“Dan, I’m beginning to lose faith in women…
I get to know a woman, take her out on one or two dates and then it happens:
She’s loses interest in me.
I put a lot of effort into my texting, dates and conversations to really get to know her.
But she seems more and more absent with each additional minute that passes. I just don’t know what it is.
How the hell do I keep a girl interested?”
Messages like these keep on sliding into my inbox.
And that’s exactly why I will show you today:
- How you get your lady to pine for your messages and keep her interested effectively
- How to create memorable moments that take your connection with your chosen one to the next level
- My step-by-step plan, with which you give the term ‘chick magnet’ a completely new meaning
- The best way to keep a women’s interest
- And much more tips on how to keep a girl interested in you…
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Awakened her interest? Check! How to keep her interested?
Bro, whether you’re presently dating one or more beautiful women…
… or are even currently in a relationship with a chica bonita… You don’t want your lady to lose interest in you (as is the case with our email amigo).
After all, you want to enjoy epic experiences with a woman who is willing to give her best for you and don’t want to be condemned 24/7 to bitter loneliness with your right hand.
Regardless of whether your current goal is…
- A long-lasting friendship with benefits
- A monogamous relationship with a woman
- Or an open relationship…
If you have no idea how to awaken interest in women (and keep it), you’re going to be…
- Doomed to spending candlelit dinners with your Vaseline-covered mitts
- Or in the best-case scenario: having meaningless one-night stands with the odd drunken girl you don’t even like
Doesn’t sound like a bright future…
That’s why in this article I will give you 3 tips to keep her lovingly by your side.
- No more losing interest
- No more flaking
In conclusion, after applying the tips in this article, you will already have awakened enormous interest in you in your chosen one.
Today, you and I are going one step further.
With the help of 3 simple tips, I will show you not only how to keep her interested.
Moreover, in this blog post, you will learn how to become IRRESISTIBLE to your mademoiselle, so that she fights for you.
I like your ambition! ;P
Let’s jump right in..
*Cracks his knuckles*
Here they are:
Tip #1: Don’t give her attention all the time
Most men consider it a genius idea to contact women non-stop to keep her interested.
Even if their beloved doesn’t answer them, they try their luck (sometimes even for months !).
When they notice their messages aren’t exactly the sh!t to win their lady, they try the following:
They stalk them like the NSA to mark every single photo of her with a ‘like’ on all social media platforms.
Regardless of whether you’ve already been on one or more dates with your ma’am, or are even in a relationship with her…
When you give a woman your full attention unconditionally, without her giving you any attention in return, something is seriously wrong.
You’re hereby sub communicating:
Nothing in this world has a higher priority for me than your excellency.“
Nothing in this world has a higher priority for me than your excellency.“
Not exactly a beacon of confidence, is it?
You put her on a pedestal and subordinate to her as if you were a trampled maggot.
From your señorita’s perspective, your attention is not worth anything either.
After all, she has to do nada to get it.
As soon as she notices this fact, you run the risk of becoming her personal puppet, with whom she can play around as she pleases.
What? You want to know how to achieve the opposite?
Get your chica to give her best to get a fraction of your attention?
Then do the following:
Shift your focus.
Set new priorities in your life:
- Focus on your career goals and work for the promotion that you always wanted.
- Create memorable moments with your homies by traveling with them, going to festivals or going out for the weekend.
- Do the things you wanted to do decades ago: Learn to play the instrument you always wanted to play or learn any kind of martial arts you have always been passionate about.
Because if your life isn’t only based on the existence of your chosen one, something magical happens:
Due to you having epic things going on next to her, you automatically tend to pay less attention to your flame.
For example, you text her much more sporadically and save your stories for real-life encounters with her, the arranging of which has become the main purpose of writing for you.
Besides, you don’t have 365 days a year for her.
You’re a busy man following bigger purposes.
Once you have time for her, you will, of course, give her your full attention during your date.
But as soon as you go back to your schedule-filled, everyday life, you rein in your contact with her.
