So, you arranged a date with an attractive woman (nice, bro!). If you’re a normal person (and not a psychopath), then you’re a bit nervous now.
You wonder where to go and what to do.
It’s good that you worry about it because believe it or not:
99% of dates are deadly boring! And the problem is that women then conclude that you’re boring too.
But don’t worry, with the right tips it’s surprisingly easy to stand out from the average Joe.
I promise you: No more boring dates!
What you’ll learn in this article:
- The 33 things to do for a first (or second) date that put you 1-0 ahead
- The worst places to go on (first) dates which guarantee an unpleasant atmosphere
- How you stand out from 99% of other men
- The most fun things to do on a date night
- Tips from a dating coach that make the difference (get fun, romantic, cute, cheap, exciting things to do for a [first] date)
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In one sentence, you’ll learn: How to seduce her through fun date activities she never experienced before.
The difference between a “Meh” and a “Wow” date
You know how it is…
Most men make a giant mistake on their first date…
They go to a movie or a restaurant...
This is the worst thing you can do. It’s a huge investment of time (and money) and you sit across from each other all evening unchanged.
The essential ingredient for a phenomenal date is VARIATION.
Make it your mission to do many different things, fill in the gaps with cozy walks, and experience as much as possible in the given time.
This has many advantages:
- If you go for a walk, it’s less unpleasant for her if she doesn’t know what to say.
- It’s easier to incorporate physical contact.
- You offer her a rollercoaster of emotions and that’s what arouses her.
- The variation makes it seem as if you’ve spent more time together.
Let me give you an example of the ideal flow of a date:
- First, you go for a walk with her for ten minutes (this way you let the nervousness go as well).
- You’ll get to the first place where you’ll spend an hour or so.
- You go to the next place for ten minutes, and in the meantime, you seek physical contact.
- You arrive at the second place and until then you feel more comfortable together.
- On the way back you can build up body contact again (and kiss her).
But I’m not going to keep you on tenterhooks. It’s time for some original date suggestions!
The 33 best things to do on a date
Places to go on a date near me – #1: Tourist in your own town
With the right mindset, you can experience your own city as if you were on vacation. Just text her something like:
“We’ve both lived here for quite some time now and there are still so many things we haven’t seen. This isn’t working. Let’s be tourists for a day and rediscover our city!”
Take a boat trip or a city tour on a bus designed for tourists. If you live in New York, I have a mission for you: Kiss her while enjoying a great view of the city. Take a trip around part of the city, show her all the nice details you know in your neighborhood. Be her flirty tour guide.
There are a bunch of great events and places in your city, so it’s time to take advantage of them, my friend.
Speaking of events…
#2: Events in your city
There are various events in your city throughout the year. From folk festivals to concerts.
Often cities have skate night. The streets in the city center are cordoned off and you ride through the night on inline skates. A great date!
#3: Pub crawl
I was once interested in a woman (she had beautiful, full lips) and thought it would be a good idea to check out the pubs with her.
I texted her beforehand via WhatsApp: “Hey, let’s go for a pup crawl tonight.” Of course, I meant “pub crawl” and was very surprised when my date showed up with a leash and a backpack full of dog toys. I guess she was getting ready for a visit to an animal shelter. Why she didn’t question that, I don’t know…
At least I was made familiar with her weakness for cute puppies.
We’re talking about “bar hopping,” which is a fantastic Things to do on a date. You gain bonus points when you take her to your favorite bar where you know the staff. Don’t stay in the same bar for more than half an hour—the more different the bars, the better.
One of my buddies swears by karaoke dates. He makes a fool of himself singing Backstreet Boys songs or Aqua’s “Barbie Girl” out loud.
He impresses his rendezvous women with his lighthearted manner on stage. It’s a combination of vulnerability and not taking himself too seriously that attracts the female sex so much.
Recently I tried the same thing and I can confirm his things to do on a date with a very successful date.
Make sure YOU start singing and take the lead.
I chose “This Love” from Maroon 5, jumped on stage and I ROCKED the shit. Ok, vocally it was a disaster… But I did it with conviction and impressed my date with it. After that, she wanted to sing “Fix you” by Coldplay. My first thought was, why such a sad act? But you know what? She was a hell of a singer.
And now imagine if she had started… …and I was standing there like an idiot who can’t sing.
So, I chose to be the confident guy who didn’t take himself too seriously. Otherwise, I’d just stand there like an idiot who can’t sing.
#5: Petting zoo
It’s totally unusual. Two adults petting a baby goat among a bunch of little kids…
Women usually love animals (if not: RUN!) and it’ll awaken the little girl in her. Your animal-loving side will leave a lasting impression.
#6: Deluxe restaurant under $10
You may be thinking, “But, Dan, I thought we weren’t supposed to have dinner!”
Hear me, young padawan. There’s one small exception!
What’s the best thing about dinner? Right! The dessert.
After a walk you can say something like:
As long as you stick with a dessert and a drink, you should have a great time there for little money. And the lady has something to show off to her friends.
#7: Take a walk
You have a dog? Great. Put a leash on that little mutt and let him be your wingman. Dogs are known to be man’s best friend, so he’ll help you pick up the chicks too.
