5 Covert Ways Women Test Men + Most Effective Responses


You went online and learned a lot of pick up lines.

Filled with excitement, you try them out in the local bar that night.

The result?

You get blown off left, right, and center.

How the hell is that possible?

I can already tell you now: Women test men to see if you really are that womanizer you’re pretending to be.

In this article, you will read how women shit-test men (and how you will learn to deal with these shit-tests!)

Today you will learn:

  • 5 Sneaky ways women test men
  • How to pass women’s’ tests, so she will become attracted to you
  • 3 Signs she is testing you
  • Why it is awesome when a woman says your shirt is ugly
  • What to do when a woman blatantly/shamelessly ignores you
  • Why women test men (It’s not what you think)
  • What women want when they test you
  • How to respond when she walks away from you/says something strange to you
  • And much more…

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By now, you probably have some questions going through your head:

  • What the heck is a shit-test?
  • And how do women test men?

The first question I’ll answer for you now.

A shit test is code language for a test from a woman. With such a test, she’s checking if you really are that cool and attractive dude you seem to be. Or if a little ‘shit’ from her throws you off your game.

That’s why it’s called a ‘shit test’, because she will make it a little hard on you to see how you deal with it.

When you do crumble under the pressure, you fail the test. And thus she either becomes less attracted to you. Or rejects you completely.

In this article, we won’t be using any more crazy code language, just ancient wisdom about seducing women.

Let’s go.

Women test men: It’s the cold, hard truth

“We’re really not going to have sex tonight.”
“Try your luck with those girls over there.”
“Is that really your best pick-up line?”

– Three statements from a woman I was flirting with, in a club the other day.

Then everything seems to be going against you.

Plot twist:

I took this woman home at the end of the night.

“Huh? But how?! She wasn’t really giving you any promising signs…”
-Average Andy.


The average dude would have probably abandoned the ship of seduction a long time ago.

But, my dear reader, if you have any idea of seducing women, you will come to learn this vital lesson:

Women test men.

Unfortunately, women are not wired to respond to any random pick-up line with:

“Wow! That was such a good pick-up line! Please take me home.”

Nope. A lot of women will not be conquered so easily.

By now, you will probably be asking yourself: Why do women test men?

Believe it or not, there is a reason for it. A reason that goes all the way back to the very first people on earth.

You see.

A woman in that day and age obviously wanted strong and healthy offspring. To make sure of that, women tested men on their strength, leadership, and dominance. You could see it as the ultimate test of a man or an alpha male test.

Now, in the 21st century, women are still wired to test men but more subtly.

Every woman that you flirt with will – to a degree – test you to see if you really are that cool dude you’re pretending to be. She doesn’t necessarily do this consciously: It’s in her nature to do this.

The big problem is that a lot of men consider such a test to be a rejection.

But it’s absolutely not. In fact:

It’s a very good sign if a woman tests you.

A test proves that she wants to know if you really are that attractive man.

Women are clever to look past your words. Instead they look at your behavior.

Men who are only sweet and nice never get a test from a woman because they never display any kind of attractive behavior. So, for a woman, it’s not necessary to test a man like this.

These friendly guys are ‘tolerated,’ that’s it.

But with you, that’s different, my friend. She views you as a potentially attractive man, and she tests you to see if that is actually the case.

Today I will give you the 5 most important ways women test men and how to pass women’s tests.

Let’s go.

Test #1: Super direct statements

“So, you think we’re going to have sex tonight? Well, I wouldn’t count on that.”

This is a real alpha male test.

You’re lost for words.

You weren’t expecting a direct statement like that from such a cute girl.

The conversation seemed to be going so well, and out of nowhere, she drops this bombshell.

Now what?

Super direct statements are used by women to throw you off your game.

She wants to test if you’re really as cool as you seem.

That’s why the game plan dictates:

Stay cool!

Don’t stutter, respond very fast, or even worse: defend yourself.

Instead, what you want to do, is stay calm, keep looking at her with a big grin and demonstrate that you’re not the type of guy to panic by these kinds of remarks.

There are two ways to demonstrate this:

  1. Agree and exaggerate.

For example:

“No, we’re not going to have sex. By the way, I’m allergic to sex, so that would not have happened anyway.”

  1. Misinterpreting her statement

For example:

“Sex? What? Are you already talking about that now? Women only have one thing on their mind, huh? I’m just here to have a super friendly conversation with you.”

By staying calm and opposing her test with humor and playfulness, you demonstrate that her little test doesn’t faze you.

Women don’t want men to be a sweet, naïve puppy. Women want a man to be strong and confident (Among other things.)

In fact, science says that women find dominance an attractive characteristic in their male partners.

So your composure and playfulness show her that you understand how the game is played.

The result?

You immediately become 100 times more attractive to her…

Test #2: She ignores you


You got the number of a cute girl.

