How to Tempt a Girl: The Complete Guide to Seduce her

I don’t like the word “tempting.”


Because it can be associated with the serpent that seduced Adam and Eve to eat the forbidden apple and implies manipulation?

No, haha.

I don’t like it because it sounds like a lot of effort.

I mean, have you ever seen a James Bond movie where the secret agent has to court the woman for weeks to finally get a date?

If you’re good at seducing women, it looks easy from the outside. And the reason is simple:

Women help you seduce them.

Listen, bro.

I know what you want.

You want to have this beautiful girl in your arms.

You want to feel her skin, wake up next to her and eat scrambled eggs for breakfast with her.

>> The Art of Dominating a Woman in Bed in 5 Tips.

In this article, I’m going to teach you exactly how to tempt that woman

…for a one-night stand, a love affair or a promising relationship:

  • How to approach women successfully
  • Tempting girls: The biggest mistake you can make with women (and how to avoid it)
  • What are women attracted to? 3 confronting reasons why you can’t seduce women
  • What catching monkeys has to do with your seduction skills
  • And many more tips how to tempt girls…

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Tip #1: How to approach women successfully

Listen carefully, amigo.

This is the beginning of the end, the end of the beginning, the Alpha and the Omega and the Holy Grail at the same time.

Never has anything been more logical than what I’m about to tell you right now, and yet some never do and most do it far too seldom:

As long as you don’t actively approach women, you don’t need to worry about seduction.

Of course, there’s online dating. But eventually your “Tinderella” would realize you don’t even have the balls to approach a woman…

Sure, women talk to you from time to time. But let’s face it, how often does that happen…

Fact is: The art of approaching women authentically is something you should master (at least halfway).

Therefore, in this tip I’ll show you how you can easily do this.

Well, there is much that can be said about it and much has already been discussed extensively in my other articles…

However, every flirty conversation starts with an opening sentence.

My personal experience shows that a compliment works best. And it’s a good idea to make this compliment as specific as possible.

I understand, of course, that this is often easier said than done. Especially if you’re dealing with a woman with a standard look (for example black a leather jacket and black skinny jeans with holes at the knees).

In this case you need a standard opener that works in every situation. And one you can rely on.

>> 11 Subtle Ways to Seduce a Woman Without Being Creepy.

A sentence that works equally well for every woman.

And one that isn’t limited to her appearance.

It could look like this:

“I think you have a great vibe.”

Here’s an article on how to approach women on the street. < online soon

But I have to warn you. Even though you gave her an excellent, specific compliment, there are still a lot of things you can do wrong now…

Tip #2: How to avoid making the biggest mistake when approaching

You dropped your opener like a bomb.

It couldn’t have gone better.

She smiles at you and is obviously impressed by your self-confidence.

“Phew, nothing can go wrong now right?”


There are countless mistakes you can make when you talk to women.

And each of these mistakes has the potential to sabotage the launch of your metaphorical rocket.

Here are a few examples:

  • Give her too little space
  • Give her too much space
  • Talking too fast
  • Talking too quiet
  • Talking too unclear
  • Ask too many questions
  • Touching her too much
  • Not enough touching
  • Too much investment
  • Not taking the lead
  • Don’t consider the social situation
  • Don’t read AttractionGym articles (What a stupid rookie mistake…)
  • And much more…

If you now think, “Holyyy shiiat, if I can make so many mistakes, then my a approach anxiety is totally justified,” then you don’t yet know what the biggest mistake is.

The mistake that makes you never get a woman…

Error #1 is: Let yourself be overwhelmed by approach anxiety and don’t take any action.

This is by far the biggest FAUX PAS and not even this fancy sounding, French synonym is able to trivialize it.

We all know the feeling of “I should have…”

As many mistakes you can make, in practice a woman will forgive you many of them if you just dare to talk to her.

However, you’ll never forgive yourself if you puss out and trash your chance.

And you know it.

>> 7 Tips to overcome Approach anxiety and date Cute girls.

Tip #3: How-to pick-up women online

Now you’re thinking:

“Ok Dan, you’re right. I should approach a woman when I like her. But I also want to meet women from the comfort of my own home through online dating.”

Don’t worry, brochacho.

This may have sounded like I had something against online dating before…

But everyone who knows me knows the opposite.

I would claim (I wasn’t counting) that I have seduced the majority of women I met online.

