71+ Questions to Ask a Girl on Tinder That Will Make Her Open Up to You

Questions to Ask a Girl on Tinder

Let me guess.

You’ve read everywhere that asking questions on a dating app is an absolute no-go.

Women will unmatch you faster than a homeless person is ignored.

Even I tell you to leave asking questions out most of the time.

But there are occasions to ask questions.


You keep your Tinder questions interesting.

No a dime a dozen questions that make her fall asleep.

These questions make sure she is stimulated continually. So, she doesn’t have a choice but to respond.

You’ll get:

  • 71+ Questions to ask a girl on Tinder – Expect a reply
  • Tinder Icebreaker questions to hit the conversation off in 5th gear
  • Actually good questions to get to know each other and to challenge and tease her
  • How to involve the other person in your chats
  • My free tool to always make your Tinder questions funny
  • 5 Tips to apply this Tinder question list successfully
  • And many more texting tips…

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Tip #1: Good tinder opening questions – Is it possible?

Hell yes, look:

I hereby give you the first question.

What was the last time you did something for the first time? (And what was it)

This is a great Tinder icebreaker question in my opinion.

I’ve had some real deep dives right off the bat. Yes even on Tinder. Still it all depends on the girl and you’ll have to gauge that off of her profile.

Sadly, her reply is even more boring than people who Instagram their food. Luckily, I’m able to recover this boring conversation…

By using one of my phrases from my free WhatsApp Cheat Sheet. You can copy and paste these phrases into your own chats.

Get it here!

Your chats will never land in the country of Boredom again. And your Tinder date will land right in front of you.

Now, is this question to ask on Tinder the ultimate conversation starter with a 100% response rate?

Probably not.

Every woman is different. One person might think this question is very interesting, the other might not.

Of course, for every question you get from me make sure that you have your own answer ready as well.

After your question she’ll definitely say:

“What about you?”

You better have something prepared to keep the momentum going.

Here is another container ship filled with interesting questions to ask a girl on Tinder:

Tip #2: Good questions to ask on Tinder – Everything that is not generic

Let’s start with the Tinder question list.

Pro tip:

Look for extremes.

Everything that is extraordinary, extreme and over-the-top, is interesting.

Think about gossip magazines, Hollywood movies and drama shows.

You can ask her these:

What is your craziest vacation experience?

What is the furthest country you’ve been to?

What was your worst Tinder date?

What is your weirdest personality trait?

What are you most proud of?

What is the weirdest thing you’ve said to someone?

What is the best question you can ask someone?

What is your most embarrassing thing if I Google your name?

What is the weirdest place you’ve had sex?

What was your most special dream?

Want more Tinder questions?

In a minute. First, check this important tip so you won’t ruin your conversation halfway:

Tip #3: Do you want dates? Never ask these questions to a girl on Tinder!

There are questions and then there are questions…

On one hand, there are interesting questions that involve her, and create a connection.

On the other hand, there are questions like gum sticking under your shoe. You can feel it stick, and you want to get rid of it like that homeless person I mentioned before.

Later in this article, I’ll give you a few questions to easily lead to a date without the risk of getting a ‘no’.

But, first, ‘questions’ you never want to ask a woman on Tinder:

  • How are you?
  • How was your day?
  • What have you been up to?
  • What are your plans for the weekend?
  • What are your hobbies?
  • What kind of work do you do?
  • What do you study?

This is the underlying communication:

“I’ve nothing better to say. Could you maybe make this conversation fun?”

You put pressure on her to lead the conversation to something fun.

(And women are not built to lead) 😉

Best-case scenario, she replies with one word…

Most probably you won’t get a reply at all, and the conversation is dead.

Pro tip:

Preparation is key.

So, prepare with as many funny phrases as possible. I give lots of these in my WhatsApp Cheat Sheet.

Click here to get it, it’s free!

Don’t have inspiration for an exciting message?

Throw away your phone and text her later.

And what you get now is an easy format:

Tip #4: The ‘Or’ Tinder question list

Good questions to ask randomly during the conversation. Then these Tinder questions give an abrupt change to the chat.

