Little success with online dating?
Are you a newcomer in this field or have you been swiping for a long time but haven’t yet had the success you wish for?
Do you sometimes feel lost when e-dating? Just as if you can’t get a foothold?
Dope, then you landed on the right side. I know everybody says that, but this time it’s for real – as you’ll see in a moment…
Before we start: Every online dating success begins with a first-class profile.
In this article, I won’t give you any tips for this. If you need to pimp your profile first, you can find the necessary online dating profile tips over here:
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What I want to give you today on your way to becoming a chat champion are fundamental principles that you should follow in all forms of messaging/texting, be it on Tinder, Bumble, WhatsApp, or whatever.
Because most men cockblock themselves without being aware of it.
Today you’ll learn:
- Meet women online: Why you have more potential in online dating than James Bond
- Online dating texting tips: How you make sure she responds
- How you fascinate her more and more with your messages
- The right way to use humor (most men do it wrong)
- How you get her addicted to your messages
- And many more tips on online dating…
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Tip #1: How to double your attractiveness
You know him. The man who saves lives, pins bad guys, and sleeps with more women than he can count.
Oh… Oops! That’s me. My bad. F*cking autocorrect!
I was actually talking about this guy:
The man, the legend, the sex symbol… James Bond.
What sets him apart?
- He always stays cool.
- He masters every life-threatening situation.
- He’s seducing the hottest lady in town.
What I’m asking of you now is…
…NOT to be like James Bond.
Although he does everything right, he is and remains a movie character. He’s not real and never could be.
Real men like you and me have flaws.
Many men who ask me for advice try too hard to come across as immaculate as possible.
But this way, they immediately violate two of my basic principles:
- Nothing is as unattractive as someone who tries too hard.
- Women aren’t stupid.
Your match knows well you’re not James Bond. And if you pretend you are, what does that say about you?
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Right! That you’re ashamed of your weaknesses, and you don’t feel good about yourself.
And women can smell it.
Your match when she realizes you’re not standing by your flaws.
If you act like this, she’ll be done with you in a second.
There’s no better way to make this clear once and for all than with an example.
It doesn’t happen often, but sometimes your favorite dating coach makes mistakes.
And when that happens, I’m happy to admit it.
In this case, she didn’t answer my last message.
Too much smooth talk is a big turn-off.
Anyone who tries to be cool is just insecure.
This is what you’re going to do from now on:
The next time you feel the need to make a perfect impression, I want you to notice it and switch to honesty immediately.
An example:
I could have used this opportunity to present myself as cooler than I am.
Instead, I walk the vulnerable path and admit that I’m not God and would get nervous with her.
Yeah, you read it right: I’m not God. My mother is an ordinary woman. I’m sorry you had to find out this way…
Revealing your flaws to a woman sometimes feels like you’re spreading your legs, leaving your balls exposed, saying, “Hit it full throttle if you want to.”
It can be scary, but it shows that you’re brave and can stand by yourself.
And THAT’S impressive. Not the tough talk.
In practice, it’s a little more complex, but in a simplified way, one can say:
A good balance between your JamesBond-ian dominance and your vulnerable side will increase the attraction between you and her immensely.
This means that – if you haven’t developed your cool side enough yet – vulnerability and honesty won’t get you very far.
As an illustration for the math nerds:
- No coolness + vulnerability = whining
- Coolness + vulnerability = humility
And humility is sexy.
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Tip #2: Why a bad boy should open his heart
This is my bad-boy scale. It’s perfectly balanced and just looks adorable. <3
On the left side, you can see your vulnerability level.
On the right, you see your coolness level.
Underneath, there are red alarm lights on both sides that can be triggered and then make a very loud “wooo, wooo, wooo.”
What’s going to happen if you go all James Bond all the time?
The scale tilts to the right, and the alarm is triggered.
This signalizes your match:
What you should then do (as discussed earlier) is to be honest and show your weaknesses.
However, if you exaggerate, the scale will tilt to the left and activate the alarm on the opposite side.
Your match will then be signalized:
So, you need to find a healthy balance.
The basic principle of “balance” will run like a red thread through this article, because just like your James Bond-level, you need to balance your jokes.
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Tip #3: The right use of humor
Everyone knows that women love it when men can make them laugh.
