,’ but it doesn’t accomplish much.

On the other side of the spectrum, we have the guys who try to close the deal waaaaaay too fast.

With Sonic the Hedgehog speed, these guys try to arrange a date in their very first message.

But that too usually fails.

You want to find that middle ground.

Especially if you don’t know her so well, you want to start the conversation slowly but surely.

Break the ice, have fun conversations with the tips from this article. Making sure you receive signals that she actually likes you:

  • She responds (fast) to your messages
  • She responds positively to your messages
  • She sends you photo’s or video’s
  • She starts the conversation now and then
  • She flirts with you

Now, don’t chew her ear off and pull the trigger.

(No, not that trigger, dirty boy)

I’m talking about:

Locking in that fun date.

And if you need some extra special date ideas to blow off her socks, check out this article:

>> 35 Exciting Date Ideas that Do Make Impact

One more extra for you…


With the 10 tips from this article, you will transform your conversations from dull and boring to interesting and fun in no-time.

Apart from all the messages, tips and copy-paste lines you got, I have one more thing for you before we say goodbye:

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In this package, you will find even more tips for your texting game.

But that’s not all…

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I wish you a lot of fun with all the online conversations you are going to have with all the beautiful women this planet has to offer.

Have fun, bro!
Dan de Ram

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