In this article you learn:
- 8 Tips for a successful third date
- How you can use the third date to spark a firework of emotions in her
- The top 10 best 3rd date ideas and why you should choose wisely what you want to do with her
- 5 third date rules, without which you’re guaranteed to ruin the 3rd date
- 3rd date advice: How you kiss her/ make love to her and what happens next
- And much more third date tips for guys…
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Your 2nd date was a success! Your 3rd date is coming up.
Congratulations, bro.
This means that you already have the first two dates behind you.
If you think you’ve survived the hardest part, than you’re more naive than I though, my friend.
Although you’re much less nervous than before the first date (because you know her better now), you need to set the direction in which you move together very solidly now.
If you fuck up the third date, she can get colder feet than a hobbit in winter and you can forget about a relationship.
Yeah, I just used the “r” word…
Because the fact that you want to meet for the third time indicates that at least one of you is already thinking about what it would be like to grow old and grey with the other.
Okay, it doesn’t have to be that extreme, but the relationship question can definitely hang in the air.
Ask yourself what you want to do on the third date.
I don’t know you, but it’s probably one of those things:
- She tickled your relationship material sensor and you want to bind her to you
- You doubt whether you really like her that much and want to give her another chance
- You want to do her and make her your fuckbuddy.
Whatever your goal is, I can’t (and won’t) tell you what to do.
No. I’m here (who else?) to provide you with the most effective tips so that you can steer the third date in the direction YOU want it to go.
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Tip #1: The secret ingredient that sets off a firework of emotions in her
“The first two dates were insanely great. But somehow there’s no chemistry between us. Should I be honest and text him this?” she said to her friend on the phone after returning from the 3rd date.
Ouch.
That’s certainly not the gut feeling you want to unleash in your chica bonita.
But what exactly do women mean when they talk about this stupid “chemistry“?
Well, that’s a fair question, brochacho.
In most cases this means that you were no more than the next guy who likes football, cars and beer…
…just like all the other ordinary guys.
Most men forget to spice up their dates with a fundamentally important ingredient that is…
Personality.
So, choose a date that reflects your personality.
If you know me, you know I like to keep my first dates casual.
Why?
The reason should be clear: I don’t know the woman (well) and don’t know if she’s even worth my effort.
But now date #3 is coming up, which means you can already come up with more original dates and try a little harder than a Dan at date #1.
Most men take the path of least resistance: A drink in town, a coffee at Starbucks…
No.
It’s fucking boring, and I know there’s more to you than that. Maybe it’s time to choose something that will draw her to your world.
Give her a first-class taste of your personality and what it’s like to spend time with you.
If you hate fancy restaurants, don’t go. If you’re more fired up than a squirrel on speed, do something more action-packed than drinking green tea with her.
I’m going to give you 3rd date ideas. That’s my job. Your job is to pick the date ideas that best match your real personality.
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Tip #2: 10 original third date ideas
Date idea #1: Tourist in your own city
Check out what your city has to offer with your sexy senõrita.
Chances are high that you’ve never seen your hood out of the eyes of a tourist – and neither have she.
Plan a promising walk – for example along a river, a popular shopping street or an interesting museum.
This is a very dynamic date because you’ll collect the most different impressions.
It’s raining?
Then you have to text her:
…
No. I was just testing you. Only rags write something like that.
In this case you’ll of course have an umbrella with you, under which you can hide together.
How romantic…
Date idea #2: Werewolf forest hike
Sounds intense, doesn’t it?
Don’t worry, there’s nothing more behind it than a nocturnal walk in the forest.
You get bonus points if you do this during a full moon, just like a real werewolf should.
It’s the third date, so you should – especially if you’re the adventurous type – do something extraordinary with her that she definitely won’t forget.
With a nocturnal walk in the forest, you create a perfect scenario in which you’re her hero, guiding her confidently and fearlessly through the unknown.
If she’s anxious, you can hug her and talk to her positively.
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That way, you’ll pick her up emotionally as much as few guys do.
Do I hype this date idea too much?
Maybe.
But fact is: There’s a high probability that she has never experienced this before and then boasts about it to her friends.
Date idea #3: Canoeing
It could hardly be more adventurous.
Who the f#*k is Indiana Jones?
Once this hat-wearing clown realizes what dates you have, he can take his petty Holy Grail and step aside, because now you’re the world’s new favorite adventurers.
Go to a canoe rental company and make sure you’re sitting in the back, because this way you’re responsible for the direction your boat goes.
