You enjoy going on dating apps and social networks.
And you like to meet new people.
But you run into a problem:
You’ll find the best ice breakers in this article.
Besides that, you’ll get:
- 47+ best ice breakers for fun conversations.
- How to start the conversation during a first encounter.
- 10 good ice breakers on Tinder and other datings apps.
- The important difference between dating and networking
- How to become the most charismatic person at a networking event.
- Simple teasing examples for after your awesome ice breaker.
- 3 formulas for creating great ice breakers for dating apps.
- And much more…
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Even though it is not explicitly said. You can of course use all the icebreakers for dating apps like Tinder as well.
They work both just as fine for your normal day meetings, as for online encounters.
Depending on the audience you want to choose the right opener. Is it a more romantic meet up, then go for the flirty stuff. Is it more of a business setting, then keep your icebreaker to the professional side.
Deciding what audience you have in front of you is up to you. But I’m sure you’ll get that right.
I’ll provide you with the best ice breakers that will slide you into the conversation effortlessly.
1-10 Fun ice breakers for a first meeting
As far as openers go, there’s a HUGE difference between dating and networking.
When meeting a potential partner, the stakes are way higher than when meeting a potential business relation or friend.
Because there’s no limit to how many friends or acquaintances you can have. To a romantic relationship, there is…
… usually just one.
If you’re sending the first message to a girl that you find attractive, it’s essential that you make a good impression.
This way you distinguish yourself from the masses of guys that want to be her boyfriend.
When you’re just trying to get in touch with an expert in your line of work, a polite greeting is often enough.
Let me give you what you’re looking for!
Know your conversation partner.
Some of these ice breakers are more suitable for a young, playful audience.
”What’s your favorite Mario Kart character?”
”Do you eat food that’s passed its sell-by date, but still looks and smells good?”
“What’s the most pathetic evening meal you’ve ever eaten?”
”What’s the most ridiculous rule you make yourself abide by?”
”If your life had a soundtrack, what song would it be?”
”If you were a character in a book, how would the author describe you?”
”Answer honestly, are you someone who applauds when the plane lands?”
”Imagine you won the lottery, what kind of work would you do?”
”If you could pick what to dream tonight, what would you dream about?”
”Which film scene gives you goosebumps every time, no matter how often you watch it?”
Before we continue to the next tip, here’s an awesome bonus for you.
My lines that always hook. Containing:
– 12 openings lines to break the ice in a flirting manner with girls
– 5 simple techniques that can plow through the thickest and iciest cold shoulder
– 11 flirty sentences to continue the conversation and keep it from icing over
Okay, enough with the ice analogies…
11-20 BEST ice breakers to get the conversation started
A question to gauge your social skills:
Do you know the difference between an opening line and an ice breaker?
Was your answer, “One is a sentence, the other is a ship?”
Then, technically, you’re right…
But that’s not the answer I was looking for.
The right answer is:
The first one starts the conversation, the other one leads the conversation further.
It’s a subtle, but important difference.
Let me take a sentence from the previous tip as an example.
Is this an opener or an ice breaker?
Did you guess opener?
Then you’re absolutely…
Maybe you’ll get the response:
In that case it’s not obvious what to respond.
And the conversation might not progress so smoothly.
Imagine using the opener…
Then you can easily have your next line ready, without being dependent on her response.
If she says:
You can respond with:
In other words, a simple tease that you can drop into a conversation just like that.
Here are ten ice breaker examples that have an easy continuation.
”What would I know about you that I would never think to ask?”
This is a personal question that will probably lead to one of the following answers:
(An honest response followed by) ”What about you?”
In other words, come up with an answer to your own question.
”What are you most proud of?”
People enjoy showing off their own qualities and achievements.
So give her a chance to shine!
At the same time, this ice breaker question will show you what subjects she likes to talk about.
So you want to talk about those subjects.
”What qualities does a man need to have before you’ll go on a date with him?”
Another example where you’re likely to get the same question in response.
If you ask this on Tinder or another dating app, there’s a high chance that she’ll ask you the question too.
”Your house is on fire, you have time to save just one object. What do you choose?”
If she gives an honest answer, you’ll immediately know what’s important to her in life.
It’s often something of emotional value, like a photo album.
Otherwise, it can be something very practical, like a laptop.
Regardless of her answer, it will give a very clear picture of who she is.
And what her interests are.
So you should dive further into those subjects.