If you don’t have a dog, take her to a shelter and take a dog from there for a little walk. The animal shelters are happy about people who take the dogs out. So, you not only have an excellent date but are also doing a good deed.
You may have noticed by now that dates where you’re “in action” are good dates.
The more you move, the less time you have to be nervous.
Playing billiards is a classic among dates. It’s easy to integrate physical contact and tease her playfully. With a mischievous smile, say something like:
My cousin (someone you would never expect to see in a casino) once said to me after a game of Poker: “Let’s go to the casino!”
The place isn’t only for high rollers and gambling addicts. And you don’t have to put your future firstborn on red.
It’s all about you playing a little gamble with her. You win some, you lose some. It’s fun and shouldn’t cost much. Don’t spend all night there. Play a few games, have a drink and move on.
#10: Shopping & Cooking 2.0
This is more suitable as a second or third date. Preferably go to an organic market (which is more interesting than a classic supermarket and shop food there.)
One way to get her excited about it beforehand is to text her and tell her that you came across an insanely good recipe and that she absolutely must have tried it. Of course you can practice the recipe beforehand.
When cooking together, build in a lot of physical contact and put on good music. This provides perfect conditions for possible sex. Use it wisely.
Laughing together is balm for the soul. Or to put it less poetically: In any case, it sets the perfect beginning for a fun evening.
Humor is one of the best remedies for nervousness. Make sure it’s a short program first. Preferably 30-60 minutes with various comedians.
#12: Picnic 2.0
An ordinary picnic date is boring and probably cribbed from a Hollywood tearjerker. I’ve got a better suggestion: The instant picnic date.
Don’t let her know anything first. Take a 10-minute walk as described above and go to a supermarket where you can quickly buy some bread, cheese and olives (extra points for a disposable grill and meat). Of course, you have a blanket in your backpack.
A real pimp has a frisbee with him. This will bring swing and fun to the date!
#13: Storytelling night
You can find them almost everywhere across countries. It’s a very simple idea: You meet strangers and tell each other stories from your life. There are comfortable sofas, beanbags and tea. If you’re lucky, there’s even a hippie pumpkin soup.
Of course, you shouldn’t only passively participate, but tell a story yourself. Inspire your date and everyone else with the crazy adventures you’ve experienced!
#14: Bike ride
There are beautiful routes almost everywhere for a sprightly bike ride. Take two apples and some water with you. You might be wondering where to take her. Here are prime bike ride destinations:
- A lake where you cool off
- The best viewpoints in your city
- A beer garden
Remember, you’re the leader.
I’m always amazed at how something that looks so boring from the outside can be so much fun to play by yourself.
Playfully challenge her and laugh together with her about how many tries it takes to get this damn ball into this stupid hole.
I can’t lie to you: I suck at bowling. But no one’s ever resented me for it.
Many bowling facilities are open until late at night and play good music. There are again many opportunities for possible physical contact!
#17: Fly a kite
Chances are she hasn’t done this for years, but somehow misses it. This date goes great with a picnic.
#18: Dance class tryouts
The best dances are those such as Salsa, Bachata or Tango, in which the tension between man and woman plays a central role. There are many dance schools, especially in bigger cities. A trial training is free of charge in most cases and it’s supposed to be a one-time fun thing.
Don’t worry, neither of you two has to know how to dance. If you both can’t, it makes the whole thing even more fun and enjoyable.
#19: Swimming pool
Swimming, chilling in a hot tub, massaging each other…
One advantage of this date is that you can check out her body and find out if you like her without makeup as much as with it.
#20: The Picasso date
Take a brush in your hand and create a painting together. The crazier and more expressionistic, the better.
A little purple here, a little green there… It doesn’t have to make sense. What matters here is the fun of the artistic endeavor.
You may notice that all the dates mentioned so far have something in common. It’s time to talk about an essential factor:
The most important date tip
Lift yourself up. Nobody wants to be pigeonholed as a “just another average dude.”
Take her into YOUR world. A world in which you feel good about yourself and which fits your personality.
I’m a little hippie. I love nature, forests, mountains and guitar sounds around a campfire. That’s why I like to meet the women in big parks, jump into the lakes there or drink cheap canned beer with her at a river.
It would be wrong of me to take her to a museum or shopping. Not that it’s a bad idea. But those are just places I can’t relate to.
As a bonus there are some things to do on a date that you shouldn’t take too seriously.
You often read today that romance doesn’t work for women. To a certain extent, I agree with that. But often romance is confused with cheesy bullshit.
Going on a first date with chocolates and flowers… that’s romantic in a Hollywood production
But my opinion is this: Men could be much more romantic and value a deep connection.
You can stand out enormously this way and win the heart of an amazing woman.
What are the best romantic tips to seduce a woman?
To answer this question, we must first define what romance is. Everyone has their definition, but for me, it’s this: Looking after a woman.
And this is something special. Especially in this age of smartphones, Tinder and speed dating.
That’s what it’s all about:
BEING CREATIVE is MORE IMPRESSIVE than spending a LOT of money.
That doesn’t mean you’ve to struggle for her. The small things make all the difference.