Jeffrey Hall conducted a study on this.
He came to the following conclusion: The more often the man tries to be funny and the more often these attempts make the woman laugh, the more likely she’s to be romantically interested in the man.
And most guys also know that humor is one of the keys to a woman’s heart.
But what they don’t know is what happens when they’re too funny.
Look at this example of a young man whose WhatsApp conversation went nowhere:
This guy means well. I can follow his train of thought, and I can tell he’s trying.
But he jokes on and on like a clown, and she gets tired of his jokes so that he never got a response to his last message…
Don’t get me wrong. Humor works. Everybody likes to laugh. But a woman isn’t looking for the next Dave Chapelle. She wants a man who can be SERIOUS, and someone who knows when exactly it’s time for a fresh meme and when to have a serious conversation.
As this fresh meme shows, you have to press more than one button to excite your dream woman.
Once again, I used my first-class Photoshop skills to illustrate this principle with my humor scale.
What happens if you set off the alarm on the left side?
Then she thinks that you’re always serious and that it’s impossible to have fun with you.
And then she’s done with you.
What happens if you trip the alarm on the right side?
You’ll end up just like our failed WhatsApp hero from the previous screenshot.
She’ll think, “Boy, is he childish…”
You can easily laugh with her for a while about something. This can increase the attraction between you. In the same way, you can talk about something serious for a long time. That way, you can create a deep connection between you.Side note:
It’s up to you to decide when your conversation needs some variation.
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Okay, now you know that you need a good COOL-VULNERABLE balance, as well as a FUNNY-SERIOUS balance.
Now you have to find the sweet spot between “texting too much” and “texting too little.”
Tip #4: The online dating tip that guarantees a response
Maybe you know it: You match a spicy senorita and start a conversation.
You write a message, and she responds.
You write another one, and she responds again.
But somewhere in that back and forth, your enthusiasm gets the upper hand.
The needy monster inside you takes control, and then everything goes downhill more and more…
Before you know it, the match will dissolve like a Walter White acid bath.
There are several ways to avoid painful situations like this.
If you’re not yet convinced of your texting skills, then I advise you to start with an overall balance first.
What do I mean by that?
That you text as much as she does.
In the next example, I’ve colored in the text bubbles so that you can only focus on the QUANTITY of a successful conversation.
As you can see, the conversation proportion is evenly distributed.
Not only do we send each other two messages each time, but they’re about the same length.
In practice, it won’t always look like this. Generally, in the initial phase, it’ll always be the man who texts more than the woman.
In this phase, you convince her that you’re worth the effort. Once she realizes you’re a cool motherfu#%er, she’ll start writing more.
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Tip #5: How to let her invest
When you notice that she starts to invest in the conversation, you can sit back and relax.
Here too, a healthy degree of the balance must be restored.
This is my beautiful investment scale.
On the left is the total weight of your messages, and on the right is the weight of her.
When the scale tilts so much to the left that the alarm is triggered, it signalized the following to the woman:
On the other side, however, this time there’s no alarm, but my big green thumb.
As soon as the scale touches it, I’ll personally come and give you a high five, because that means:
*Greenlight* She’s extremely interested in you/addicted to you. *Greenlight*
Even if I couldn’t understand English, I would know that the woman I texted with yesterday wasn’t exactly averse to me. Here is an excerpt from the WhatsApp chat history:
Side note:
The next time you find that you’re investing more than she does, don’t panic immediately.
As long as you’re not stuck at this stage, it’s perfectly normal. Your job is to make her more and more fascinated by you through your conversation so that she’ll invest more and more until my green thumb is in her bottom.
Metaphorically speaking, of course.
Alright, alright, alright!
Your coolness is balanced. Check!
Your jokes are well balanced. Check!
She invests more than you do. Check!
Then it’s time for… timing.
Tip #6: How to get her addicted to you
If you’ve read many of my articles, you know that I like to apply economic insights to dating.
If this is your first article from me, then you have to pull down your pants, lie down on your couch and give yourself a good old spanking.
So, in other words, here is a quote from the author of the book “The Power of Money Dynamics“:
Very well put, Venita.
Timing is not only important in business but also when you want to seduce a woman via smartphone.