”Imagine you can live in a fictional world from a story. Which one would you choose?”
Indirectly, this gives you an idea of her personality.
You can also tease her with her answer.
Imagine she responds with:
A funny tease would be:
”What do few people know about you, that you’d actually like to be known for?”
With this one, you’re giving her the chance to shine like a star.
And you’ll probably touch on a subject that she can speak passionately about.
So it’s easy to lead the conversation to something of interest.
“What topic can you give a talk on without needing any preparation?”
With this easy ice breaker, you’re going to dig up another topic that’s close to her heart.
And if she gives it to you, it costs little effort to get her to share more about it.
Because that topic is her passion.
”What everyday thing that most people like do you hate?”
Before, we focused on the positive, but now we’re turning the tables.
Often, we’re also passionate about the things that we HATE.
Lately, a woman told me she could talk endlessly about her hatred for peanut butter.
For the next 30 minutes, she talked my head off.
”Imagine there’s a hell, which music would they play there?”
Not only is this a funny question, but you can easily continue to talk about music in general.
”If you could solve one problem in your life with the snap of a finger (money problems don’t count) what would that be?”
We don’t count money here because everyone thinks having a huge bank account balance is the solution to everything.
We are more interested in obstacles that give something away about who she is.
How does the conversation flow after her response?
Talk about her response, or give your own answer to the question.
20-30 Good ice breakers for texting a girl[LP13]
The biggest mistake you can make on Tinder is…
There’s plenty of boredom in today’s society and it has little value.
That’s why I’m going to teach you how to stand out with unique and easy ice breakers.
Pay attention: if you want to escape the regular, you have to act a bit crazy sometimes.
A simple example of some healthy craziness is the dilemma.
“Would you rather that all your tops were super itchy, or that you have to wear single-layer toilet paper till the end of your days?”
”Would you rather have hiccups for the rest of your life, or would you prefer to constantly feel like you have to sneeze?”
”Would you rather get in the ring with Mike Tyson once or would you rather SPEAK LIKE Mike for the rest of your life?”
It’s quite easy to make up your own dilemmas.
Do the above sentences not feel authentic to you?
Make up your own dilemma.
Now, we’re moving on to ice breakers that use…
It looks like this:
If you ask this on Tinder, the chances are high that she’s going to read this as kinky role play.
Therefore, its EXTRA funny if you have something completely different in mind:
#23: Role play
”Do you like role play?”
*presses the button to summon a nurse*
”Can I help you?”
”I pooped my pants. I need you to clean my bed”
#24: Role play
”Do you like role play?”
“You start your quest in a dark pub. The sounds of drunken orcs and singing gnomes fill the hallways. You tilt back your head and take a long swig of beer until you feel a hand on your shoulder. It’s the pub owner. “If you’re someone who doesn’t mind getting their hands dirty, I have a nice job for you…”
The power of this scene is in the twist.
Most ladies are so used to perverted men who can only talk about sex, that they will never see this twist coming.
I keep my most successful Texting lines and openers locked away safely.
I only share it with my most loyal fans.
What can you expect from it?
The opener with the highest response rate. And I tell you exactly how to lead the conversation further.
Another way to start the conversation with humor is the multiple-choice question.
#25: Multiple-choice question for dating apps
”Sunday priorities: sports, sleep, or aggressively drinking mimosas?”
This multiple-choice question makes answering easy.
And if you offer creative options, she’ll enjoy answering them.
Openers don’t always have to be funny.
You can also make it more personal.
“What’s something you’ve always wanted to do, but haven’t yet?”
Whether she answers “Riding a pony” or “Riding a dolphin”, you’ll know immediately how adventurous she is.
”If you could travel through time, where would you go and why?”
”Which dating advice would you give your younger self?”
You want to pay attention to this one, mate.
If you’re lucky she’ll tell you exactly what to do to seduce her.
Since the goal is dating, here are three ice breakers for online dating with some zest to them.
“What’s the first thing you noticed about me?”
Depending on your profile, she might say “your bio” or “that photo with the cute puppy!”
But what you’re actually waiting for, is that she liked you based on your appearance.
“Wow. I’m more than just a lust object you know.”
”Women always think about the same thing.”
”Imagine you’re in the club and you see your dream man, how would you try to seduce him?”
30-41 Good ice breakers questions
Experience shows that most men ask the WRONG questions when they meet women.
Yes, dear reader.
