
You’re talking to a girl.
Suddenly, your head goes blank and the conversation stops.
You feel a pulse in your stomach and start sweating.
You look at her. You can’t come up with anything to say.
So you stand there in an awkward silence that makes you feel very uncomfortable.
Yeah, man… Awkward silences suck.
But after reading this article you’ll know how to avoid them.
What you get:
- 5 Tips on how to avoid awkward silences
- 7 Ways to never worry about the conversation dying again
- What the Brute-Force method is and how to use it to break uncomfortable silence
- Bonus: Who the Awkward Turtle is and why it’s going to save your life
- How you can keep a conversation going on a date
- The power of silence: How to increase sexual tension in less than 4 seconds
- Much more to avoid Mr Awkward Silence…
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Tip #1: 7 ways to avoid awkward silence in a conversation
Without even noticing, you’ve been applying filters in certain situations.
For example, at work:
You avoid using swear words to have a professional attitude with your clients or colleagues. You’re polite and politically correct because it’s what you’re expected to be in a working atmosphere.
That’s great. These filters are very useful.
But not in every situation.
Especially not on a date with a cute girl.
When you’re on a date:
- You want to make the conversation interesting
- You don’t want to come across as creepy by not using certain words
- You also want the conversation to be chill and fun
To meet these criteria, you apply filters in the conversation. Way too many filters.
Then there comes a point when you’ve used so many filters that nothing you could potentially say is good enough to get past all of them.
Say hello to Mr. Awkward Silence.
So here’s the first way to avoid awkward silence:
1. Remove filters
It might seem ironic to you, but as soon as you remove those filters, women become way more attracted to you.
If you want to know why women are attracted to guys who don’t have filters, here’s an article on what exactly makes women attracted to men:
>> 7 Underrated Things Women Find Extremely Attractive in Men
Let’s go through the 6 other ways to avoid awkward silence.
2. Ask the right questions
“How’s it going?” > “Good” > *Awkward silence*
You might be familiar with this scenario.
Ideally, your questions should be answered with more than one word. This way, any conversation will flow nicely.
So how does it work? For example, instead of asking:
- “Did you have a good day?”
Ask:
- “What was your day like?”
“Why” questions always do the trick too.
You might need some examples though.
Right here, my friend:
>> The Only 111 Get-To-Know-You Questions for Dating You Need
3. Use the ‘Yes, and…’ rule
More about this in Tip 3
4. Look, listen and observe
Here’s something you can do right now:
Look around you and think about what catches your eye.
When I go on a date with a girl, I always enjoy doing some people-watching with her.
For example:
That’s a great way of having a chill atmosphere during the date and keeping the conversation going at the same time.
5. Use your body language
When you’re having a conversation, don’t just open your mouth to talk.
Use your hands, your eyes, hell, your whole body!
Having a vibrant body language is how you come across as a confident, masculine guy.
Of course, there are other ways to display masculinity. Seven ways, actually.
Because it’s such a broad topic, I had to write a full article about it. Check it out here:
>> 7 Ways to Get a More Masculine Edge (to Balance the Feminine)
6. Live in the now
When you’re talking with someone, don’t get distracted by the things that pop up in your mind.
Focus on what the other person says and sub communicates.
That’s the best way to never run out of conversation topics (more on that later.)
7. Use the Transformation Kit
The Transformation Kit is a toolkit full of conversation tricks and flirty lines to avoid awkward silences and become an attractive guy.
Tip #2: The Brutal-Force method
In this tip, we’ll see how you can break any awkward silence.
First, here’s what you should never do:
- Ask a boring question to fill in the silence
This is going to suck the energy out of the interaction and makes things even more awkward than they were before.
- Instead, you want to use the Brutal-Force method.
What’s that?
It all comes down to one word: enthusiasm.
The truth is, what you say doesn’t matter that much. The way you react changes everything.
Whatever you do to break an unpleasant silence, do it with strength and energy.
Next time you’re dealing with an awkward silence, use this method and see how your enthusiasm helps to shift the attention to something else.
This way the conversation keeps going as if there was never a silence.
Tip #3: The “Yes, and…” rule
Here’s a tip on how to be a great conversationalist.