You’re messaging back and forth for a while. The conversation is fun and spontaneous.

And then, all of a sudden, she stops responding.

Calm down, my bro:

She’s testing you.

By ignoring you (or responding very brusquely), she’s testing if you have a life outside of her.

You see.

A lot of men are so excited when they’re texting a cute girl, that it becomes all they do.

By constantly bombarding her with messages, you’re basically communicating the following:

“Hey, I find you very attractive, I want your attention, and I have nothing better to do than to send you messages all day.”

Is that attractive?


So, what’s the answer?

Read all about it in this article:

>> The 6 Real Reasons She Stopped Texting + 3 Turn-It-Around Texts

Test #3: She challenges you by teasing you

Challenging by teasing is one of the ways how women test men. It’s actually quite a common test.

These are some examples of typical challenging teases from a woman:

Is this really your best opening line?”

I bet you say that to all the girls?”

You think you’re quite something, huh?”

Exaggeration is the best way to deal with these kinds of tests.

Always make sure you have a big grin on your face when you do this.

For example:

“I bet you say that to all the girls?”

“Yep, I just told every other girl in the club the same. I also practiced on my mother tonight, but that didn’t go so well.”

You can also pass one of these tests by not agreeing with her but still exaggerating.

For example:

“I bet you say that to all the girls?”

“No. To be honest, you’re the first woman I’ve talked to. Ever.

Another way to deal with one of these tests is by going along with them. Here it’s important to stay calm and to keep strong eye contact.

For example:

“Is this really your best opening line?”


The reason why this works is that the average dude would go in panic mode from her test and would probably stutter and stammer that he didn’t mean it as an opening line.

But not you, boss man.

By the way, did you know that you can tease her too? As a matter of fact: teasing is a highly effective form of flirting.

Read all about it in this article:

>> How to Tease Women – 7 Ways She Actually Likes + 11 Examples

Test #4: She ‘insults’ you

Be aware: ‘insults’ is in quotation marks for a reason.

Because there is a big difference between a genuine insult and an insult to test you.

These are real insults:

“You’re ugly, and you stink.”

Get out of here, leave me alone, you idiot!”

If you keep going, I’m going to call the police, you creep!”

The ‘insults’ in the form of a test are usually of a lot more playful, teasing, and lighthearted nature.

For example:

You really can’t dance, can you?”

Is this your best way of flirting? It’s not really working, is it?”

I’m sorry, but you’re really too short for me.”

Sometimes it may seem as if you’re being insulted, but by properly dealing with these ‘insults,’ you pass the test more easily.

Once you’ve passed the test, she sees you as more attractive.

One time I was flirting with a woman who told me she hated my shirt.

The Average Andy would probably respond like this:

“Huh? Why?! Who says I can’t wear this shirt?! As if you look so amazing!”

I can tell you this:

Insulting her is not going to help you to pass the test. It will, however, help you to get rejected spectacularly.

Again, the trick is to respond with humor when she playfully tries to ‘insult’ you.

Extreme exaggeration or misinterpretation can do wonders in this case.

Example of extreme exaggeration (with a big grin on your face!):

Is this your way of flirting? It’s not really working, is it?

“Yes, it is. At high school, I have been bullied like crazy for my lack of flirting skills. Thanks for rubbing it in! That’s five years of therapy down the drain….”

Example of misinterpreting:

“I’m sorry, but I really hate your shirt.”

“I see… You want to take my shirt off. Damn, you’re smooth…”

By the way, I have something very nice for you…

Pro tip:

Pick up lines give you something to hold onto in your conversations. Not just when she tests you, but also to ignite that initial spark with her and to start a fun and flirty conversation.

So read this article right here:

>> Conversation Topics List – the 19 Hottest Conversation Starters

Test #5: She rejects you


‘No’ does not always mean ‘no.’

Now, this requires some delicate elaboration even if it’s just to stay ahead of the men-hating feminists out there.

You see, sometimes no really does mean no.

When she tells you to get lost and to leave her alone, I would not advise you to keep going.

So know when you really have been rejected.

But sometimes ‘no’ doesn’t really mean ‘no.’

A woman could say these things, purely to test you:

Why don’t you give it a try with those women over there.”

I’m not interested.”

I have a boyfriend.” (Yep, this is one too)

Always pay close attention to the way she says things.

As long as she’s still smiling and playfully says this, you can assume she’s testing you.

Again, humor and exaggeration are key.

For example:

“Why don’t you give it a try with those women over there.”

“They seemed too hard, so I thought I’d try with you.”


“I have a boyfriend.”

Whooo, calm down. We just met. I want to get to know you first.”

Now you know the ways women test men!

Be aware of these tests and pass them with a healthy dose of humor and exaggeration.

If you know how to pass her tests in the right way, you will see her hanging on your every word in no-time.

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