There ARE such things as a ‘bad’ and a ‘good’ question.
I discovered this in my dating career in a very painful way.
Years ago, I confidently approached a woman in the club.
Her pupils were as big as dinner plates.
“This is going to be easy!” I thought.
But with each question that I asked, her pupils shrank.
- “What kind of work do you do?”
- “Ah, nice. How long have you been doing that?”
- “What study did you do before that?”
- “And what did you do…”
She stopped me mid-sentence.
I wanted to just vanish…
But it was a lesson learned!
Never ask boring questions!
Here are 10 questions she’ll gladly answer:
”What used to be your favorite cartoon?”
“What’s the most important thing that’s currently missing in your life?”
Every man: “A hot chick.”
”You’re in the hospital for an operation. What is the worst thing you could possibly hear before being put to sleep?”
“Which compliment do people give you the most?”
”If you could be a man for one day, what’s the first thing you’d do?”
”If you could change one thing about yourself, what would that be?”
”How much time did you spend on your last Instagram photo?”
”What fictional character do you identify with most?”
”If you could perfect one skill, what would that be?”
”What do you wear at home if you aren’t expecting company?”
”What’s your ultimate sexy outfit for when you want to make your ex-boyfriend jealous?”
”Which popular film do you refuse to watch and why?”
Best tips for a first interaction
During the first interaction while you’re getting to know each other, there are other factors that are MORE IMPORTANT than your lines.
Think about body language and mindset, for example. So many details that can win (or lose) you points.
To make your first meeting a success, I recommend you watch this video:
This way you’ll be fully prepared for any first meeting!
42-46 Best ice breakers for meetings
I use the following five ice breakers during dates.
“What’s the worst (Tinder) date you’ve ever had?”
Why is this a great question?
She goes back in time and re-experiences her worst date.
Then she wakes up and realizes:
“How would you describe yourself in two sentences?”
There are many variations to this one.
But anything that’s shorter than two sentences is too abstract.
And everything longer than two sentences kills the necessity of getting to the core.
While her description will never be able to encapsulate the full picture, in my experience, it gives you quite a good idea of her personality.
“What will I find out when I get to know you better?”
Really getting to know someone usually takes quite some time.
Since I regularly meet new women, I don’t want to take too long to get to know her.
So I’ll definitely use any question that gives me some insight into who she is with both hands.
“Which signals do you use to tell a man that you like him?”
I ask this for two reasons:
- It reminds me why we’re together now: Because we’re attracted to each other
- You immediately have your first inside joke: You can imitate her flirt signals and exaggerate them comically
Other than that, it’s a great question in case you’re not great at reading women.
If she likes you, then you only need to look for that signal that she just told you about!
”What’s the most controversial thing about you?”
An ice breaker that helps me make the right decision:
Because I love people who don’t take themselves too seriously. And I hate it when people who are easily offended.
If her most controversial aspect is that once, she stole a peach from a farmer’s orchard, we’re absolutely not going to be a match.
#47: The Burning Questions game
I stole this game from talk show host Ellen Degeneres.
The rules are simple.
You ask her a number of questions, and she has to answer them within 5 seconds.
If she takes longer, then it’s not going to be funny.
So make sure she knows that it’s about speaking her first impulses.
Do you want to play the Burning Questions Game when you’re on a date?
Then copy these questions into your phone.
Because you’re never going to remember them all.
Here are the 13 questions:
“When you can’t sleep at night, what do you do?”
“What’s your best beauty tip?”
“Give three words that describe you best.”
“You’ve been invited to a dinner, what do you bring?”
“What’s the worst habit that you’ll never unlearn?”
“What fashion trend do you just not get?”
“What’s the song that ALWAYS sticks in your head?”
“What’s the most rebellious thing you did as a teen?”
“Without counting your face, what body part do you look at most in the mirror?”
“Tell me something nobody knows about you.”
“Fill in the blank: I wish I wasn’t too scared to…”
“What’s the craziest place you’ve ever had sex?”
“What’s the last lie you told?”
If she plays along, these questions will lead to hilarious answers.
Also, you’ll get a more accurate picture of who she is.
Right, now you have a bunch of ice breakers and follow-up lines.
But if you’re inexperienced, most of your conversations will still probably die out quickly.
Do you want to have more conversations that lead to friendship and attraction?
With this in your pocket, you’ll be a master of conversations in no-time.
Good luck, brochacho.
Dan de Ram