When you ask a question, give an opinion, or make a comment, always use the “Yes, and…” rule.
Let’s take an example:
You say:
She answers:
She just broke the “Yes, and…” rule.
That makes it pretty hard for you to continue the conversation.
Pro tip:
The “Yes, and…” can also take the form of the “No, and…”.
You don’t always have to agree with everyone!
Here’s how she could have reacted better:
Now it’s much easier for you to answer and keep the conversation going strong.
So use the “Yes, and…” rule yourself as well to avoid awkward silences.
This will help you become better at keeping a conversation going with a girl.
However, if you really want to master this skill, check out this article:
>> 21 Examples of How to Keep a Conversation Going With a Girl
Tip #4: The Awkward Turtle
Here’s a great solution to avoid awkward silence.
Ever heard of the Awkward Turtle?
Well, try it yourself right now:
- Put your hands together, palms down.
- Move your thumbs.
That’s it!
Too silly for you? That’s the idea, my friend.
Let’s suppose you’re on a date with a girl, and suddenly here it comes: Mr. Awkward Silence.
Perform the Awkward Turtle and see how she looks at your hands with curiosity and amusement.
She asks, laughing:
There you go, the conversation is on again.
Not only did you just break the silence, but you also did it in a fun way.
Tip #5: How to avoid awkward silence
Usually, when a date goes wrong, it’s because you didn’t prepare it properly beforehand.
So how do you prepare a date to make a good first impression?
For example:
- Talk to someone on the way to meet her to get in a social mood
- Listen to some upbeat music beforehand
- Do some sport or dance for a relaxed body and mind
If you don’t make a good first impression on a date, you’ll have to make extra effort to get the vibe back on track.
The girl will start to look for other flaws instead of focusing on the positive side of you.
However, if you make a powerful entrance, she’ll think:
Tip #6: How to increase sexual tension in less than 4 seconds
Research has shown that silences can have a strong effect on people in a social situation.
But silences don’t have to be awkward.
Let’s say you’re on a date with a beautiful girl. Suddenly the conversation dies, and here comes the silence.
Depending on how you deal with it, this silence might increase either awkwardness or sexual tension.
Yes, silences can make a girl horny as f*ck. In no more than 4 seconds.
So how do you use silence at your advantage to create sexual tension during a date?
You have to be comfortable with silence in a conversation.
It might take some practice before you achieve that (more on that in the last tip)
Once you are comfortable with silences, a few things will happen:
- You’ll come across as self-confident
- You’ll become more attractive
- You’ll be able to lead the interaction
- You’ll be able to create sexual tension in 4 seconds
- You’ll know how to spark more exciting conversations
- You’ll be able to actually enjoy the silence
No worries though, it’s unlikely that the date turns into a staring contest. Science shows that people have a natural urge to fill in silences.
Think about it: On a date, if there’s a silence, the girl might feel uncomfortable. But when she looks up and notices that you’re still very chill and comfortable, you’ll come across powerful, confident man.
And women are attracted to that.
Now, is it the only thing women are attracted to?
Of course not.
Read this article to know all the qualities that are attractive to women:
>> What Makes Women Attracted to Men? 11 Irresistible Qualities
Tip #7: How to make things not awkward
Here are some common mistakes most men make when dealing with embarrassing silence:
- They look away
- They fidget or move their body back and forth
- They try to fill in the silence with random onomatopoeias
- They laugh nervously
Instead, what you want to do is keep looking at her, standing there, imperturbable as a rock.
This is a great way of displaying a sexual vibe and awaken her sexual attraction.
Side note:
It can be tricky to understand how exactly female sexual attraction works.
No worries, I wrote a full article about it, check this out:
>> Sexual Attraction – 15 Things She Wants You to Know, But Will Never Tell You
It might even be the perfect time to touch her or kiss her.
The following quote says it all:
Here’s my addition:
Tip #8: How to be comfortable with silence in a conversation
As discussed in Tip #6, it might take some practice before you achieve being comfortable with silence in a conversation.
So what can you do to practice?
There’s only one way: Meeting a lot of women.
Experience is the best teacher. The more dates you score; the more opportunities you have to become comfortable with silences.
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