You’re in love with your best friend and don’t know if your friendship could become anything more. You constantly ask yourself whether she feels more for you or only sees you as a buddy.
Maybe she’s giving you signs you don’t understand. Maybe she loves to cuddle with you or talk to you for nights on end and you wonder:
I know that feeling of insecurity. It sucks.
When you met each other, you realized quickly that you have a similar sense of humor. After a few ‘appointments’, you started talking about the most intimate things.
By now you love spending time with her and know her dirtiest secrets.
Then suddenly new feelings came along…
Suddenly you get jealous when she tells you about other guys. When she dates men or flirts with them in front of you – you notice how you’re cooking inside.
Lately, you get heart palpitations more and more often when she is with you – especially when she hugs you.
You’re wondering:
- “Have I seriously fallen in love with my best friend now?”
- “How do I find out if she wants more from me than friendship?”
- “Can I make her fall in love with me too?”
Pretty complicated situation you got yourself into there, my friend.
On the one hand you want to find out if she feels more for you as well.
On the other hand, you don’t want to jeopardize your friendship.
What if it’s just a passing fancy and you end up regretting that you made ‘further moves’?
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- In love with your best friend: 7 signs, which show you clearly whether if she wants more from you as well
- 3 tips on how to turn her from a ‘buddy’ into your ‘girlfriend’
- What you can do if she already has a boyfriend
- What you can do if she doesn’t return your feelings
- How you become a sexually attractive man in her eyes
- And many more tips when you’re in love with your best friend…
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How to find out if you’re REALLY in love with a best friend
To help you understand your feelings better, I’ve brought you some insightful questions. Take your time, let them affect you and above all – be honest with yourself!
- Do you get heart palpitations when you see your best friend or even already when you think of her?
- If you don’t see her for a long time, do you start to miss her… a lot?
- You can’t stop thinking about her? Sometimes even about what it would be like to kiss her or sleep with her?
- You can imagine a relationship with her very well and are already thinking about plans on how to win her over?
- When she is with you, are you often totally distracted by her and can’t even get the simplest things right?
- When she meets other men or flirts with them in front of you, do you get jealous?
- You wonder if you should just confess your love to her?
- You give her gifts in hope that they will increase her affection for you?
- Do you get nervous when you see her and always want to show ‘your best side’ when she’s around?
So? How much of that applies to you?
The more question you answer confidently with a yes, the more certain you can be that there’s more to you emotionally than just a little crush.
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However, let’s see what signs your best friend can give you that show that she also wants more from you.
‘Is she in love with me?’ – 7 signs by which you can tell if she wants more
#1 Her laughter
Does she laugh a lot or rather little when you spend time together? Does she laugh more out of politeness or does she always laugh heartily, even when you tell her the lamest jokes?
Laughter is a form of recognition.
If she wants more from you, she’s probably laughing a little shyly and girlishly. Even if she laughs to break the tension and can’t make eye contact, this speaks for interest in you.
But if she laughs loudly and more like a guy, you can assume that you’re just a buddy for her.
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#2 Her style
A woman who wants more from you than a traditional friendship pays much more attention to her style when she meets you. She wants to please you and tries to achieve this by showing you her best side visually.
So, if you notice that she doesn’t give a damn about her appearance when you see each other, that’s not a very good sign.
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Attention:
There are women who ALWAYS style themselves as perfectly as possible and never dare to leave the house without make-up. So, you always have to make your conclusion within a context.
#3 What she tells you
She tells you that she ‘would love to find a man like you’ or that you’re like a brother to her.
Translated this means: She wants a man who has your warmth and understanding, but who behaves masculine and can seduce her.
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#4 She always wants you to do her favors
A woman who wants to win a man over tries to do this by doing things for him. She rarely asks for favors because she’s afraid that she’s annoying him.
So, if you constantly catch yourself assembling some cabinet for her or changing the tires of her car to win her heart, you’re on the wrong track.
#5 She never feels embarrassed/ ashamed in your presence
She has no problem changing in front of you or even going to the bathroom in front of you?
Not good.
I know. It’s easy to fall into a trap and think at this point:
I’m sorry to say:
As long as you haven’t yet kissed or slept together and she isn’t changing her clothes seductively in front of you, it means something different:
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She doesn’t care if you think she’s sexy.
#6 She talks about other men
Here it depends a lot on how often and to which detail she talks to you about other men:
If she does it only occasionally and pays close attention to your reaction, she may want to know if she can make you jealous.
However, if she constantly talks about who she finds attractive and tells you about her active dating life then it’s a different matter.
In this case, she only sees you as a buddy and doesn’t even think that you could be jealous.
