11 Subtle Ways to Seduce a Woman Without Being Creepy

In this article, I’ll give you 11 subtle ways to seduce a woman without coming off as a creep.

These are the ways a women actually wants to be seduced.

I’ve discovered, tested and perfected these tips over the past 10 years… And while I was at it, I also taught these principles to thousands of men.

So, allow yourself the shortcut to success. Read, implement and use the tips I’m about to give you.

Once you’ve finished this article, you’ll know exactly:

  • 11 Tips how to seduce a woman even if you are inexperienced right now
  • How to approach a woman successfully at all times
  • The 6 best techniques to seduce a woman with words
  • The 5 most important ingredients needed to attract women
  • The #1 reason why most men will never be successful
  • How to kiss her without any risk, with positive dominance
  • Much more…

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To make it easy for you, I’ve broken down the article in a few main topics. Contents of this article:

  • Anyone can become successful at seducing women, provided that…
  • My personal story and your shortcut to success
  • How to approach women; Start every conversation smoothly
  • How to seduce a woman with words; Never be at a loss of words
  • How to seduce a woman physically; The 6 steps to kissing her and taking her home
  • The 5 ingredients to attract women; Do less, achieve more
  • How to woo women using the FLOW method
  • The #1 tip to triple your success TODAY

Ready? Let’s go.

Tip #1: Anyone can become successful at seducing women, provided that…

Let me boost your morale right off the bat:

If I’ve learned anything, it is the following: Appearances matter little. And no matter how crappy your pick-up skills are right now, you too can become a hero with women, provided that you give it 100%.


Provided that you approach seducing women in the right way.

Many dating coaches will only teach you techniques and pre-baked sentences to tempt women, but these will never give you permanent success.

This is because those techniques and sentences won’t change you on the inside – you’ll just be putting on an act.

Other books will teach you how to build your confidence, and how to find your masculinity. However, if you have zero experience with women, confidence and masculinity won’t do the trick either.

As always, the truth lies somewhere in the middle – you’ll have to change on the inside, AND learn the right techniques:

  • Practice cut-and-dried techniques, to build experience and confidence.
  • Fix your inner self, solve your problems, and regain your self-worth; this will help you to become authentic and real.

Both parts combined are the formula to attract women.

Continue reading, and you will receive both practical tips to seduce her, as well as the ingredients of becoming an attractive man to women.

Just imagine how good it would feel if you could approach any woman you like; that you’d know exactly how to turn her on, so that she’d really want to get it on with you.

Tip #2: My personal story, your shortcut to success

Many years ago, I was an antisocial nerd. I spent all my spare time on online games, like Call of Duty and Halo.

Your bro, being the swag and cool as he is. Nope.

That’s when I met Lisa – wow honestly, I was head over heels in the blink of an eye.

Every night, I’d dream about what our future together would look like …

Over the course of two years, we hung out on a regular basis; we had endless conversations about philosophy and the deeper things in life.

We were just friends. But naive as I was, I kept thinking:

“At some point in time, she’ll just start to like me, right?”

But suddenly, something else happened which changed everything, that I’d have burned into my memory forever…

One night at Lisa’s place, I had decided to bring one of my friends – let’s call him Tom.

As usual, Lisa proceeded to sit on her bed, and I sat in one of the chairs in her room. But Tom? The cocky bastard just went right over and sat on her bed…

She and I talked for hours, as we had always done… However, my buddy Tom wasn’t saying much at all.

No, all he did was tease, and make silly comments. And he got closer to Lisa every passing minute.

At a certain point, the conversations dried up… I felt uncomfortable… And Tom had proceeded to put a small blanket over himself and Lisa, and they were quite close now.

A little while later, Tom and I decided to leave…

And once outside, Tom blurted:

“Haha, smell my fingers dude!”

I acted as casual as I could, because he didn’t know that I was in love with her… But on the inside, I crashed and burned – it felt as if my entire world had collapsed just there and then.

How the fuck was this possible?! It was unfair – he didn’t even know her like I did!

That night was a turning point in my life, and I decided to work at getting really good at attracting women.

Which resulted that today, I can help YOU and other men like us finally get in control of their love lives too.