One of the most famous dating tips from self-proclaimed “flirt coaches” is that you should never respond too quickly to her messages because otherwise, you would be “too easy” for the woman.
Okay… there may be some truth in it. I have to admit that sometimes that can be true.
But in fact, it’s more complex than that.
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Tip #7: When you should text (back)
Imagine you start a conversation with a woman, and she responds relatively quickly.
Even your second and third messages aren’t unanswered for too long.
The standard advice now would be to take more time to respond than she does.
Well take a look at the beginning of this WhatsApp chat and watch the timing:
In the beginning, we need, on average, 10 minutes to respond to each other.
Over time, however, the conversation gains more and more flow, so both of us texts back within a minute.
I respond immediately, instead of trying to force her to “chase after me.”
Fair question, amigo.
Think for a second about what you think is more effective:
- Make her wait every time to pretend you’re “hard to get”
- Exchange a whole series of messages until the conversation takes up so much flow that she doesn’t want to put her smartphone away
I think that makes it clear.
Of course, most women don’t answer immediately.
They’re at work, texting with friends, training their booties at the gym, whatever.
So, if you have got the chance to create a smooth conversation, you better grab it with both hands. These are the moments when you make her excited about you.
Of course, there is, bro.
If you absolutely always and without exception respond to her messages faster than I can say “deoxyribonucleic acid molecular structure,” then it just screams that you’ve no life.
If she answers slower than my grandma writes letters, then it’s better if you take over her pace.
Think again about the principle of balance.
Once she invests, you can bet on timing.
If you notice that she texted something and writes again sometime later, even though you haven’t responded yet, you can be sure that she was busy thinking about you.
Once again, I’ve been doing some artwork for you.
I’ve outdone myself this time. Let me introduce you—my beautiful timing scale.
The rabbit stands for “responding too quickly” and the turtle for “taking too long.”
If the scale tilts to the right and thus activates the alarm, the woman thinks:
If it – on the other hand – tilts strongly to the left, she thinks:
Your goal? Keep the rabbit and the turtle at the same level.
Pro tip:
Sometimes, it can be extremely effective to go to extremes intentionally.
For this, however, you need to know what you’re doing. If your texting skills have yet to mature, it’s a good idea to keep a certain degree of balance for the beginning.
Bonus tip: How to let her emotions shoot through the ceiling
In the mood for a dramatic story?
No?
I’m only asking as a courtesy, cause I’m telling you the story anyway.
How generous of me.
It all started with a Tinder match:
And to be honest with you, I was crazy about that woman. Everything was going fine until then. Well… “okay” might be a little strong…
Sometimes there were fireworks between us, but sometimes they were as intangible as the moonlight. There were times when she responded with dream messages at the speed of light, but also times when she didn’t text back for two days. She was more unpredictable than a drug cocktail.
A friend advised me to let her swallow her own medicine. On his advice, I didn’t respond to her WhatsApp messages for a week.
Read this article and you can thank me later.
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On the first day, nothing happened. On the second day, she sent me a message which remained unanswered. A little later, I received another one. At that point, she must have really wondered what was going on… “Normally, Dan always texts back.”
2 messages became 3, 3 became 5 and so forth. A little later, my mobile rang. Her name came up. I didn’t answer. The call turned into a voice message. One voice message became two. The contents of the voice messages changed from relatively calm to angry to worried.
She turned from a “cold-hearted killer” into a woman begging for my attention.
Now I can literally hear it: “Wow. Crazy. So you have to ignore an annoying woman until she follows you around like a puppy.”
It’s not that simple.
After a few days, the magic of my ignore session fizzled out, and as soon as she got attention again, everything was back to the old.
In the end, I realized that it was probably better to let this woman go.
Besides, I would never retake such extreme measures. But I learned a lesson this week that I’ll never forget. And hopefully, you can draw your own valuable conclusions.
So… this article is drawing to a close.
I advise you to go through your text conversations and pay attention to the proportions.
Have you noticed that you text more than the women? Are you joking too much or too little? Do you always respond in record time? Do your messages make you seem too cool or too vulnerable?
Think about the direction in which the different scales would tip over on you so that you can pay attention to it the next time you flirt from the toilet bowl.
Chek out my,
Until then:
Hasta la vista, bitches.
Dan de Ram
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