After all, you can’t answer her within milliseconds if you’re about to jump through a ring of fire while riding a dolphin.
No, quite the opposite….
This will create SPACE for her to MISS you. And space for her to become interested in you.
In the hours or days when you don’t have time to discuss the health of her iguana via text, she thinks back to the fantastic experiences she has already had with you.
Once you contact her, her euphoria towards you is even more gigantic.
You’re making her feel like…
- Your attention is a rarity
- You have dozens of opportunities to transform your time into true quality time without her
- Your life is a single adventure and you enjoy every single second of it to the fullest – being independent
Tip #2: Bless her with memorable moments
She nestles up against my shoulder and gives me a tender kiss.
We sit on a wooden bench.
Right in front of us:
A majestic panorama that is unrivaled.
“Look, Dan!”, she points, with her index finger, to a castle that lies on a tiny island in the middle of a lake.
A few hours ago, we were munching on some snacks at a campground near Graz.
And now, arriving at the Ojstrica viewpoint in Bled (Slovenia), we philosophize about how to take over the world.
We are both on cloud nine and feel enormously connected to each other.
For four months.
And this even though we’re not even in a committed relationship.
I’m interested in her, and she’s enthusiastic about me.
Listen up, muchacho.
You don’t have to go on a two-week road trip with camping overnight, sleeping under the star-like I did to keep a girl interested in you …
Rather, it’s the essence behind my road trip with which you can win her heart:
Imagine yourself in a relationship with an attractive woman.
At the beginning of your relationship you share incomparable experiences.You’re on holiday in Gran Canaria, where you water-ski together towards the sunset.
You regularly travel to various festivals and celebrate your ‘spiritual kinship’. And ‘going to the gym together’ has been part of your agenda since you fell in love.
But after a few months it happens.
Your lady’s getting more and more lazy. Travel with you? No, she has lost her spirit of adventure.
She prefers to fool around on the couch. Preferably with a fatty pizza in one hand and a canned beer in the other.
She hasn’t seen the gym for weeks, which is more than evident from her new ‘life rings’.
Sex? Dispassionate. You rub your genitals together for about ten minutes and then fall asleep.
Sometimes, you even voluntarily pass on it.
After all, you lack variety.
What do you think?
Does that sound like a woman you want to spend the rest of your life with?
And despite this, countless men bring exactly this attitude towards their chosen ones, while they wonder why their ladies lose interest in them.
No human being on this planet wants to have a partner at their side who is stagnating lifelessly.
So, if you want to keep a woman interested and in love, do the following instead:
Ignite the spirit of adventure in her and…
- Take her on epic dates (creative date ideas can be found in this articles I’ve written for you):
35 Exciting Date Ideas: How to Have an Unforgettable Date
- Travel with her to cities/countries you always wanted to visit
- Bring variety to your bedroom and:
What Women Want in Bed: 10 Ways to Be Her Sex God
- Go with her to festivals/concerts
Tip #3: The most effective way to keep women’s interest
No other adjective describes the average American better.
And to show you how I came to this frightening realization
… once again, I’ve spared no expense and effort to create an eye-opening illustration with old AttractionGym precision for you:
You know what I think the scariest thing about this chart is?
Apart from sleeping, the average American spends most of their entire life working – which, by the way, they often detest – and spend almost 3.5 (!) hours soullessly squatting in front of the tube every day.
Three hours and 19 minutes a day equate to 23 hours and 13 minutes a week, which is about 93 hours a month and about 1,116 hours a year!
I once calculated how often I go on dates. The number came suspiciously close to the frequency that the average American watches TV.
But bragging aside.
The danger with television is in the way it influences you SUBCONSCIOUSLY.
It blunts you and incites you to stop trying your best.
The fact that you can experience a rollercoaster of emotions at any time with the simple push of a button reduces your motivation to create epic experiences in REAL LIFE to immeasurable heights.
The pink mud between your ears CAN’T separate between images and actual experiences.