Date idea #4: Tender loving care
I know you’re thinking about sex now, you pig. :p
That comes after, but first you’ll go to the petting zoo together.
Women love everything that is small, sweet and fluffy.
A visit to the petting zoo is therefore a guaranteed success.
It sounds so simple…
… but I bet it’s the first time a man’s ever taken her to a petting zoo.
Date idea #5: Skip everything and go straight to the best part
And again, the boy thinks about sex. You’ve no shame at all. (That’s it!)
But this time we’re going to a restaurant.
Actually, we’re going to a faaancy restaurant that you usually give a wide berth to when you’re dating because you don’t have a money-shitting donkey at home.
However, this is the third date this time, so feel free to spend some money.
I can already see your worried look. Don’t worry, it won’t be that expensive, because only the best is available today. As the saying goes, “The best comes last.”
Yeah…
Dessert is all we have today.
Call a restaurant in the afternoon and ask if it’s possible to come by in the evening just for dessert and a few drinks.
You can combine this very well with a walk through the city.
Of course, you’ll then “just by chance” pass the restaurant you called before – genius as you are.
Let her know as you confidently lead her in…
…while everything seems like a spontaneous adventure to her.
This is leadership in its most romantic form.
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Date idea #6: Night bathing
I see genius date ideas EVERYWHERE.
Of course, it’s even nicer in summer, but hey – there are also indoor pools with warm outdoor pools.
Of course, night swimming is even more exciting when you turn it into skinnydipping, tear off your clothes and jump into a lake together.
And only God knows what will happen if you face each other naked in a lake under the stars.
Date idea #7: The cooking date
This is the classic date idea for switching from a public to an intimate setting.
The short version:
- Pick out a recipe together beforehand
- Buy the ingredients together
- Cook to good music
- Eat like kings
- Optional, but recommended: Have sex at the kitchen table afterwards or during (but don’t let the good soup boil over!)
The long version:
I’d be foolish to elaborate on the intricacies of this date.
Why?
Because I’ve already written the probably most comprehensive article in the whole internet about it:
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Date idea #8: Romantic picnic in the park
Greasy Hollywood romance, I know.
But also exactly what women love.
And let’s be honest: Even a full-bearded, testosterone-charged warhorse Viking enjoys romance every now and then.
So, throw some snacks and a bottle of wine in your backpack and you’re as ready as Spongebob.
By the way, lying together on a blanket is a promising opportunity to get closer to each other.
For example, sit behind her and give her a massage.
This way you can work towards a kiss in a calm and relaxed way. (More on this later!)
Date idea #9: Un, dos, tres…
… un pasito pa’lante María.
Already got an earworm?
Well, then you might as well take her by the hand and lead her to dance school.
There you’ve – because you’re a clever boy – already arranged a trial training so that you can swing your hips.
I can especially recommend salsa or bachata, as one moves very seductively and often leave the dance salon with a semi-hard boner…
Have fun, amigo.
Date idea #10: Karaoke
This is the most effective way to demonstrate that you don’t take yourself and life too seriously.
Even if you can’t sing a song and go down gloriously, you’ll impress her extremely with your self-irony.
Take the lead, choose a song of which you’ve some knowledge of the lyrics, and get yourself entered in the list.
Third date rules to not ruin your dates
Tip #3: Open your ears!
If she told you on the first two dates that she’s studying dramatics, you’re digging your own grave if you shamelessly ask on the third date:
What she tells you is important.
At least for her.
Ask her about the things that matter to her.
And then store her answers in your brain. If nothing more fits in, then simply delete the information about what sun protection factor your sun cream has or something else useless.
If you don’t care what she has to say…
…then now is the time to end this thing between you.
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Tip #4: Stay relaxed!
You aren’t her boyfriend.
Not yet.
So, it would be a huge mistake for you to do any of those things now:
- Call her daily
- Already introduce her as your girlfriend
- Say “I love you”.
- Send her a tsunami of messages
The other extreme is not the solution either: If you completely ignore her in the time between dates because you want to play Mr. Coolman, she’ll think you aren’t interested enough.
Most men sexualize too slowly and fall in love too quickly.
Tip #5: Give your calls a boost towards depth
On the first two dates it’s no problem if your conversations are superficial but still playful.
You teased her for being from Manhattan and left-handed. Perfect.
But if you don’t send her down on the third date, whatever this is between you won’t last very much longer.