#7 She talks to you for hours about her problems
A woman who has a crush on you is trying to win you over. So she wants to make a good impression on you.
Of course. she also knows that she doesn’t achieve this by telling you all her problems for hours. Women aren’t stupid…
So if this happens to you with your best friend, you can be pretty sure you’ve already driven miles into the friendzone.
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Don’t worry, you’re far from lost. Now let’s see how you get out of this mess.
Falling in love with your best friend: 3 sacred tips to turn your friendship into a relationship
Tip #1: Make up your mind!
Bro.
I want you to understand something.
You can only be one thing for your best friend: Either her buddy or her lover.
So, if you decide to break out of the friendzone, do so with 120% certainty.
The chances that you can continue to be normal friends after your attempt is virtually zero, so think about whether you’re willing to take the risk, make the decision and go through with it while taking responsibility for it.
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Tip #2: Change your behavior
Let’s assume you’ve thought about it and are willing to possibly lose her as a friend.
How can you break out of the friendzone efficiently?
Something you definitely don’t want to do:
Under no circumstances should you run to your best friend and confess your love to her or write her a love letter.
If you confess your love to her, you’re giving her the responsibility of your friendship and putting her under immense pressure. Which only leads to her getting turned off.
Listen…
Your best friend probably thinks that you either have no sexual interest in her or that you don’t have the balls to show her your real intentions.
None of these thoughts are particularly favorable to you. That’s why we’re now trying to plant a third possibility into her thoughts:
Imagine if you had just noticed that you find her interesting on a sexual level. This way you can give ambiguous signals to her without obviously and directly hitting on her.
For example, if she says something that interests or pleases you, you can say:
Beyond that, you should start treating her as more than just a buddy:
- Start touching her more often consciously
- Hug her a little longer than usual when you say hello or goodbye
- Compliment her, for example if you like her style
- Look deep into her eyes more often
- Start flirting with her
But most important of all:
Man up.
Think about it. What are men like she dates besides meeting you? How are you different from them?
That doesn’t mean that you should act like these men.
What I’m rather saying is, that there’s maybe something you could learn from them.
Show your best friend that you’re able to take the lead and aren’t afraid to make decisions and take responsibility.
For example, if you want to meet and she asks you what you want to do, don’t say:
Rather give her a clear suggestion/ invitation and say something like this:
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Tip #3: Don’t be always available for her
A woman needs to see that you have more important things in your life than just her. She has to feel that you are a man on a mission.
If she notices that you’re always and at any time available for her, then that’s a huge turn-off for her.
For you to live a happy life and become more attractive to women as a byproduct, your hierarchy of values should look something like this:
- Your mission/ your bigger purpose in life
- Your family and friends
- Your wife / girlfriend
I mean you’re high-likely also not her #1 priority. She probably canceled on you a couple of times without you having a problem with it. Just as you naturally shouldn’t always be available to her.
So, if she asks you to meet her but you don’t have time, say something like:
This shows her that you don’t put her on a pedestal in your value system, but also that she’s still important to you (because it’s not like you don’t take any time for her).
Bonus tip: Flirt with other women
I know this tip may seem a little manipulative at first but let me explain it first.
Even though your feelings probably say something different right now and you’re only fixated on your best friend:
Start to approach other women and flirt with them.
Strangely enough, we humans always want what we can’t have. If your best friend sees you flirting with other women and getting along well with them, it can trigger two things within her:
- Jealousy
- Attraction
She might think this:
‚Hmm… Apparently, these other women found something about him which is attractive. Maybe I missed something about him? Maybe there’s a side of him he hasn’t shown me yet…’
This, coupled with your new, more masculine attitude towards her, is a powerful mixture to take your relationship with her to the next level.
She reacts well
If she responds well to your new behavior, you should try to make a move and kiss her.
So that you’re perfectly prepared for this, read this article:
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You have clearly communicated your sexual interest in her.
She reacts badly or circumstances prevent it
- What if she doesn’t reciprocate your feelings?
- What if she already has a boyfriend?
- What if you both work in the same company together?
Whatever the reason, if your attempt to break out of the friendzone fails despite all that, then keep your distance.
Focus more on your career, your friends, hobbies and other women.
I know it’s going to feel like shit to distance yourself from her. But you’re not doing yourself any favors by going all ‘good friend’ on her.
You damage your self-esteem when you run after a woman who doesn’t want you the way you want her.
In order not to offend her, seek a clarifying conversation with her and tell her that you first must come to terms with your feelings and therefore need time for yourself.
You can then use this time intensively to become the best version of yourself. When you see her again after a year or two and she can get to know your new self, the cards are already shuffled differently.
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See you on the other side, bro!
Dan de Ram
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