That’s why, for example, in a triple-A horror movie, you feel enormous tension in each of your cells.
Does that sound like the type of man that countless women want to fight for?
Not even remotely.
Don’t get me wrong.
There’s nothing wrong with watching Netflix from time to time, watching a blockbuster movie with your chica in the cinema or having a trash movie night.
However, if your life consists solely of turning on old Sesame Street episodes, your ‘pathetic lifestyle’ alarms should ring deafeningly.
Tip #4: Any man who must say “I am the king” is no true king
Yes, I got that title straight from a Game Of Thrones quote. But we’re gonna apply it to getting girls interested.
Because you can throw your TV out of the window and sign up for a paragliding-course next week…
But then what?
Tell this girl about all your awesome plans? Go change your Facebook status and tell the world how cool your life is?
This is what the title referred to: Don’t try to convince her your life is interesting. If your life really is, she’ll find out. It’s the classic show-don’t-tell advice.
I learned this the hard way.
It was quite a while ago. Maybe a year after I changed the way I interacted with women completely.
At that time I was doing pretty well with women already. I had multiple dates a week and bartenders wanted to be my friend because they always saw me with girls.
But then one night I met this girl I had a crush on once…
Immediately I wanted to show her how much I’d changed, that I was social and funny.
So what did I do?
I tried desperately to show all this. I bragged and tried and bragged even more.
Of course, this didn’t work. I was still putting her on a pedestal and she noticed right away.
So here’s the lesson:
Don’t try to show how cool your life is. Instead, try to stay a little mysterious. Then, she’ll get curious and wants to know more about your life. And she’ll start putting effort into this.
And that’s what we want right?
And now I’ll show you why that’s so crucial…
Tip #5: Make her invest
Ever wondered how people lose their entire life savings with investing?
(Yes, the world of finance and attraction have some interesting similarities)
Of course, there are multiple reasons. But an important one is the loss-aversion bias. This bias makes us value things more when we’ve made an emotional investment in it.
Imagine carefully picking stocks after hundreds of research-hours. And then seeing it’s value going down…
Most people don’t want to sell and accept their loss. Instead they wait, hoping things get better, and lose only more.
This bias also explains why some people can’t escape toxic relationships. Even when everyone around them clearly sees it will never work.
They put so much of their soul in a relationship that – even when they deep down know the relationship is doomed – they cannot let go of it.
“Okay Dan, thanks for your lesson about investing and toxic relationships. But how is this gonna help me keep her interested?”
Let’s talk about that.
You want her to value you, and you can achieve this by making her invest more in you.
This “investment in you” can be multiple things:
- The time she invests in being you.
- The effort she invests in getting to know you.
- The emotional investment when she tells you something vulnerable.
I already gave you an example in the previous tip. Remember the advice about being a little mysterious? When this makes her curious she’ll want to know more about you. So when she’s actively asking questions about your life, she is investing effort in getting to know you.
Now HOW do we apply this practically?
I got you bro.
For example, make her invest more in you logistically. Make sure she travels to you as well to meet you.
I know a lot of men who don’t mind traveling an hour just to meet a girl.
AND THEY DO THIS EVERY TIME!
I’m not saying you shouldn’t drive one hour to meet a girl. But make her also travel to you sometimes. And preferably have the balance just slightly to your advantage.
On dates, make here pay sometimes too. There’s nothing wrong with paying on the first date. Neither with paying more often because you have a better paying job. But don’t pay everytime.
By doing this, you show you’re not trying to buy her. And these times, girls really don’t mind paying sometimes.
And if you’re dating frequently?
Ask her to organize or plan an activity too. Again you don’t want to do this too often. In general you want to take the lead in these things. But by asking her to plan the next activity, she gets more invested in the process, which is a good thing.
Tip #6: Have 9 out of 10 women recommend you
Do you know my bro Robert Cialdini:
Okay, I never actually met the guy. But boy, this dude is a sales genius.