However, these are also great Tinder icebreaker questions. Easy for her to reply on and get the conversation started.

They give you an extra topic to revisit later and it’s perfect to tease her.

A small side note about this:

You might not be very good at teasing women.

Fair enough: Teasing is an art, man.

Here’s a full article on how to tease a girl the right way:

>> How to Tease Women – 7 Ways She Actually Likes + 11 Examples

Please, don’t ask her if she likes cats or dogs… That’s such a cliché.

Ask her this:

Lefty or righty?

Red wine or white wine?

Rabbit or turtle?

Kickboxing or pillow fight?

North or South pole?

Getting sunburnt by a tanning bed or sunlight?

Ice cream with or without topping?

Rich or handsome?

Pandas or penguins?

It’s important you reply with a playful, teasing or challenging message about her, when she answers your question.

And switch topics after a few messages. Is it really that important if she prefers to get sunburnt by a tanning bed? 

Tip #5: Asking Tinder questions to a girl – there’s a catch

You know the first part…

You ask a lot of her. Especially when your question isn’t stimulating enough.

Suddenly the burden is on her to make the conversation fun. Instead, you should make it easy for her to respond to your conversation topics.

Think about your Tinder conversation as your business card.

She’ll get a first impression of you and decide if you’re a cool guy she’d want to go on a date with.

If you don’t seem interesting in chat, then what expectations will she have during the date?


It often derails here…


The men I coach are cool guys in real life. They unfortunately just lack the skill to make it clear to her over chat.

That’s exactly why I say ‘skill’.

It’s definitely possible to learn it.

We’re doing it right now.

Have a look at my other articles, in which I wrote about this topic as well.

Read them and your chat conversations will reach the next level:

-> 7 Tinder Profile Tips to 10x Your Matches (Even if You’re Not Brad Pitt)

-> My Tinder Experiences: 11 Must-Have Tips from my 300+ Tinder Dates

-> Dating Tips for Men – The 9 Most Essential Insights

Let’s continue with the questions:

Tip #6: Tinder questions to ask, to uncover everything about her

Do you want to create a deeper connection on the dating app? Then you’re in the right place with this Tinder question list.

These questions are a little more personal.

Science says that asking more personal questions on a date leads to a closer relationship between two people.

Just pick a nice question you think fits well in the conversation:

What word describes you best?

Is there something you want to do, but you’re too afraid of it?

What big lesson did you learn lately?

Would you rather sit on someone’s lap, or have someone sitting on yours?

If you’d be a superhero, which superpower would you love to have?

Which of your senses could you live without?

Are you more focused on what you hear, see, smell, taste or feel?

What didn’t you learn from your parents, that you wanted to learn?

What was your favorite cartoon?

Have you met someone lately who changed your life?

Which habit do you want to break?

Why Tinder (or another dating app)?

I foresee a great date!

Which habit makes you special?

Would you want to change something about yourself?

Which decision would you remake in your life?

How romantic are you?

What is your talent?

What do you think you’re the best at?

Which question would you rather not answer?

What have you not told anyone in a long time?

What is the last time you told your parents you love them?

What would your superhero name be?

What are you afraid of?

Are you spontaneous?

What is the one thing I can wake you up for at night?

Tip #7: Good questions to ask on Tinder that lead to the date

What most men do wrong is the following.

Out of the blue, they ask for a date on a specific day.

Firstly, chances are high she’s busy that day.

Secondly, better to probe first if she is date-ready.

Because if she’s busy or not ready, you’ve already got your first ‘no’ collected.

After that, they ask for another day and time.

“No, no and no”

The whole conversation gets sucked into the massive black hole called ‘no’.

Your chances drop far below freezing.

That’s why.

First gather information, before you ask your Tinder match to go on a date with you.

What would be your perfect date?

How do you prepare for a date?

Handshake, 3 kisses, a hug or instant make out?

What is your favorite place in city X?

Where would you take me on a date?

Tip #8: My best flirty Tinder questions to ask a girl on Tinder

It’s short, sweet and simple.

