Feeling you’re not being masculine enough?
You want to know what you can do to become an attractive manly guy?
Or are you simply curious about what masculine traits are considered to be the most attractive?
Then you’ve come to the right place.
Today you get:
- The top 7 traits of masculine men
- Typical masculine behaviors that make you 69 times more attractive
- Why even a baby can be more masculine than you
- A secret characteristic that immediately makes you more masculine (few men know this!)
- What the Eminem trap is and how to avoid it
- And much more masculinity boosters…
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Life isn’t what Snickers says it is
According to Snickers’ old commercials, if you want to be masculine, you need to be a big muscular guy with a deep voice.
No worries, that’s not how real life works (luckily!)
In fact, there are 7 hyper-masculine qualities that every attractive man has.
And before we begin, let me make something clear:
You can become more masculine regardless of your age, height and the tone of your voice.
This is exactly what you will learn in this article today.
And hear me out:
These 7 masculine traits haven’t been invented by some random journalist in a fashion magazine.
No. We’re going to talk about the most important masculine characteristics based on the scientific principles of human evolution, human biology and psychology.
As a dating coach, I’ve taught many men how to be more masculine.
So I’ve seen how powerful these manly traits can be.
And time after time I see the same pattern:
The more of these traits a man learns -> the more masculine he becomes -> the more attractive he is
And it’s not just good for you – you’re also doing your girlfriend, wife or that cute girl you met in a bar a favor.
A small side note:
You should know that women sometimes display masculine traits, just as men sometimes exhibit feminine traits. This is a fact.
So keep in mind that the masculine traits showed in this article are not exclusive to men.
Before we go through the list of masculine traits, let’s see what you must avoid at all cost if you want to be more masculine.
#1: How to display masculine energy
The other day during a coaching session, I told my student to go and talk to a cute girl we saw on the street.
He approached her with his nicest smile, introduced himself and then… He fell into the Eminem trap.
Well, as you may know, Eminem is well-known for his rapid-fire raps.
My student talked to that girl at such a fast pace that he seemed to be talking in another obscure language.
She didn’t understand a thing and made up an excuse to leave.
Talking super fast is a common mistake a lot of guys make when talking to beautiful women.
Research suggests that men behave differently when they’re talking to an attractive girl.
A common behavior change is talking faster.
The thing is, talking fast radiates restlessness, which makes you look less masculine.
An attractive man remains calm. He’s chill. He moves and talks slowly.
See, for example: George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Dan de Ram, or Pierce Brosnan. (Yes, I just included myself in this list).
Those guys talk slowly. And they radiate self-confidence and masculinity.
Talk as calmly as you can when you speak to a girl… as if you’re doing it in slow motion.
This applies not only to what you say but also to what you do.
Move slower, talk slower, conduct the whole conversation as if time has slowed down.
By doing that, you’ll come across as a relaxed guy, which is an attractive trait.
And on top of that, it gives you more control over what you’re saying. This can help you have exciting conversations with any girl.
Of course, being able to spark amazing conversations with women is a broad topic. It deserves its own article.
Guess what? Here it is:
#2: The first masculine trait that makes men more attractive.
If you want to become more attractive to your girlfriend or to women in general, read on.
This characteristic is way more important than your appearance.
And it’s called… Leadership.
Scientist Robert Trivers has shown that since prehistoric times, leadership has been one of the most important and attractive male characteristics.
Trivers bases his arguments on a study called the Parental Investment Theory.
This is one of the reason.
Another reason is that, back in the (very old) day, prehistoric humans had to face a lot of dangers (wild beasts, traveling in snow and ice, etc.)
Women had to be extra picky in their choice of partner. They literally needed a strong man to survive.
Men with leadership offered the greatest chance of survival for women and their offspring.
Now, I know we’re not prehistoric men anymore (although… Jason Momoa might be. I don’t know.)
Yet, leadership in men is still ingrained in us. For example:
- It’s often men who take the first step on a date
- It’s often men who first go for the kiss
- In many types of dance, men lead
- Most women are attracted to dominant men (science confirms!)
Now, you might be wondering:
This article has all the answers you need:
Trait #3: Why even a baby can be more masculine than you (and how to avoid it)
Let’s talk about a masculine trait that very few men have.
The thing is, without this characteristic, you’re as masculine as a baby.
What am I talking about? You’ll find out in a minute.
See, babies are cute. And because babies can’t talk, they whine and cry. A lot.
That’s pretty annoying (especially when you’re on a plane next to a baby, but that’s another topic.)
The thing is, babies don’t know how to express their needs, thoughts and problems into words yet.
That’s why they cry when they’re hungry or when something’s wrong. It’s their only way of taking responsibility.
Now, that’s a great tactic as a baby. But this is somewhat less effective as an adult.
As an adult, you have a lot more options to solve your problems than just crying loudly.
But many grown men still act like babies when they deal with problems. They keep whining and complaining. They expect others to solve their problems.
This is called having a victim mentality.
The victim mentality is not attractive, man.
For example, I’m sure you’ve heard guys say:
These guys have something in common: They don’t take responsibility for their lives.
They whine, complain and blame, but never act. And this is not masculine at all.
Real men take responsibility.
Of course. A lot of women take responsibility for their lives. The truth is nothing in life is either 100% male or 100% female.
Yet taking responsibility is often associated with masculinity.
