When I opened Instagram after breakfast, this message jumped into my face.
It’s from a woman who seems to have stumbled across one of my articles about Online Dating.
Reading it increased her heart rate up to a point where she felt it was appropriate to harass your ultimate bro on Instagram.
I could argue I ‘manipulated’ her with my article. Then again, that means any ad on the televisions is manipulation.
But is that kind of ‘manipulation’ bad? Is flirting perhaps nothing more than positive manipulation?
Questions, questions, questions…
Time to get answers in this article:
- 3 Ways how to manipulate women the way they like it
- What kind of manipulation we teach at out bootcamps
- The 3 keys to positive manipulation
- How to make women love you for the manipulator that you are
- How a principle of 5 letters will revolutionize your dating life and success
- More on manipulating women…
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Now you might think the woman who sent the message is stupid.
Ok, she thinks that she can stop perverts from writing inappropriate messages by using a profile text. This is actually kind of stupid…
And she ignored the fact that I literally wrote DOZENS of articles about how to get and keep a girlfriend. Not very smart either…
But actually, her message is nothing special.
Many make the assumption that I teach men psychological manipulation tactics and give them tips on…
- How to manipulate women’s emotions
- How to mind control women
- How to manipulate someone into loving you
Then they try to disturb my peace of mind through hate-mails, negative comments, and insults…
Now you might think I would defend myself in this article by explaining that this is just a misunderstanding.
Maybe you think I’d show you what I replied to the woman.
Or you think I’d tell you that we do NOT teach men how to manipulate women.
Thinking about it, it is EXACTLY what we do.
Let’s take a look at the definition of “manipulate”:
What I can say with one hundred percent certainty, shameless pride and firm conviction:
We don’t teach men to force women to do anything.
In fact, the fundamental components of our coaching are:
- Recognizing and correctly interpreting body language signals
- Constantly making sure that the woman feels comfortable
- Giving women the necessary space/time
- Recognizing when it is better to take a step back
- Recognizing when a woman is not interested
- Sincerely apologizing if you have said or done something wrong
- Bearing the responsibility for the consequences of one’s actions (more on this later)
- Touching a woman appropriately and at the right time
- Considering the social context and her current mood
- Being able to accept a no
- And much more…
Nobody has to worry about that.
And, ideally, they don’t even notice it.
Sometimes we even use tricks…
In many (certainly also in Greta’s) cases people get massively triggered when I claim that it can be ok to have a goal with people, and to try to lead them in the direction of that goal.
Most of our clients have the following goals with women:
- Great conversations
- Interesting acquaintances
- Deep connections
- A relationship
- Marriage, children, family etc.
Noble goals, if you ask me.
Anyway, it’s better than sitting at home hoping that love will just fall into your lap.
We don’t live in La La Land.
In real life, you can’t hit anything unless you aim.
I help men achieve their personal goals. So you could call it manipulation, but not in the way many think.
This article is for all the haters, Social Justice Warriors, feminists and all other fools. I’ll explain it one last time.
(Even though I already know they won’t ever get it…)
Do you want to achieve your personal love-goals? Then keep reading.
Why don’t you fart, you fuc*ing manipulator?
Most people have a totally wrong idea of what it means to be authentic.
On that point, I won’t disagree.
In fact, authenticity is the #1 quality that makes you more influential, more popular, more attractive and simply better.
But what does it mean to be authentic anyway?
A disturbing story from my life:
I love the grated beans my mother sometimes cooks.
They taste just fantastic.
One day I overstretched my bean eating capabilities and ate at least four or five portions (I stopped counting after a while).
Massive accumulation of gas.
On this day, it would have been 100% authentic to fart with every step I took – or to float…
Later, I found myself flirting with a woman. A gigantic gas cloud wanted to be released into the outside world.
But did I give it permission to leave?
Did I tell the woman about it?
She probably assumed that my tense expression meant I was angry, annoyed or stressed…
At that moment, however, I thought decency was more important than authenticity, which apparently makes me a despicable manipulator by definition.
As you can see, one could and should philosophize about the ethics of manipulation rather than directly assume that it is automatically the devil’s work.
As Obi-Wan Dumbledore Arathorn’s son said:
My answer to that:
You can manipulate women, but don’t forget these 3 things
Tip #1: The right intentions
Your mother is the most manipulative person I have ever met…
She doesn’t even shy away from manipulating an innocent child-like you once were.
And she’s intolerant, too…
She never tolerated your opinion on broccoli.
Instead of accepting that you won’t eat these greens, she told you all kinds of things…
- For example, the spoon is an airplane and has to make an emergency landing in your mouth.
- Or that the next spoon will be for your Uncle Jimmy.
- Or that this is guaranteed to be the last spoon, only to slip another one between your cheeks.
It’s a textbook example of manipulation…
Did your mother sell her soul to Satan?
Maybe. But not through her broccoli manipulation.
