7 Kissing Tips and Techniques to Become an Amazing Kisser

kissing tips

This article is for all my people who:

  • Love kissing women as much as I do
  • Think you first have to go on multiple dates and hold hands before you can kiss a girl
  • Don’t know how to get a kiss
  • Are nervous about making a move

Because what you get:

  • 3 Steps to the perfect kiss
  • How to be a good kisser for your first kiss with that madam
  • 3 Kissing tips and tricks for guys to make her addicted to your lips
  • Kissing tips that go further than just the lips. The way you move the rest of our body is just as important!
  • Much more kissable tips…

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Since you clicked this post, you can probably relate.

I still remember how much brain power I used to spend on the thought:

“Damn, how can I kiss her?”

As a result, I felt so inhibited that there was no room for any sexual tension.

A few years later, my friends were shocked when they saw me kissing all these women on YouTube.

What it took to get women to kiss me, you ask?

A thousand romantic dates, deep trust, and the perfect moment?

Not at all…

Beginners see me and think it was my pickup line.

When you look closely though, there are a lot of nonverbal details to it. Beginners don’t see them, but they’re there, and they are actually more important than the words that come out of my kissable mouth.

We’ll get to that soon.

Develop a Jamesbondian body language

Body language is nonverbal communication in a nutshell. There is:

Research has suggested that communication is about 70% derived from nonverbal behavior. So learning about body language is a must.

To focus on all these mediums at the same time is an overload. You’d get into your head, overthink it and become nervous as hell. In other words: it’s counterproductive.

This is why I broke the act of kissing down in simple steps. Kissing has never been easier.

So in 3 steps you will learn how to kiss the perfect kiss properly.

Step #1: Eye contact

Every baby knows that eye contact is an important variable in every social situation.

When it comes to kissing though… eye contact is not only important but essential!

When you analyze how other people kiss (do the creep), you realize that a kiss is always initiated by deep eye contact.

  • The bad news:

You can f*ck up a lot. When you stare at women or can’t withstand the tension like a boss, it’s going to be hard to kiss her.

Confident eye contact is hard to fake. As long as you are no professional poker player, people can see the insecurity in your eyes.

  • The good news:

Good eye contact can be learned.

This is great because, through the right eye contact, you can easily create a deep connection and massive sexual tension.

Now, eye contact is a broad topic. If you want to learn exactly how to read eye contact, read this article:

>> Reading Eye Contact: 7 Signals She WANTS You

Step #2: Physical touch

I have seduced women without talking, no biggie. But I have NEVER seduced a woman without any form of touching.

Too bad you have to marry a girl first before you can touch her…

Ok, I’m only joking. I see it often that men wait way too long with the whole “touching a woman” part.

If I didn’t crack jokes about it, it would be way too sad.


You can and should touch a woman from the get-go.

Especially when you want to kiss her!

Maybe my biggest kissing tip…? Touch her from the start, so kissing her later isn’t such a bit step anymore.

I know that the whole #metoo thing is intimidating, but you are not some rapist creep, right?

Guess what, you can even touch her before you even talk.

Do it calmly and softly, of course. And check in with her. It shouldn’t look like wrestling or tug of war.

Simply reach out your hand, look into her eyes, wait until she grabs it, and then gently pull her close to you IN SLOW MOTION.

When you feel resistance from her side, just let her hand go for f*ck’s sake.

But if she doesn’t resist, there is no need to assume that she doesn’t enjoy being touched by a gentleman like you.

Of course, I know it can be tricky to get the difference between friend zone and attraction when a girl touches you.

That’s why I wrote an article about this! Check it out:

>> 9 Tips to Distinguish Flirt from Friendly When a Girl Touches You

Step #3: The finesse

Suppose everything went according to plan and she is now standing in front of you, piercing your soul with her blue eyes.

You can now take her hands if you want. Either simply hold them or put them around your neck (I love this move).

Pro tip:

You can also take her elbows and lead her hands to your shoulders that way. That’s a bit more subtle compared to taking her hands. And it works like a charm. From outside, it even looks like she is the one seducing you.

When she is cool with all that (= doesn’t take her hands away), it is often an indicator that she is ready to be kissed by you.


That does not mean you should go ahead and jam your tongue into her throat in a way that would make Speedy Gonzales look like a sloth!

Be inspired by the words of Treebeard:

“We must not be hasty, little Hobbit!”

SLOWLY get closer to her lips. The moment BEFORE the kiss means a lot to women, so don’t ruin it by being hasty.

Do you know what I love?

That’s right. Simple and practical secret tips to increase the tension before a kiss so much that a discharge has to happen:

  • Whisper into her ear: It’s not so much about what you say exactly. It’s about your cheeks touching softly. That’s hot!
  • The seductive triangle: Let your gaze wander from her left eye to her right eye to her lips and switch it up. When you do that and she still looks at you like you are Jesus Christ himself it is impossible not to get the kiss.

Now or never, bro!

Weeeehooo, nice! You got the kiss!