We’ve all heard the following sentence, for example: “Man up and stop complaining!”
Or just like Roy L. Smith said:
So, always take responsibility for your life.
- What can I do to make my life as epic as possible?
- How do I choose to deal with the problems in my life?
- Does my happiness depend on others or do I take responsibility for it myself?
Answering these questions is the first step towards improving your life.
Here’s the second step:
Trait #4: The Hidden Alpha Male Characteristic
Pay attention: we’re about to talk about a masculine trait that immediately makes any man 69 times more attractive.
Let me start this tip with a story:
The other day I walked out of my house. The first thing that caught my eye was one of the most beautiful girls I had seen in my life. The kind of girl you can’t stop thinking about.
The thing is, I’d been working all day. So I wasn’t in the mood. On top of that, I had a big headache. And of course, I was nervous.
So what did I do?
I gathered up my courage and spoke to her anyway. I took the risk of being rejected.
This, my friend, is called being vulnerable.
Vulnerability is one of the most masculine and attractive traits a man can have.
When talking to a girl, a lot of men get super nervous because they want to be 100% cool and perfect.
Being vulnerable means not trying to be cool or perfect. Just be yourself.
Here’s what I said to that girl:
She loved the way I approached her.
I took her out on a date three days after that, and she told me:
The truth is, a lot of men assume that being vulnerable is NOT masculine. They see it as being weak.
This kind of stupid mindset is one of the reasons why so-called Pick Up Artists became so popular.
For those who don’t know, Pick Up Artists are dating coaches who teach tricks, lines and techniques to hit on girls.
How is that different from what I do, you say?
Very good question. At AttractionGym, we teach men how to become attractive through honesty. We encourage our students to work on themselves and improve their lives so they can naturally become more attractive (and happier!)
Pick Up Artists teach tricks to manipulate girls and make them think you’re cool until they find out you’re not.
They teach insecure guys to fake self-confidence.
We teach authentic bad-ass self-confidence.
And vulnerability displays self-confidence.
A man who dares to be vulnerable is much more attractive than a man who hides his feelings.
Because vulnerability sub communicates a strong message. It implies:
I think you got the message: Vulnerability is one of the most attractive alpha male traits.
Dare to be vulnerable.
Trait #5: A masculine trait every man should have
In this tip, we go through a masculine characteristic that distinguishes you from women.
No, I’m not talking about your third leg.
I’m talking about brute strength.
Yeah, I know, some women are strong as f*ck.
MMA fighter Ronda Rousey would probably kick me down in 5 seconds if she wanted to.
But strength is more related to masculinity than to femininity.
Mainly because men produce 10 times as much testosterone as women.
That’s why men are naturally stronger than women. And that’s why brute strength is a masculine trait.
In other words: the stronger you are, the more masculine you are.
So if you haven’t done it already, join a gym.
Not only does doing sport help you gain strength, but it’s also excellent for your mental health.
Trait #6: Why you should set and pursue goals
Having ambition and setting goals is a very attractive trait of masculinity, so don’t take it lightly.
Actually, ambition and leadership are closely related (see tip#2).
Men want to be higher in the hierarchy to earn the respect of others. This is human nature.
And in order to be higher in the hierarchy, our brain constantly sets goals.
So ask yourself:
If you don’t have any, chances are you haven’t gotten the most out of this masculine characteristic.
Women are attracted to guys with a clear mind, guys who know exactly what they want in life.
And pursue it.
Don’t worry: I’m not saying you have to come up with one big life goal now.
Goals (or challenges) can be very simple.
- Increase the amount of weight you lift at the gym
- Get better with women.
- Move up the corporate ladder and become the boss of your company
It doesn’t matter what goals you set yourself as a man, as long as you set goals.
Set your goals and make them happen. It’ll make you a more energetic, happy and masculine man.
Trait #7: The power of humor
Again, I’m not saying men are funnier than women. Humor is subjective.
But this doesn’t change the fact that humor is an attractive trait of masculinity.
First of all, men love it when girls laugh at their jokes. It boosts their ego.
It’s a little different for women. Most women don’t get the same ego boost when they make good jokes.
One thing we can be sure of: Girls are attracted to positive and fun guys. They love it when a man makes them laugh.
Humor is attractive because it displays self-confidence and social intelligence.
It’s also a form of showing vulnerability (see trait #4).
Well, a man who’s funny takes the risk of being not funny.
If you make a joke, there’s a chance that no one will laugh (this happens to all of us!)
Of course, I’m not saying you have to become a true comedian.
But when in a social situation, be light and fun. It shows that you experience life lightly and pleasantly, and people will enjoy hanging out with you even more as a result.
Some guys think that being grumpy and angry makes them more masculine.
That’s not true.
If you’re too serious, you make it clear to people that you’re insecure. A real man is someone who doesn’t take himself too seriously.
So how do you become this?
By practicing self-entertainment.
Do you remember as a kid, when you simply had fun? You didn’t care what people thought about you.
That’s the mindset you want to achieve.
When you go out, have fun. Stop taking into account what others expect from you.
If you focus on just having fun when you go out, you’ll still feel good after an evening out, even when you don’t end up taking a girl home.
Of course, eventually, you want to take girls home too. More on that below.
How to take things to the next level
Great, you now have all the tools you need to be a more masculine guy.
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You can find it all in my Transformation Kit.
Dan de Ram