He’s the author of ‘Influence’, a book you’ll find on every salesmans desk. It’s this book that coined the term “social proof”.
The principle behind it is really simple. People attach more value to something as soon as they realize everyone else wants it.
It’s why every toothpaste company claims 9 out of 10 dentists recommend it.
It’s also what makes some men incredibly irresistible for women.
As soon as a woman knows you, she wants to know how “cool” you are. In other words, she wants to know whether you’re good enough for her.
She’ll look at your clothes, your body language, and how you respond to her when she asks a daring question (by the way this is called testing).
But to make a quick judgment, she also watches how other people respond to you. When she sees other women admire you, she assumes you’re probably cool and not a loser.
Social proof in action. I bet the lead singer didn’t sleep alone that night.
So what do we do with this knowledge?
Drop subtle hints in your conversations that lots of women like you?
Create fake-girl-instagram accounts to like your own pictures?
Girls aren’t stupid. If she feels you’re trying to impress her, it will in fact work against you.
So let’s go for the real deal.
The magical effect of dating multiple women
Dating multiple women simultaneously – or at least flirting with multiple women – has an incredible effect on your love life.
It will completely change the charisma around you. And women will notice.
Because it gives you an abundance mindset. What’s that? It’s the mindset where you’re not needy anymore because you know you’ll have enough women in your life.
Having this mindset makes you more confident. It makes you not worry when she doesn’t respond immediately. It makes you a more interesting conversationalist because you’re less afraid to say something wrong.
Many advanced guys know this already, but forget this when they meet a girl they really like.
It’s a classical mistake.
Because when they stop meeting other women, they slowly get more needy and insecure. And in almost all cases, the girl loses interest.
So especially when you meet a girl you really like. Don’t immediately stop dating or seeing other women.
Then after a few months when things get serious the moment of “the talk” arrives. Then you can consider to stop seeing other girls, not earlier.
“But Dan, what if she gets really jealous? Or call me a player?”
That doesn’t have to be an issue. My next advice will explain why.
Tip #7: Give compliments (the right and wrong way)
“Duuude, sometimes I really don’t understand women”
It was a friend of me. The day before he had a date. In his eyes successful, but according to her texts apparently not.
He’d met the girl on Tinder and they went for a few drinks at a coffee place. According to him, the date wasn’t going amazing, but certainly not bad either. It went good enough for him to invite her to his home for more drinks.
He told me they laid on his couch for a while listening to John Meyer. It’s not my music, but he told me the John Meyer-magic did its work and one thing led to another 😉
That evening the girl went home and he fell asleep content.
But then the next day he woke up with this text from her:
“Oh and by the way, I just got home safely”
Yeah, that’s a lot of sarcasm for the early morning. To save things, he said he simply forgot to text her, but really liked her and wanted to see her again.
But she wasn’t really impressed. She asked why he wanted to date her again and my friend responded saying she was kind and nice.
They texted a little more but in the end, she didn’t want to have another date.
So what went wrong?
Was it really because he forgot to ask her “if she got home safely”.
No, of course not. It was because he didn’t give her the right compliments.
How you make her feel special with the right compliments
Every girl wants a man who makes her feel special.
And a good compliment is one of the best things to do that.
However, you have to know that the inbox of the average girl looks like this:
Here’s a picture of a girl reacting to a compliment like that:
We have to do better. Luckily, that’s not hard. A good compliment is simply something you really value about women and that sets her apart from most other girls.
- It’s so cool how you have the discipline to go to the gym so often. You’re definitely not lazy.
- I like how you’re really adventurous and have seen so many countries already.
- I like how your always yourself no matter where you are.
You see how they’re different than these standard compliments like below?
- You’re kind and friendly
- You’re beautiful
- You’re smart
My friend totally forgot about this. Sure, he said she was friendly and beautiful. But that’s not enough. That’s what every man says.
She had no idea what he was actually seeing in her.
And then her insecurities will come up with thoughts like:
“He probably just wants to have sex. He probably is a superficial player”
Or in some cases she just sees you as a needy bastard that tries to be nice.