#21: Hide a bottle of wine in the bushes
If you have a date with her, you score points if you have a little surprise for her. In summer, you can hide a bottle of wine and a corkscrew in the bushes near a nice bench. When you go for a walk, you lead her to this spot and say with a wink:
You shouldn’t surprise her with something too often, but if you do it once in a while, she’ll be crazy for you.
#22: Romantic night picnic with candles
Candles and a blanket are all you need. She’s wearing a great summery dress and a lukewarm wind is blowing against your skin… It’s a pity that it’s not always summer, isn’t it boys?
This is a good opportunity to massage her. And think of another blanket in case it does get too cold at night. This is the perfect “excuse” to get closer.
#23: Forest hike
Take her out into nature. Take her by the hand and be creative. For example, you can teach her meditation on a beautiful meadow or you can do yoga exercises together.
Ask her if she has ever slept under the stars.
Showing yourself to her in nature in this way leaves much more of an impression than inviting her to dinner in a chic restaurant.
Once again, look after her.
Information such as birthdays, planned trips, exam times, job interviews…
WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN.
You can’t imagine how much she enjoys a warm message before an important presentation.
Write something like:
If she’s about to go on a trip, you can text her:
The key to the success of such messages isn’t to expect anything in return. Give her these kind words unconditionally.
Another romantic text is a serious, not too slimy compliment. Be original.
After a date:
In the morning:
Write these things only occasionally and in moderation, so she never knows when you’ll be romantic next time. This way, it remains exciting for her and she appreciates every romantic moment with you.
Only do this with women you like and really want. It’s very likely that she’ll develop feelings for you, so use all this with care. If you only want her for the bedroom (which is perfectly okay) but give her false hopes through romantic messages, you deserve the kick in the balls that she’ll probably give you.
Action weekend dates
You’re a man. A hero who enjoys life and adventure. Might as well have a nice girl by your side, don’t you think?
Original, adventurous things to do on a date follow, which she’ll never forget.
I know you’re probably thinking, “What the fuck is Zorbing?
You’re in a big plastic ball and roll down a mountain. That sounds awesome on its own, but imagine that for two.
The adrenalin pumps through your veins and you feel alive. Now you can end the whole thing with a passionate kiss and boom… you have a successful date!
In case you haven’t heard: it’s like snowboarding on water. When I tried it for the first time, I was amazed at how much fun it was. Chances are high that the woman has never done it before.
Text her something like:
If she responds:
Then a good answer can look like this:
She’ll connect this first and grandiose experience with you forever.
#26: Water skiing
The same principles apply here. These dates can be perfectly combined with a picnic, or afterward swimming or sunbathing. An advantage of water skiing is: You see each other in a tight wetsuit.
This is one of my favorite dates. Find out where you can do that in your city. It’s best if you take a long walk along a river. Make sure, of course, that you’re in the same boat.
As a man, it’s a great opportunity to show what a good leader you are. It’s adventurous and sexy!
Barney Stinson knows what’s good. Join forces against a bunch of little kids and fight to survive. You’d be amazed how much this experience unites two people.
Just test it yourself.
Maybe not everybody knows this one yet. Let me explain it to you: There are two of you locked in a room, and in order to get out, you have to solve all kinds of puzzles.
So, you can check out if you would make a good team.
Clichéd dates that are secretly great
Yeah, they’re usually boring. But cliché dates are cliché dates for a reason. With the right approach, the secret ingredient “variation” and your personal charm, they can be excellent.
#30: Eating in the dark
A pitch-black room where you have to trust your senses. Through this unusual situation, you get to know each other on another level.
Show her how well you can handle the situation and she’ll feel that wherever she is, she’ll be safe with you and have a lot of fun.
#31: Feed the ducks
This date can also be perfectly combined with a picnic. Women like animal-loving men. Remember, ducks shouldn’t eat too much bread. So, throw them grapes that you’ve left over from your picnic. Ducks also love oatmeal.
This is a good opportunity to sit down on a bench with her and get closer.
#32: Trash movie marathon
You. Her. The worst movies ever. And lots of popcorn. (You’ll have lots of room to talk and touch…)
#32: My standard date: Coffee 2.0
Let’s start with a classic. 90% of my dates are coffee dates. I know it’s not the most original date, but after a walk, it’s often nice to sit down in a warm café and sip this caffeinated drink of the gods. It’s a good opportunity to ask and answer profound questions.
There are the most unusual cafés around the world – and the more unusual the café you choose the better.
Say something like:
#33: The. Best. Date. Ever.
This idea is at the top of the list. Think of it as the holy grail of all dating. You can’t keep going on this date because it costs time, money and effort. But it’s so good, it’s worth all the effort. Pick a special lady for it and don’t do it on the first date!
It’s playful, romantic and full of action. I’m talking about our favorite childhood memories:
No matter if Legoland, Disneyland, or other adventure parks. Let out the inner child in you but be an adult when it comes to kissing on a Ferris wheel.
I think you’ve got some ideas now.
Get out there and rock that date!
What, you don’t know how to act on a date?
Keep calm, bro…
… and look at this kit I’ve made for you:
May the force be with you.
Dan de Ram