It’s now time to dive into the depths of your personality and reveal what’s really important to you in your life.
When she realizes that you’ve no depth, she won’t want to continue seeing you.
Not convinced?
This study shows that deep conversations make people happier.
…and what could be better than a happy woman?
So, pimp your third date conversation with this tip!
Tip #6: Don’t cry!
Do you also know those people who put everything in a negative light and suck away your good mood like the creepy vacuum cleaner of the Teletubbies?
Very few people like it when you talk about how hard your life is all the time.
I may have talked about deep conversations earlier, but this isn’t a license for you to put yourself down as a person and share your darkest and most painful experiences with her.
It doesn’t matter if you were bullied at school.
Or what kind of psychopathic chica ruined your life.
She’s your date, not your psychotherapist.
Yes, jump into the hole of the deep, but make sure you jump into the positive hole.
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Tip #7: Show that you’ve sexuality
It’s the third date and you haven’t kissed her yet?
You should avoid that – at all costs.
You’re taking a big enough risk that…
- She’s shipping you off to the friendzone.
- She thinks you’re a wimp
- You’ll go home disappointed and alone (!)
Of course, I can’t recommend being too pushy and creepy when it comes to kissing.
But hello?! She wants to meet with you for the THIRD time. How many more signs do you need?
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Let’s get one thing straight:
Women love sex as much as we men do – if not more.
However, they don’t show their sexual side to everyone, because not everyone deserves it.
Good question, homie.
By going forward as a positive role model and showing your sexual side FIRST.
If you don’t dare to do that, she won’t dare either. It’s as simple as that.
And then you can even go to dates 4,5,6 and 7, and the party still won’t start.
I like the way you think.
My answer: Increase your touches systematically.
If you’ve been sitting across from each other stiff for the first two dates…
…then date #3 is your ultimate chance to break that pattern.
If you never touch her, how the hell is a woman supposed to know that you want to kiss her/ make love to her?
Women love to feel wanted. And that is exactly the feeling you want to trigger in her through shameless touching.
It shouldn’t be a secret that you find her fu*k!ng hot.
Of course, we want to make this clear to the women in the most exciting way and we succeed in doing so by slowly becoming more and more intimate touches.
We’ll start with the smallest and safest touch:
A touch with the back of your hand.
Here I demonstrate the first touch together with one of my girlfriends
This way, you can even touch more intimate places like her belly or hips without looking like a grabbing pervert.
If she responds positively, you can go one step further.
Pro tip:
Put her hair behind her ear.
She seems to like it?
Then you know that you can go to the next step and touch her even more intimately.
Green lights just light the way for you to kiss.
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In the next step, you’ll bring down every attempt she makes to remain composed…
Because now you kiss her on the neck while you slowly put your hand under her blouse.
For most women this is a massive turn-on.
The most important thing is that you do it in a confident and calm way.
Also, make sure that the rest of the café – or wherever you are – doesn’t hear about your spectacle.
Look at her with a look that says, “I’d want to do it with you right here, right now.”
It’s your responsibility to make her feel comfortable with your touch…
… to the point where she can barely pull herself together.
And then you let her hook into your arm and you go to a place where you no longer need to hold back.
Tip #8: What happens after the third date?
With the above tips for third dates, your rendezvous should become an absolute success.
The question is…
What next?
It’s entirely up to you whether you…
- Make her your girlfriend
- Start a friendship with benefits with her
- Stop dating her, because she’s not as cool as you thought she was going to be
Let’s assume that scenario #1 is the case.
You had one hell of a date and you think, “Wow. You and me are amazing together!”
I can understand that you’re very euphoric at the moment, but I still advise you to…
Take your time.
Calling her your girlfriend after the third date is way too fast.
Yeah, the third date sets the tone…
But that doesn’t mean that you should now nip the beautiful, light-hearted passion that exists between the two of you in the bud with unnecessary relationship pressure.
It’s always said: “The man must make the first step”, and when it comes to initial flirting, I agree.
But when it comes to a relationship, let HER determine the relationship status.
All you have to do is continue to seduce her, surprise her with great dates and casually make her understand that you enjoy her company and the intimacy between the two of you.
If you like her, show it by your actions and not by your words.
In this way, she can’t help but want to keep you close.
This is where we part ways…
Whoa, actually, not so fast.
You hit the jackpot.
Because you’re not done after the 3rd date.
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This way you’ll ensure that her love tank is constantly overflowing and that she continues to be immensely attracted to you.
Good luck!
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