Tip #3: How to approach a woman – Always starting a conversation successfully

One of the most common questions that fill up my inbox is:

“How do I approach her?”

And yup, I’ll admit it: approaching a woman can be quite stressful.

That’s why most guys are desperately looking for the perfect seduction line.

Now, please pay attention to my next tip: There are no good or bad pick-up lines; at most, some are more successful than others.

Because successfully starting a conversation is all about HOW you say it

Do you approach her with ‘the giver mentality’? Do you have an attitude that says:

“Hey, I’m here to have fun with you?”

Then you’re on the right track, bro.

However, if you approach women with ‘the taker mentality’, things will go south. This vampiric vibe only communicates:

“I hope you like me… but I have little to offer…”

So… how to get yourself into the right mentality?

Mostly by first warming up socially!

Just start with the smallest step you can take: Giving a sincere compliment to a stranger; whether it’s a man or a woman.

Build from there, purely to warm up socially. And most importantly: have FUN doing it!

And when you reach the point of being ‘switched on’ completely, that’s when you’ll be ready to approach that woman you feel attracted to.

At that point, the best seduction line is just one of the following options:


“Hey, you have a stunning vibe about you, who are you? My name is [YOUR NAME HERE].”

Now, if you need more inspiration, here’s a step-by-step guide on how to start a conversation with a girl anywhere:

>> #1 System to Start a Conversation With a Girl Anywhere

Tip #4: How to seduce a woman with words – Conversation topics that spark attraction

Whether its verbally or how to seduce a woman over text, the second problem you might throw at me:

“Alright, Dan, I’ve approached her, but the conversation is more boring than a hibernating goldfish… Please, kill me now.”

Well, let’s not do that. Let me help you instead.

The most common mistake made by men is interview-conversation.

All the default questions are brought to the table, without even a hint of shame:

  • Where do you live?
  • What’s your job?
  • What are you studying?
  • Do you have any hobbies?
  • etc. …

Well, Don Juan, let me burst your bubble – you won’t seduce a woman with this.


You want to make a woman feel anything but boredom.

Women are emotional creatures, so work with this scientific information!

For example, turn your questions into statements:

“You seem like a village girl.”

“Something tells me you’re a typical lawyer—The kind that wants to keep crooks out of jail.”

“I’d wager you spend all weekend sorting your stamp collection alphabetically.”

These statements contain a fair amount of teasing, and doing just this will make you 200% more attractive already.

As a next step when wooing women, it’s your duty to forget about MOST masculine logic from a conversation.

Your conversation doesn’t need a storyline, nor does it need to be a logical exchange of information – instead, look at it as a playground of funny shit you can experiment with.

And for this purpose, let me show you the TEACH formula:

  • Tease
  • Challenge
  • Humor

If everything you say falls into one of these three categories, you’re well on your way to attracting women.

A small side note about the first point: 

Perhaps you’re not comfortable with teasing.

Fair enough, man. Teasing is an art.

Here’s an article with everything you need to know about teasing:

>> How to Tease Women – 7 Ways She Actually Likes + 11 Examples

Tip #5: Why kissing her is so difficult for you

So, the conversation is going well, and you’re spending time together, but how do you go for the kiss?

And perhaps later… How do you take her home?

Most men make this one big mistake that you won’t be making any more from now on:

They don’t touch her during the whole interaction.

Well, if that’s the case, then I understand where the question is coming from. How and when to kiss her?

To be fair, the chance that she’ll want to kiss you after you’ve not been touching her all night is approximately 0.0001%.

If you haven’t had any physical contact for an hour, and all of a sudden, you put your hand on her shoulder, it will feel really weird…

So, the trick is to qualify yourself as the bloke who’s comfortable with flirting physically from moment uno.

Just start easy with the socially acceptable spots, like the shoulders.

And slowly but steadily, you should become more physical.

Hey, why not take her for a spontaneous dance? Lay your hands on her shoulders, or later even on her hips.

That, my brother, is how you slowly and comfortably get more physical.

And kissing? It’s simply the logical next step.

“That’s great Dan, but I’d also like some tips on how to be a good kisser.”

