How To Get a Relationship? 7 Simple Steps

In this article you learn:

  • What you should know BEFORE you start looking where to find a girlfriend
  • “I want a relationship”: Why a date marathon helps you get to know the ONE
  • How you effectively manage to make a woman fall in love with you and become a real girlfriend
  • The #1 rule you should ALWAYS follow when you’re looking after tips on how to get a GF
  • And many more tips on how to get into a relationship…

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Listen, bro…

It has come to my attention that it seems to be a challenge for you to get a girlfriend.

Here you sit now, on the verge of despair, hoping that your favorite dating coach has a few encouraging words for you.

Tzzz… what do you think of me? I’m not your great-aunt!

If you hear a “Stay tuned, you’re on the right track! You just haven’t met the right one yet. Stay the way you are”, then you’re 100% at the wrong address with me.

I mean, let’s be honest: How helpful are these statements really?

My opinion: If it’s a challenge for you to get a girlfriend, then you’re definitely not on the right track.

I’m sorry to smack the truth into your face like that.

But I also have some good news that you’re going to like:

Securing the attraction of a single woman for you is easier than you think.

To get to the point: You can achieve this in 7 simple steps.

Step #1: “How to get a good relationship?” – Don’t try to get a girlfriend!

This seems like a contradiction for beginners, but everyone who’s successful with women knows this:

If you try too hard to get a girlfriend, you seem more needy than an annoying little kid with a propeller cap.

If you see women as girlfriend-material from the beginning and you imagine how you’ll grow old together, she’ll smell your neediness six miles away.

As a result, you’ll have to spend your nights alone with your teddy bear and a big box of tissues; that’s guaranteed.

And if you suggest a relationship before she even shows signals that she’s open to that idea, you’ll be roasted like a shrimp on a blazing grill.

As you can see, I really want to make it clear how unattractive this behavior is…


Because it’s fucking unmanly.

From an evolutionary point of view, it should be her job to get an attractive man to commit, rather than the other way around.

Listen. An adult male ejaculation contains 250 fucking million sperm cells. You could impregnate virtually the entire female population.

Speaking of “pregnancy”: A woman risks being fertilized with every sexual intercourse.

With this information in the back of our minds, we now climb into my imaginary time capsule and travel to the stone age.

We see Stone Age man “Uga-Aga” and Atone Age woman “Ugi-Bugi” looking at each other lasciviously.

For Uga-Aga there is no reason from a biological/evolutionary point of view to get involved only with Ugi-Bugi. He has a lot of interested women, functioning testicles and is fit like a sneaker.

But what about Ugi-Bugi?

There are no contraceptives yet and during this time pregnancy was often life-threatening. Who will take care of her? Who will protect her? Maybe Uga-Aga??

If she could just get him to commit to her…

But he’s so popular…

Therefore, she gives her absolute best, shows him her most feminine side and tries to make him want to keep her as a steady partner.

Okay, I think you can follow me…

Then let’s get back into my time capsule and travel back to our present time, even if it’s a little fucked up…

Because it should also look EXACTLY like that here! If you’re an attractive man, then getting a girlfriend is the easiest thing in the world, because women will fight to finally be able to bind you to them.

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But if you shouldn’t focus on getting a girlfriend, what should you focus on?


Step #2: Focus on dates

Even if you want to find that one woman who’s perfect for you, chances are low that it will be the first one you go on a date with.

You may have to go on MANY dates to meet a lady who is a good match for you.

For most men, this path is too challenging, which is why they make the first woman they meet who is reasonably interested their girlfriend.

The result?

Behold, another typically relationship that’s more dispassionate than a chewing gum in a urinal!

Raise your hand if you know at least one such couple.

Oh, so many…

Watch it.

If you go on a lot of dates, it’s likely that one of them will become serious… just by allowing it!

These dates will also boost your confidence and sharpen your flirting skills. The more dates you have experiences, the less needy you’ll be with women.

This often leads to women fighting for YOU instead of the other way around.

And look at it from the side: Your search for Mrs. Right will be less lonely, sexually desperate and boring with a date marathon. Not only does it make it easier, it also makes it more fun!


Don’t worry about her thinking you’re a player.

In fact, this is even a good sign!

Women would never admit it, but they find womanizer highly attractive.

The question “But Dan… won’t I get the reputation of a player?” I can answer with ease:

Yeah, you’ll get it. And you must cherish it as if it were the one ring.

Step #3: Make a list

Let’s say you’re a belching country bumpkin with a beer gut who spends his entire weekend in a smoky village pub…

… do you really expect to seduce an intelligent city girl studying law?

Toyota says anything is possible, but let’s put it this way: It’s extremely unlikely.

If you want a girlfriend, you should ask yourself one question:

What do you have to offer her?

Even if your seduction skills are at AttractionGym coach level, your chances of attracting a woman’s long-term interest are slim if you have nothing else to offer.

Don’t get me wrong, you’ll still have no trouble bringing women home…

But don’t be surprised if they don’t get back to you afterwards.

If you can’t offer women anything don’t ask yourself “Why can’t I get a girlfriend?”.

To prevent this, you should first make a list of all the things you can offer your dream woman.

Answer these questions:

  • What does a woman want from you?
  • Why would she want to make YOU her boyfriend?
  • What would she brag about to her friends when they talk about you?

If your list ends up looking like this…

… Then make it your primary mission to change that BEFORE you start looking for a girlfriend.