So, I have effective tips for you on this as well.

>> How to Approach a Lady on the Street: From ‘Hi’ to Date in 5 Steps.

However, so much can be said about this topic that one could create a whole video course for it (which I’m currently doing).

But in the meantime, just think about…

And to get your online game to Olympic levels, have a look at my Texting Toolkit.

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Alright, now of course you need to know how to deal with something specific that will definitely happen to you when you try to pick-up women.

We’re talking, of course, about…


Tip #4: How to handle rejection like a boss

This is extremely important.

I have noticed that the fear of rejection is a basic fear of many people, which prevents us from doing what we really want to do.

Remember not to take rejection personally.

There’s simply a lack of chemistry. Sometimes you can do so much right and try so hard. It doesn’t even matter how good your seduction skills are…

Somebody decided that you two won’t feel a click at this moment.

Call it God, call it fate, call it whatever you want, but accept it.

I wrote a special article about fear of rejection… < online soon

…but the bottom line is this: the more you can hug rejections with love, the fewer rejections you’ll get.

A contradiction? Might sound like one at first. The truth? Hell yeah.

Tip #5: The 3 confronting reasons why you can’t seduce women

A lot of men do it wrong.

And I mean MANY men.

You probably recognize it in others – but perhaps also in yourself.

>> Asking a Girl Out Over Text – 9 Ways She Can’t Reject (+ Examples).

They constantly come up with excuses and hand over all responsibility to something external:

  • I’m late because traffic was so bad.
  • My job situation sucks because my boss is an asshole.
  • I can’t talk to this woman because she looks annoyed right now.
  • I can’t seduce women because I have to get muscular first.

It’s time to face the truth.

You read this article because you want to know how to seduce a woman. You’re looking for outside help.

That’s a very good sign for the time being. I also invested a lot of money (at least by my standards) and time to sharpen my social skills.

>> 5 Covert Ways Women Test Men + Most Effective Responses.

However, it isn’t a good idea to hand over the responsibility to me.

“Dan’s tips will fix everything. And if they don’t, then I can tell you that what he writes is crap.”

It doesn’t work that way, bro.

You’ll only achieve the success you want with women if you take responsibility for yourself.

And that can be frightening because it means making sacrifices.

Sacrifices lead to a better future.

This principle can best be explained by catching monkeys.

There is a monkey-catching method, where you put food in a kind of bottle.

The monkey comes through the bottleneck with an open hand with ease, grabs the food and then finds that he’s stuck with his fist closed.

All he would have to do to be free again is to let go of the food.

Turns out that’s something the monkey just doesn’t want to do.

You can then easily catch him.

Sounds too stupid to be true? Here’s a YouTube video:

If you want to improve your future and not end up in a prison of repentance, then you have to make sacrifices. This can also mean that you’ve to suffer in the short term (leave the food behind) so that you can gain long-term freedom.

Each of the following reasons why men can’t seduce women can only be remedied with the necessary investment.

Reason 1: You’re a sloth

I’ve coached a brochacho via Skype.

>> 10 Tips to get Tinder sex hookups in just 4 matches.

He affirmed that nothing was more important to him than personality development and seduction. He said he didn’t have the time, though…

I asked him if he had the balls to share his screen with me because I wanted to look at two things:

  1. His browser history
  2. His YouTube playback history

Then it became crystal clear.

His browser history consisted mostly of Facebook and 9GAG.

Lately he had been consuming only “Fun Compilation Videos” on YouTube.

Okay, I’m lying…

One video was from AttractionGym.

In any case, anyone can claim that something is important to him… if it isn’t reflected in his actions, then it’s USELESS.

I could also say that I want to climb Mount Everest. But if I never go into action, I’ll never reach the top.

So, if you want to become good at seducing women, you have to take the offensive and take action.

Reason 2: You’re the guy from the before picture

I assume you want great, smart, beautiful women in your life?

If not, that’s okay too.

But be aware that these great, smart and beautiful women are looking for someone who also has these qualities.

And if you’re wasting your life, you don’t fit into this picture.

You’ll never get these women if you can’t get your life together. They can smell from a distance that you aren’t paying enough attention to yourself.


  • Go out with your friends and/or meet new people
  • Strive for your passions and hobbies
  • Go after a job that you can do with real enthusiasm
  • Live independently.
  • Take care of your body. This is important!