You got it, bro:

>> 7 Kissing Tips and Techniques to Become an Amazing Kisser

The 5 ingredients to attract a woman

There’s a number of ingredients you want to master to get the success with women that you’ve always been dreaming of.

These are the things that make the difference between a woman thinking it was nice meeting you and a woman thinking it was the most awesome way to spend her Friday night.

Because you better believe me: If she says it was nice meeting you, it means you’re screwed. You don’t want her to think that it was ‘nice meeting you.’

Let’s dive into the ingredients of attraction.

Tip #6: Masculinity

Many of us modern guys have forgotten what it means to be a man. Society has kinda taught us over the past decennia to view men and women as ‘being equals,’ versus ‘being of equal value.’

Listen, I’m all for gender equality, in terms of voting, opportunities, and other basic rights. But somehow, we seem to have forgotten that we also need some form of polarity in the sexual relationships between men and women.

Men and women should be treated equally, but not as the same.

A woman wants a man to whom she can look up; a man who leads her, who is decisive, who knows what he wants and goes for it.

Science confirmed that women find dominance an attractive characteristic in their male partners.

So how do you become more masculine?

It’s a broad topic. I won’t get into the details here, but I recommend you read this article:

>> 7 Ways to Get a More Masculine Edge (to Balance the Feminine)

Tip #7: Flirting

Simply seducing her with your masculinity isn’t enough; you want to flirt with her.

Flirting actually means you’re playful with her – a game of challenging and teasing should develop between the two of you.

Sometimes you will stop giving her attention, so she’s unsure whether you like her, and after some time, you’ll give back that attention. Nonverbal communication plays a crucial role here, as well.

So doesn’t it matter what you say?

Of course, it does, to some extent; however, what’s far more important, is how you say it: your attitude and the way you look at her.

And the more you master nonverbal communication, the less it matters what you say.

Tip #8: Being too eager (a.k.a. Smeagolling)

When you start learning about how to seduce a woman, there’s a fat chance you will be quite eager.

You’d love to have a girlfriend, or you crave for success.

On one hand it motivates you to get what you want. On the other, it makes you want a result too much.

It makes you needy.

So, when interacting with a woman, you feel like you need her.

Well, let me tell you this bro: Only a dried-up rainworm is less attractive to a woman than a man who is too eager or too needy… and believe me, women smell neediness from miles away.

Whenever he’s talking to a girl, the needy type of man is continuously seeking her approval. At all times, he’s looking for common ground with her and agrees with basically everything she says – even when she casually mentions that Dragon Ball Z is “soooo childish.”

You know what we call that type of man, right? (If not, please scroll back to the title of this ingredient)

We call him a Smeagol because he behaves exactly like Smeagol (Gollum… Gollum…), who desperately needs that ring. He depends on the ring, and this causes his transformation into a hideous monster.

And no, it’s not your job to find more devious tricks to hide your inner Gollum, no – your job is to ensure that you actually don’t need woman anymore. To do that, there’s a couple of approaches:

  • Create abundance with women.
  • Take a moment to reflect on why you need that woman, and explore whether you can either diminish those needs or fulfill them differently.
  • Each night out, know how to have a good time, despite of having success with women.

Tip #9: Deep connection

Do you want more than just a one-night-stand with a willing woman in the pub?

If the answer is yes, then a deep connection is one of the most critical factors that determine whether you’ll see her again, and even if there will be relationship potential or not.

A lot of men are good at connecting, but miss the ingredients that I mentioned earlier, which causes them to trip into the friend zone. The trick is to use the connection ingredient properly.

Connection means that you’re building rapport with her; you will be talking about shared interests, and about other things that you have in common. You will also show that you’re comfortable being vulnerable, and you will share about yourself.

Masculinity and flirting give her that feeling of sexual attraction, but connection makes her feel that you are really special, that she really knows you, and that you have all sorts of things in common (of course, only if that is really the case).

Once you’re able to combine connection with masculinity and flirting, you will have the golden formula in the palms of your hands to attract women.

One significant risk when you end up in the wrong pick-up circles is that you will turn into what we call “Mister Pick-up Dude.”