The girls and women on Tinder love it.

And it works like a charm.

Let’s marry?

Charming no?

Best Tinder question to suddenly ask her out of nowhere.

And after that, plan your honeymoon to Vegas or Easter Island.

Are you not chatting on Tinder? Then you can send her a picture of you two marrying. Guaranteed you’ll get a hilarious reply.

There are also lots of gifs on Tinder.

Pick a nice one that fits the situation.


You might have heard of Arthur Aron’s questionnaire…

This guy invented a list of 36 very powerful questions that can make someone fall in love with you (Science confirms!)

You get the questionnaire in this article, divided into three sets of 12 engaging questions:

>> The 131 Least Boring Questions Ever to Ask Your Date

Tip #9: Naughty Tinder questions to ask a girl

The next questions require the right moment to ask.

You already want to be in an exciting conversation with her. Or these questions will come across weirdly.

When done correctly… oof, the chat often goes from warm to hot.

But this is an article about Tinder questions. So naughty questions you can ask her cannot be skipped.

Here are the spicy questions you can ask to a woman on Tinder:

What is your masculine side and what is your feminine side?

How do you flirt verbally with someone?

How do you flirt nonverbally with someone?

If you kiss someone, do you prefer the upper or lower lip?

Biggest age gap with a man you kissed?

Biggest age gap with a man you slept with?

What part of your body do you get complimented on the most?

Which male body part do you compliment the most?

Do you add more or less lipstick if there is a chance of kissing?

Would you kiss someone in the first minute after meeting?

Imagine a naked man in front of you, where would you touch him first?

What is the most romantic way you’d want to meet someone?

Women often say it’s during the day in a supermarket, at the bus stop or on a train platform.

But these are difficult places for men to meet women.

And if it happens to her, she’d probably back-off.

At the end of the article, I have something for you to ease into the conversation when you meet women in these less normal places.

So you can be her knight in shining armor in the Walmart.

Tip #10: Maximum bullshit = maximum fun

These phrases will help you.

Because too many people on dating apps (and sometimes in real life) are incredibly boring.

Of course, you will do better with these questions in the back of your mind:

Is a turtle without his shell homeless or naked?

How to find out if a word in a dictionary is spelled incorrectly?

If honesty would be #1, would lying be #2?

Would you rather have a cat that behaves like a dog, or a dog that behaves like a cat?

What is the most hilarious porn title you’ve come across?

If you could only curse with one word, which word would it be?

In order to survive you need a blood transfusion and Hitler’s blood is the only option. Would you do it?

How long do you usually shower?

Tip #11: How to ask boring Tinder questions, without roasting the conversation

  • How are you?
  • What are your hobbies?
  • What kind of work do you do?
  • Any plans for the weekend?
  • What do you study?

Questions you want to ban to the Shadow Realm immediately.

Want dates?

Do not ask these Tinder questions.

But, there is a way to get this information

  • Without literally asking the question
  • Without seeming boring
  • But still stimulating her

This is how you do it:

You start your ‘question’ with: “You seem someone who…”

I take a boring question from the list above and rephrase it:

“What kind of hobbies do you have?”


“You seem someone who could sit hours in the attic, spending time with her stamp collection”

This way, you make an assumption. Now she has to tell you if it’s right or wrong and most often she’ll give the real answer.

Now you find out she’s actually a horse girl. Sadly, you’ll never beat his Johnson.


Pro tip:

Stimulate her even more by first telling you notice something about her.

Before your assumption, say this:

You know what I notice about you…

Watch her begging for the answer.

With this tool, you’ll become a Tinder conversation king

You’re 71+ Tinder questions richer.

Questions to ask a girl on Tinder to make your conversation go a whole lot more smoothly towards the date.

Even though asking the right questions is fun, it’s not enough to have a complete conversation.

You also need to tease and challenge her and have fun with her. These questions give a lot of opportunity for that. However, I haven’t gone into much detail about it.

For a masterclass about teasing online, I made the free Transformation Kit.

It’s filled with flirting phrases that you can ask her either in real life or in chat.

Check it out right here.

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