How to come up with epic compliments?
Coming up with great compliments is easier than you think.
It basically comes down to having a clear view of your own values.
For example, I care a lot about being fit and healthy. So when a girl lives healthy or works out often I tell her I like that about her.
I also like adventurous people. So when a girl has travelled a lot or lived abroad for a year, I’ll also tell her I think that’s really cool.
It won’t hurt to make a list for yourself with things you value in women. Then when you meet someone who has a quality you like, you can actually tell her exactly that.
I once told a girl I’d never met someone who lives with as much integrity as her. She claimed to be an idealist. Now, I detest people who call themselves idealists because they argue about politics on Facebook. But she actually lived to back up her words. She donated a substantial part of her income to charities and did a lot of volunteer work. I told her this was one of the reasons why I really respected her.
We ended up having an intense holiday romance. And a few weeks later, she told me my compliment was the moment she fell in love with me.
When done well, a good compliment is extremely powerful.
Tip #8: The island metaphor
The next advice is old but pure gold
I have no idea when or where I read about it exactly. But it’s one of the best ways to explain how to live in order to have women interested in you.
Try to see everyone’s life as an island.
You’re also an island. And your goal is to be an awesome island. So awesome that women who arrive on your island want to stay because they feel amazing.
You do this by having an interesting life. By having cool hobbies, cool friends, and a positive vibe.
You don’t try to pull women to your island, nor begging them to stay longer. Simply because it’s not necessary. Your mindset is like: “Hey, my life is my island. With you, things could be even more fun, but it’s already great as it is.” because you KNOW it’s so cool that women want to come and stay.
Do you understand?
Cool. Then I have one last piece of advice.
TIP #9: Old habits die hard
The U.S. Navy SEALs have a saying:
“When things get hard, you don’t rise like in the movies. No, you fall back to training procedures.”
That’s why they practice EVERYTHING and make sure nothing gets left to luck. Before they raid a house to save a kidnapped soldier, they practice the raid endlessly. They change all the variables.
What if more enemies turn out than expected? What if they’re more weaponized than expected? What if a teammate gets hit?
They practice it all. So when anything does go wrong, they can still keep their cool and survive in the most dangerous situations.
The same is true for dating women.
You have to consciously practice and implement these pieces of advice for an extended period of time.
All my advice works, but there are no magic pills. You have to use it for the rest of your life. You can’t just use them and when you have a relationship go back to your old lazy self. Because I guarantee you, the results of your love life will follow. It’s about changing INTO new attractive habits. Become the attractive person. Don’t fake it.
You can’t get lazy.
If you apply all the tools I give you. You’re going to get the results you want. Whether this is a long-term relationship or dozens of one night stands. It doesn’t matter.
Do you have multiple one-night stands? Try to seduce girls you’ve never thought would be in your league.
You’re in a relationship? Keep making an effort to get to know each other on an even deeper and more profound level . Go to far places you’ve always wanted to visit. Help each other with achieving your dreams.
By the way, I can help you get the quality of your lovelife to the next level.
Do yourself a favor to keep a girl interested
Shoot yourself into a never-ending positive spiral.
Use the petty tube time to advance your journey to your most attractive me, an I 2.0, an attractive man, who…
- Has a James Bond-ish self-confidence, is respected among his colleagues and benefits from his charisma in addition to his work ethic
- Tears the gym apart to stay fit
- Knows exactly how he can seduce beautiful women and captivate them magnetically
- Even if he has entered a relationship, he knows how to keep it alive and fulfilled
I don’t know where to start and I don’t know how to start to become this man…”
I don’t know where to start and I don’t know how to start to become this man…”
No problemo, muchacho.
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As of today, you can add a picture of yourself to the term ‘chick magnet’ in the dictionary. Because if you apply the tips in this kit, it’s almost impossible not to become one.
And with this transformation, you, sir, know exactly how to keep a girl interested.
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Have fun with it!
Dan de Ram