These guys are so obsessed with improving their masculinity and flirting skills that they completely forget the importance of connection and honesty, and by doing so, sabotage their very own success.


No connection without honesty!

And without connection, there will be no sex or girls who stay interested, let alone relationships.

You got the message: Making connection is crucial if you want to get good at seducing girls.

So check out this article, it has more details about how to connect with women:

>> How To Make A Connection: 7 Tips To Easily Connect With Girls

Tip #10: Practice makes perfect

Sorry, but you won’t seduce a woman just by cramming all these theories into your brain.

You’ll have to get out into the field, interacting with real women, which is asking quite a lot of yourself – like conquering your fear of approaching beautiful women, as an example.

You will be rejected often, and at first, this will hurt because it will feel like a failure. That’s why we have this new belief that you have to get in your head: Failure doesn’t exist!


  1. To be successful, you need experience
  2. To get experience, you’ll need to fail

So every time you “fail,” you’ll actually be one step closer to your end goal. Pat yourself on the back, ‘cause you’re a man of action, an inspiration to others!

My biggest breakthroughs always occurred after I had to put up with so much shit, that I reached the point of:

“FUCK IT, fuck all fear and resistance, I know what I have to do, and I will do it NOW.”

And I see this happening to our Bootcamp participants all the time. When something inside them breaks, and they say “FUCK IT,” they’re let loose, and the best things will happen. So, bring yourself into that FUCK IT mindset!

Summarized, these are the 7 steps how to seduce a woman:

  1. Start by warming up socially
  2. Approach her with ‘the giver mentality.’
  3. Let her feel everything but boredom
  4. TEACH (Tease, Challenge, Humor) her. Aka flirting
  5. Flirt physically from the start
  6. Have balance in the amount of investing from each side
  7. Be a leader and keep making progress

Tip #11: Picking up women with the FLOW method

  • (F)ail Frequently
    You’ll learn exactly how to work on the right mindset to go hard – very hard – and to put aside all your insecurities.
  • (L)ead
    Become that alpha male that leads her, and for whom she just has to fall.
  • (O)pposite Emotions
    The methods to flirt with her and let her feel all emotions but boredom and unsafe. TEACH her.
  • (W)orthiness
    How to ditch the nice-guy syndrome and never turn into needy Smeagol again.

Bonus: Triple your success TODAY

In a moment, I’ll tell you what you can do TODAY to put your development in the highest gear instantly…

But first I’d like to share a short story of a few weeks ago.

I was at a house party; according to Arnoud, it was the most boring party since the beginning of mankind.

There was little booze, no music, and the dozen people that turned up were not the most party-minded people you’ve ever seen, to put it mildly.

When I entered the premises, I saw this cute girl, and without hesitation, I approached her and said:

“Hi! Who are you?”

We talked about practically everything for an hour or so until a Spanish dude joined us.

At this point, I noticed he’d gladly enter the battle for the girl, but he didn’t stand a chance, despite all his smooth talk.

After a while, I decided to pay some attention to my friends, and I left her with the Spaniard:

“Hey, I’m gonna entertain my friends for a bit; you take care of her, alright,”

And smiled at her.

In the hour that followed, our eyes met every now and then, but other than that we were basically minding our own businesses. At a certain point, the Spaniard left, and I saw the girl going to the bathroom.

My instinct told me there was something between us, and I walked into the kitchen near the bathroom.

The minute she walked out of the bathroom, I took her hand and pulled her into the kitchen. Before I even got the chance to make a move, she jumped my bones and started kissing me passionately.

She began:

“Wow, this is so special. I’ve been single for a year now, and I’ve been dating a bit, but now I’ve met you, and you’re so special and different. For the first time in years, I’ve got the feeling that someone is really looking at me… is really seeing me… and really does something to me…”

Yeah, bro, now that’s the result of the AttractionGym Cocktail. The right ingredients at the right moment in time, resulting in a fantastic moment between her and me.

Real and authentic attraction, that’s both intense and raw—a real connection between two human beings, and an excellent experience for both her and myself.

And that is the main reason we all do this stuff 🙂

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