They always say, ‘Everyone deserves a second chance’.
You’ve failed your driving test? No problem, just repeat it.
You die in Super Mario? Who cares? You still have two lives left.
You’re trying to cook chili con carne for the first time and it tastes awful? Pfff… dump it in the garbage and try again.
But when it comes to flirting, women rarely follow this old wisdom.
If you make a horrible first impression, it’s often over then.
No second chance. No happy ending.
No matter how hard you try.
Women are ice cold when it comes to that.
And rightly so…
Because when you know what you’re doing, it’s amazingly easy to make an outstanding first impression.
And how you do this, I’ll show you today with surgical precision.
- 5 Follow-along steps for a killer first impression
- Why you don’t even have a second to make good initial impressions (according to science)
- How you get the Spartan self-confidence of King Leonidas
- How much influence your clothes really have
- Make a great first impression: How to put on a flirtatious look that women find irresistible
- What slow motion has to do with effortless seduction
- And much more tips on how to make a good impression…
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How to make a good first impression: Dominate the first second
“Just be polite and courteous.”
“Buy her a drink.”
That’s how I’m sitting in front of my laptop right now…
To all creatures that give such ‘dating advice’: Don’t think I don’t see that nonsense. I have eyes everywhere.
And to Hollywood: I can see you too, you don’t have to hide at all.
A wimp gets no attention from his beloved and in the end, he wins her over by giving her generous presents.
The whole thing is then shot and released as a love movie. And gets an Oscar for ‘best adapted screenplay’…
Movies like these lead men to underestimate the importance of first impressions.
I mean you can always stand under her balcony with a ghetto blaster if necessary, right?
Very good! But do you know how quickly women get that impression of you?
The human brain only needs about 100 milliseconds to get the first impression of another person.
You can read about this in this study and other studies also come to similar results.
100 f*cking milliseconds… let that sink into your brain.
Even a blink takes longer (up to 150 milliseconds – for the nerds among you).
But what the heck is our thinking organ checking at the speed of light anyway?
Don’t worry, I’ll tell you:
It uses optical perceptions to determine whether a threat emanates from our counterpart.
With every second that passes, it makes a judgment about if it can trust this person.
This is your chance to shine, amigo.
So, better use it.
Don’t do things half-heartedly.
Allow yourself to show your most determined side in the first moments.
And I’m going to show you exactly how you do it.
Tip #1: Awaken the Leonidas within
Wherever you go…
- On the streets of the city
- In a bar
- At work
You see them everywhere…
Looking at the floor or their smartphone while listlessly strolling.
No, I’m not talking about Quasimodo.
I am talking about men who have made a terrible posture a habit.
When you have such a posture, not only do you look like shit, but you feel like it.
Posture has a considerable influence on our brain.
Try it yourself.
Stand up and take the following pose for 60 seconds:
I was actually looking for a man with this attitude, but this woman just looks so miserable that she accentuates my argument even better…
- Place your legs close together so that your feet almost touch
- Hunch your back
- Keep your eyes on the ground
- Let your arms dangle
And? Did you try it?
If so, you’d probably say that this posture doesn’t feel bueno.
Now, imagine this is your default posture.
It wouldn’t take long till you not only look like Gollum…
…but also feel like Gollum.
You wonder why your brain is so significantly influenced by your attitude?
There is a bidirectional connection between the brain and the body.
To put it bluntly: They influence each other.
Fortunately, you can use this effect to your advantage.
With simple hacks, you can not only look as confident as King Leonidas, but also feel as dominant and heroic.
Every single one of his cells radiates pure fearlessness… And with a few simple tricks, you can too.
All you have to do is:
- Straighten your head as if a string was attached to the top of your skull, pulling you upwards
- Pull your shoulder blades together and down
- Stand shoulder width or even further (like Cristiano Ronaldo)
When you stand like a boss, you radiate self-confidence – from the very first second…
Tip #2: The naked truth about style
But how much truth is behind this saying?