Yeah, she manipulated you, but she had good intentions.
Your health was dear to her. And as a little rugrat, what do you know about nutrition?
So we should be grateful to a certain extent that our mothers have manipulated us.
Another thought experiment:
Let’s assume that a mother wants her child to get diabetes as early as possible.
(I don’t see why anyone would want that, but let’s just go with it for the sake of argument)
She tells her child every day that organic food is trash, and that chocolate is healthy because it contains “milk for kids” or some shit like that.
In this case, manipulation is not okay.
I know, a strange example, but sometimes you have to look at extreme situations to get to the truth.
What it hopefully made you understand is that the subject of “manipulation” is very nuanced.
Another, more realistic example:
Every day there is a new AttractionGym fan.
If you think I’m thankful for EVERY new fan, you’re wrong.
Of course, I want our company to grow, because more men will be helped. But what I don’t want is to a horde of morons who think it’s funny to treat women like dirt.
So far I am very satisfied with the quality of men we attract through our marketing. For 95% of our coaching participants, I would sacrifice my left arm for the fact that they are good men with the best intentions.
They will go out, put my tips into practice, and charm women so much that they often end up in bed with them.
But that is not always their goal.
They want to overcome their fears, give women a great time, spread positive vibes, and make the world a better place.
But surely there is this percentage of men who use my tips to mislead women, to use them and to leave them worse than they found them…
I will continue to do everything I can to keep these men away from the AttractionGym family, banish them and never let them return.
But what I will not do is to be ashamed of teaching the noble art of influencing.
Influence exists, whether you like it or not.
In the words of Luke Skywalker:
Tip #2: The truth
“Truth” is a gigantic word.
It has – like an onion – several layers.
No one, not even the wisest among us, knows the absolute truth.
But I teach men to aim for the core of the truth as much as they can.
One of my coaching participants was once asked by a woman:
Prior to that, I drilled him to tell the truth, so he answers:
The woman responds with a smile but walks off anyway…
The participant is confused and confronts me:
I could tell by the look on his face that he was disappointed, because deep inside he felt that this would have made a huge difference.
It’s not easy to know what the truth is.
But it is easy to know when you are lying.
You know something isn’t quite true, and you say it anyway.
That’s not okay.
It’s not like I never do. But if I do, I immediately regret it and correct my mistake, if fate grants me this chance.
There are three reasons why you should be honest with women:
- They see through you anyway or at least have a weird gut feeling about you.
- You feel weaker when you lie. When you feel strong, you’re most attractive.
- Lying is never the right thing to do – whether you get the woman or not.
Love me, hate me, demonize me, adore me, do whatever you want, but my opinion is clear:
Telling the truth is always the right thing to do.
Even if you use it to achieve a certain goal.
Even if you use it to “manipulate”.
If a politician lies to win the election campaign, then he is a manipulator.
But if he tells the truth and uses all means, tips, and tricks to influence as many people as possible, he is a wise man.
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It’s free, so why not!?
Tip #3: Responsibility
Yesterday, an enchanting mademoiselle walked into my sight.
It took me a while to recognize her…
In fact, I slept with her a year ago.
It was a fantastic night. We opened up, made ourselves vulnerable, and the sex was magical.
Every touch, every eye contact, and every breath was so coordinated that we fucked each other into another dimension. I could have sworn I saw the Stairway to Heaven for a second…
I wonder if she was pleased to see me.
Instead, she doubted our connection and blamed me for just trying to get her into bed.
I wondered briefly how one could even come up with this conclusion after THIS experience. If THIS wasn’t real, then nothing in this world is real…
In any case, her accusation was justified.
I didn’t say it was right, I said it was justified.
I was so much in the now (some call it “being horny”) that evening that I failed to think about the consequences of my actions.
In fact, I didn’t think for a second how she might feel after that night.
I should have simply said that it was a great experience, but we will leave it at that, and she shouldn’t get her hopes up.
But I didn’t.
I’m not proud of it.
It’s rare, but sometimes I make mistakes. Anyway, I was childish and a man does exactly the opposite:
He is responsible.
A vague word, so let’s take another look into our dictionary:
A sense of responsibility is the #1 characteristic that distinguishes a boy from a man.
As long as you are willing to take responsibility for your actions, the consequences and everything that comes your way, it is impossible to manipulate negatively.
If these three things I have described in this article make your heart beat faster, bring a man’s tear into your eye and give you an encouraging feeling, then you have come to the right place.
And if you want to manipulate women ethically, you didn‘t take a wrong turn either.
How to put it all together
You’ve heard me speak about these three principles:
Intention, truth, responsibility.
I’m sure you understand what I’m saying. You’re smart, and given a bit of thought it’s not that difficult.
I’m however also sure that when you go outside and meet women, you’ll be grasping in the dark about the three principles.
Mainly about how to show these three principles in practice.
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Dan de Ram