If not, remember this:

The Golden Rule of Kissing

It often doesn’t work at first try. That’s fine.

There are multiple reasons for that:

  • She is not interested (unlikely when she is still standing in front of you giggling even though you tried to kiss her)
  • You were too hasty (Treebeard is disappointed)
  • She likes to play “hard to get”
  • You did not isolate her (more about that later)

But don’t be whiny and remember this golden kissing tip:

When it doesn’t happen with your first try, it might happen with your second.

This is what women mean when they say: “I want to be conquered.”

Yes, dear friend. As long as she doesn’t look at you with disgust or gives you a clear “no” (verbally or nonverbally), you have my permission to try again later.

Don’t just give up in that case. Think about this instead:

Kissing women rapidly: the kissing tips and tricks to success

Many men don’t understand the importance of creating an atmosphere in which a kiss can happen.

The key to success is:


I don’t think I’m crazy when I say: 95 % of kissing is preparation and only 5 % is the kiss itself.

For this reason, it is not smart to desperately look for that magical tip to kiss women fast.

“Say this, do that and you can kiss her.”
I hate breaking it to you, but that’s not how it works.

And I know this is coming from a guy who looks like me, is as handsome as me, and writes amazing articles about how to kiss women…

I rather tell you the uncomfortable truth instead of pretending that there is a magical pill.

The magical pill is a lie.

It doesn’t exist.

And even if it existed, I would still focus on preparation.


Because that way, you can create an atmosphere in which you don’t even need to do anything to kiss her.

When you know what you are doing, you might even get her to kiss you.

That’s why, for the rest of this article, we will talk about how to prepare a kiss.

So get yourself a cup of coffee, a piece of paper, a pen and…

Tip #1: A tip for the perfect kiss

Learning how to kiss properly is crucial. Research has shown that kissing has a beneficial impact on your well-being. So how to kiss perfectly?

Privacy is your wingman. When one of my clients talked to a woman (she seemed very attracted to him), and he tried to kiss her, she said:

“Not in public.”

It makes you wonder what would have happened if they were not surrounded by other people.

A kiss is an INTIMATE moment between you and her (except her female friend wants to join, but that’s another topic…).

That doesn’t mean you can never kiss a woman in front of others. But most of the time, they highly appreciate discretion.

After all, she doesn’t want to look like a nymphomaniac with zero control over her sex drive.

So, you often have to be alone with her in order to kiss her. Hmmm, not so easy in a crowded club, right?

Well, I always have some kissing tips and tricks up my sleeve:

  • Physical isolation: Take her hand, tell her that “you need some fresh air/ want to get to know her/ it’s too loud here/ you have to steal her away for five minutes/ somebody farted, and you have to get away from that guy immediately” (Yes, any reason is fine). Then simply lead her to a place (outside the club/ a chill-out lounge, smoking area, etc.) where you won’t be disturbed.
  • Psychological isolation: Here is a secret: You don’t really have to be alone to make her feel like you two are the only people on this planet. Create a bubble that isolates you and her from the outside world by having strong eye contact and turning her away from her friends. When they are not in her sight, it is easier for her to forget they are there. Out of sight, out of mind.

Tip #2: Erotic tension

A good kiss doesn’t fall from the sky.

It is a logical consequence of the steps you and her are going through.

As soon as you have reached a quiet place and created a bubble together, it is important not to expect her to kiss you right away.


First, you have to create sexual tension.

This is the way on how to kiss properly.

The bigger the tension, the bigger the discharge, a.k.a. the intensity of the kiss.

One of the fastest ways to create sexual tension is through a daring yet innocent:

  • “You shouldn’t have put on that dress… I can barely think clearly.”
  • “If you would just know how hard it is to resist your kissable lips.”
  • “All other men probably hate me right now, because I am the one kissing you, if you are lucky.”

Great example lines.


Because they are implying that you think she is super freaking hot without you actually saying it.

That keeps the tension so high that she will want to reduce it by kissing you… she will lose her mind otherwise.

Now, if you want to take things to the next level, you might need more tips on how to create sexual tension.

Good thing I wrote an article about this! Here it is:

>> 7 Tips to Make Women So Horny They Booty Call YOU

Tip #3: How to get that first kiss

As soon as the tension is high, it’s time to take a chance and kiss her.

What did you heat up the oven for? Put that bloody pizza inside, god damn it.

This tip in kissing sounds easy in theory, but in reality, this is where a lot of men are still too hesitant.


Because they wait for clear signals or that special invitation from the woman.

Two – unfortunately often made – mistakes are:

  • Never ask if you can kiss her (ewwwww…)
  • Don’t wait for her to ask you for a kiss

Just do it. Shamelessly.

And again: It can happen that she rejects your first kiss. But now you know what to do. 😉

Practice makes the perfect kiss

Uncle Bruce would say:

“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”

Listen to this Kung Fu Legend, but make sure you actually KISS women (instead of kicking them).

Go out (yes, there is a world behind your screen) and practice the above kissings tips and tricks. If need be 10,000 times.

Yes. You’re going to need to meet a lot of women.

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