I haven’t found any studies on it, but fvck it, I can tell you:
Clothes are extremely IMPORTANT.
And I’m sure that in a few years, research will prove me right.
You may have heard from other wannabe dating coaches or self-proclaimed ‘lifestyle consultants’ that looks don’t matter when it comes to seducing women.
There is no superlative of ‘wrong’, but if there was one, I’d use it now.
Women are less focused on physical factors than men when it comes to attractiveness.
But still, appearance is a fundamental variable with which you can influence the impression you want to make.
Look at this picture, for example:
In a doctor’s outfit, our bald compañero looks competent, smart, and serious.
Jokes you’d probably keep for yourself, though.
In picture 2, however, it’s completely different.
He may seem less trustworthy, but he appears a little crazier and more receptive to a load of humor.
So, think about the impression you want to make and check if your current outfit underlines it.
For a strong first impression, a stylish and well-groomed appearance helps you big time.
This is essential and not even Leonidas’ posture could iron out an unkempt appearance.
But from now on you don’t have to waste a single thought on how to dress attractively and stylishly.
I wrote you this article in which I show you step by step how to pimp your style:
Tip #3: ‘Look into my eyes, baby!’
Many men shy away from making eye contact, especially with hot women.
They let themselves be so intimidated by their beauty that they flinch uncertainly with their eyes.
Other men, on the other hand, seem to have learned about eye contact from The Shining and give their lady a much too intense look.
Nicholson’s acting in this film is and will remain unsurpassed…
It makes them look like psychopaths…
With the right eye contact you not only radiate massive self-confidence, but it’s also a fundamental element of sexual tension.
Tip #4: Activate the slow-motion mode
I see it again and again in our coaching sessions:
Many men talk and move way too fast.
Of course I can understand that, after all these are typical symptoms of nervousness.
But it’s important that you get a handle on this, because women are conscious about that.
Every woman wants a man who can remain calm in any situation.
According to ancient scriptures, Buddha attained absolute enlightenment in this pose…
They want a tower of strength.
If you’re so excited during a conversation, she wonders how nervous you would act if you were in a stressful situation together…
She doubts you can protect her in such a scenario.
So, it’s better for you to stay calm in nervous moments and do this:
- Pay attention to deep abdominal breathing: Never underestimate the relaxing effect this can have
- Move in slow-motion: Thanks to the bi-directional body-brain connection, slow movements bring calmness to your mind. Imagine that you’re under water and move calmly and in a controlled manner, accordingly.
- Speak slowly: You have much more time in a conversation than you think. Instead of imitating Eminem’s double time, make sure you speak with pauses and clear pronunciation.
You want to know what these three points look like in action?
Then check out this video of James Bond:
Tip #5: Put on your million dollar smile
Your posture is on point, your style is worthy of a GQ cover, you have a seductive look on your face and you know how to stay calm in any situation. Dope!
But all that doesn’t mean shit if you forget…
… to put on a smile.
With a smile between your cheeks, you look confident and social, but not overly euphoric, as if you were a 7-year-old milky face opening his Christmas presents.
This Malaka just got a Nintendo 64 – the only situation where I allow you to be overly euphoric…
A seductive smile is achieved by lifting one corner of your lips higher than the other.
When you try it on a lady, just imagine you know something about her that she doesn’t know yet. This way you will elicit an authentic smile from your face.
To truly master it, you should practice it in front of the mirror until it feels completely natural to you.
How to make a good first impression: Check! … And now what?
Now you know how to make a good first impression.
However, you may see the tips in this article more of an entrance ticket.
Your ticket to a fantastic conversation with the prospect of sex…
A good impression is only the REQUIREMENT that she could develop an interest in you at all.
You’re just about at the starting line…
Where do we go from here?
How do you seduce her?
Countenance, bro. Countenance.
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These tips aren’t for you if you want your love life to stay on the same level.
What? You don’t want that to stay the same? You want to fundamentally improve it?
Have fun with it!
Dan de Ram