And I don’t mean all this has to be at a top level before you can seduce a woman.

What I mean is, from now on, your life is your number one priority.

Reason 3: You’re her “BFF”

There is a difference between “having lots of women around” and “picking up women”.

A buddy of mine who likes men has more women around him than Dan Bilzerian. But he doesn’t seduce them.

For them he’s their buddy from next door.

You, on the other hand, certainly don’t want to end up in the friendzone.

I can understand that you like to have a lot of women around you… But if you’re a buddy, you won’t ever be allowed to touch any of them intimately.

You’ve been buddies before? It’s going to be difficult…

Although you still have a chance if you follow this article, prevention is better.

Tip #6: Don’t be a cliché

A few weeks ago at one of our bootcamps I listened to the conversation of a coaching student.

He approached an exotic looking woman and a gigantic smile decorated her face.

I thought:

“Ah nice. Looks like a good conversation.”

But when the two exchanged names after a minute, I got a little nervous.


Apparently, her name was “Isis”.

I know what you’re thinking.

Admittedly, I had to think of it first, too.

However, it would be a fatal mistake to mention this association now, because you can be sure that every second Joe will react to it like this:

“Ah, like the terrorist group?” or “Oh, so you’re a terrorist? ;)”

She probably can’t hear it anymore.

“Is he going to give the clichéd answer or is he going to handle it in a smarter way?”  

What my coaching student did, exceeded my expectations, because he compared her to the Egyptian goddess Isis.

And what did I see…

An even bigger smile on her lips.

I could almost hear her thinking out loud:

“Finally, someone different.”

And that’s just the tip I want to give you.

Don’t say standard stuff. Those are phrases she’s probably heard a thousand times before.

Do/ say something she has never experienced before. Make her feel special. And this is how you make yourself feel special.

Tip #7: Create massive sexual tension

There’s so much I want to give you about seduction (or “tempting”, as some like to say), but you can write whole books about it (which is also on my to-do list).

That’s why I was just wondering what last tip I would like to give you for today.

If you know me, you know that I fucking love writing about sex, so I decide to write a few more lines about it.

In addition, loyal AttractionGym readers have asked me to write more about it.

Let me introduce this last (gigantic) tip with a story from my life:

Saturday I was at my cousin’s birthday party.

I didn’t know a single person, so I actively approached his guests, motivated to meet some fresh boys and girls.

Of course, the question was:

“And what do you do?”

I don’t answer this question very often because I draw too much attention to myself and don’t want to spend my whole evening with stupid questions like “My boyfriend did this and that. What does that mean?” – I don’t want to be bothered with dull questions.

>> Daygame – the Lost Art of Approaching Beautiful Women Without Creeping Them Out.

Nevertheless, this time I decided to reveal my job to them.

It wasn’t any different than I expected…

I talked with every woman about her sex life and I could feel how good it was doing them.

One even said:

“I haven’t talked to anyone about this yet. I can’t believe I’m telling you all this.”

Another woman (a cute brunette I had my eye on that evening) unfortunately in a relationship, but I felt the attraction which developed through the open conversations I had with the others.

She’s reading my blog now, so I almost have to assume she’ll see this, but who cares. Hi!

I can’t emphasize enough how much it’ll help you to be seen as a sexual being by women if you show her on a subtle level that sex is NO BIG DEAL for you.

For this, you don’t have to talk about sex the way I do. An inconspicuous comment / joke or a special question can be enough.

It’s important that you clearly show that sex is NORMAL for you through your nonchalance and calm voice.

Just ask her in your head for her favorite cheese while the following words leave your mouth:

“What do you think about Fifty Shades of Grey?”


“You’ve no idea what it’s like to have a dick...”

After that you can easily turn the subject back to something more “innocent” (if you want), because your work is already done.

The more relaxed you talk about sex, the more comfortable she’ll feel to show you her sexual side.

Because most men are either too uptight or they judge women who openly show their sexuality.

Thus, women don’t find a discussion or sexual partner, with whom they can live out this side at least a little… I can’t talk with all women at the same time.

So: Make a sexual remark, make sure to make it sound as normal as possible (just as if you were talking about cheese) and then change the subject – unless she’s very intrigued.

Then you can sit back, look into her eyes and watch the sexual tension rise and rise and rise…

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