So, it’s better for you to never stop working on these areas of life:

  • Health: The fitter you are, the more energy you have to lead a horny life.
  • Social life: Get badass friends. No woman likes guys who swamp her with tons of messages because they have no one else.
  • Financial situation: Wealth isn’t necessary, but wealthy men can offer a woman a more exciting life than strays.
  • Looks + charisma: If your girlfriend wouldn’t proudly introduce you to other people, then you can forget it right away. For this you need a certain level of charisma and attractiveness.

For this I have three articles that will help you:

>> 10 Tips – Dress to Impress for Men (Ladies LOVE This)

>> ‘Am I Unattractive?’ + 10 Other Biggest Self-Sabotaging Turnoffs

>> 12 Exercises I Used to Become More Confident Around Girls

Step #4: Online dating

Now that you know where you stand, it’s time to locate all the single señoritas.

Potential girlfriends can basically be met everywhere. In clubs, bars, on the street, with your friends…

But if you’re wondering “Where are single ladies gathered in one place?

On your smartphone.

Did you know that 1 out of 3 relationships today stem from online dating?

I can also confirm this from my own experience. Tinder has already given me two relationships (apart from countless one-night stands), for which I’m very grateful.

Tinder has turned out to be my favorite dating app so far, but there is a perfect alternative for everyone.

The only “problem” with Dating Apps – which a man like you won’t be put off by – is that countless other men have come up with the idea of abusing them for their love happiness.

The result is that women are confronted with bad texts every day.

If you want to get off to a good start on Tinder, Bumble or other dating apps, then it’s essential to have a clean profile and be able to write great messages.

Also, for this I have already prepared the best articles for you. You’re welcome…

>> 7 Tinder Profile Tips to 10x Your Matches (Even if You’re Not Brad Pitt)

>> No Likes On Tinder – No More: 11 Ways To Beat The ‘Competition’

>> 3 Ways to Make an Irresistible Online Dating Profile Text (+ 5 Examples)

Step #5: Date like a boss

So, my friend. Now we aren’t talking about quantity, we’re talking about quality on your first dates.

Because if you really want to get a woman excited about you, then it’s anything but irrelevant if a date with you is a nice experience.

My suggestion for you is to become a master of first dates.

It’s helpful to see the first date as a kind of foretaste for women.

It’ll give her a taste of what it would be like to be with you.

You’re unoriginal, limp and reserved on first dates? Then it’s unlikely that she’ll dream of a relationship with you at night.

However, if you can give her a first date, which she has never had with any man before, then she’ll logically want to see you again.

I don’t have to explain why that is.

In this video you’ll learn how to make first dates a guaranteed success:

Step #6: Do her

This step is about getting her so addicted to you that she dreams of marrying.

An effective way to ensure EXACTLY that is to turn your sex life completely upside down.

The bad news is that if the sex with you isn’t good, this can be a major reason for her not to have a relationship with you.

And rightly so! Sex is one of the fundamental tenets of a relationship.

The good news is that it’s surprisingly easy to stand out from the average dude in bed.

There are 3 things that make women weak from lust, but which very few men actually do:

  1. Being dominant in bed
  2. Dirty talk
  3. Bringing her to orgasm (multiple times)

Anyone can become a sex god with practice and the right tips.

So, you have a higher addiction potential to women than crystal meth.

Side note:

Are you asking yourself WHEN should you sleep with a woman if you want a relationship with her?

Yeah? The short answer: As early as possible.

At best after the first to fifth date.

I know some guys who go on dates with women for half a year without sleeping with them. HALF A YEAR!! What the hell?!

If you do that, you run the risk that she’ll seek sex elsewhere and in the meantime sleep with me. And I don’t know if that’s what you want.

Step #7: What next?

Okay, you went on exciting dates with a woman and had hot sex…

In most cases, she’ll then take the initiative and propose a relationship to you. But what if she doesn’t?

There are two methods on how to start a relationship with a girl:

  1. The dominant prompt
  2. The play-it-safe method

The dominant prompt is simple and direct. Basically, what you do is this:

You take your flame out. Preferably to a fancy restaurant.

After a few jokes and some small talk, you suddenly say out of the blue:

“Oh, by the way, you’re my girlfriend now.”

This is so self-confident and masculine that she can hardly help but accept. And even if she does object, her respect for you will definitely increase significantly and you can follow up on another day.

However, this method is more suitable for those cases where you’re sure that you’ll come together.

If you aren’t sure whether she feels the same way about you, you can optionally use the play-it-safe method.

It looks like this:

After the highlight of a nice date or even better, when she’s in your arms after sex, you ask her:

“How would it feel for you if I introduced you as my girlfriend from now on?”

If she answers with a “good!” then congratulations, you now have a girlfriend!

The awesome this about this method is that – in contrast to the dominant prompt – you can’t get rejected harshly.

After all, you’re only asking hypothetically.

“How do I get a girlfriend?” – The #1 rule if you want a relationship

So, now you know 7 effective steps to get a girlfriend.

However, there is one important rule that I would like to recommend to you in conclusion.

If you don’t follow it, you’ll suffer. Believe me, I’ve been through it all…

The rule is:

Don’t invest in her based on how much you like her. Invest based on how much she invests in YOU.

That means among other things:

As long as you only meet her sporadically and she isn’t yet fully engaged with you, DON’T STOP being interested in other women.

And there is no reason to feel bad about it! Why would you offer a woman something she’s not offering you?

Is that clear?

Well, then you’re now officially ready to get a badass partner.

Good luck!

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